I am married for last 10 yrs but still my wife nags about my past girl friends,friends annoys about my past?

ndm1958

I would suggest that it is or may be a form of jealousy. I think you need to both go to to a marriage counselor. If she is unwilling I would suggest that the two of you sit down together and ask her why after 10 years she can not let it go, as well discuss any other issues the two of you need to resolve. This needs to be done so there is no time frame or any interruptions. I know this is hard but you really need to address this soon. I would assume that over the last 10 years it is wearing on you and if it is not resolved it will destroy your marriage in time.

girlfriend

sounds like she is very insecure for some reason...ask her what's bugging her, Tell her you are married to her.

Yahoo! Princess

Put your foot down, tell her to get over it already. That's the life you had before you even knew her.

toetagme

Refuse to discuss it with her. All you should say is "I married you because I love you. If you had wanted a virgin you should not have married me." Don't respond to any nagging, questions, goading, pouting, etc. Tell her flat out it is no longer open to discussion. Then, leave the room when she starts in. She is killing your marriage with her immaturity. Perhaps that is what she wants to do???

Some of the women have this habit of nagging their husbands linking them to their past. Actually they have nothing to do with that as you had not even met this wife-to-be of yours. It is better you talk to her and tell her that it does not concern her and better do not open such subjects which are not good for both of you and the children. If still she does not stop, though not a good idea, you also try to find her past and start nagging her. Hope she will stop it immediately.

MissE

How does she nag you about it? Just wanting to know everything or comparing herself to them?
Chances are it is her insecurity. She possibly wants to know if they would possibly be a threat if they'd show up again. I know that is my issue with my husbands exes. But because I realise that I have verbalised it and he understands now and I stopped nagging
If it is rally getting in the way of your relationship then she needs to seek help

run_becky

what can you do?? She must really love you even though at times when she is nagging, it might not seem like it. Either accept the fact that she is jealous and love her or cause a stir and possibly wreck your marriage.

fallen angel

just tell her that you don't want to talk about it..

cutie pie

she sounds like a dumb.***...seriously...tell her that the past is the past...and if she doesn't stop then start nagging about her past boyfriends...

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