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jezbnme
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delete his accounts and divorce his butt you aren't doing it wrong he is |
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Xiomy
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What you're not getting right is SELF-RESPECT. You deserve better; get out! |
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♥LadyC♥
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Him!
It's not you, it's him.
You can't think for him or even read what he's thinking. But you can sit down and have a serious discussion with him about all this that he thinks is missing, that he has to go and seek out more women.
But seriously, its not you. Someone who would put themselves out there on dating sites when he is married obviously has a personal problem of their own.
I suggest heavy communication between you too. Make plans for a weekend of just opening up to each other. Pray on the matter. Even if you aren't religious, I find prayer to be very helpful and strengthening.
Hope all goes well. |
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femmenoire@sbcglobal.net
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That he is an idiot and has no respect for the vows the two of you took. You need to dismiss him TODAY! |
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Shy Girl S
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Read all his profiles...that should tell you want he wants.
Seriously though, this guy is a pig....talk to him about it. I'm guessing something is missing here. |
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BabeHeart
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You'll have to ask him that sweetie. We don't know him or anything about your relationship, so cannot say why he does anything.
However that should be totally unacceptable behavior for anyone who is supposed to be in a monogamous relationship so you need to address it with him asap and decide what you want to do from there. |
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naturalblondebbw_28
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Its not you, its him. He cant settle down, let him go and find yourself a nice guy that will love you and not the millions of women in cyber space. |
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Misty D
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There's not a thing wrong w/ you. He obviously needs something to boost his ego. Talk to him about it and see what he says, then go from there. LOL |
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CC Babydoll
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It is not anything that you can't get right...this is your husband's problem. If he is not cheating yet, he must be considering it. It is a form of being unfaithful.
Talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. Ask him why he is doing this. Listen to his answer...if you can work it out...cool, if not...then maybe it is time for you to find someone who loves you enough to be faithful to you and you alone.
be cool... |
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clubchaos1965
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you want to get it right?? divorce him, if he is married then why is he on any dating sites? |
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cbgrace71
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Confront him on it. Tell him you have seen that he is on these websites. He may ask you why you are looking at the sites yourself. Let him know that this behavior is unacceptable. If you give him an ultamatium, be prepared to follow through on it.
Some sites have a way that you can contact them and let them know if someone is married...so basically, report your own husband. |
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Unique
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Why would a married man be on dating websites unless he was looking to potentially date other people? I dont know why you think YOU can't get "it" right, but I do believe you should try to reconcile your relationship if you think this is possible b/c you made vows until death do us part. If you think the relationship is already dead, then it's time to let him go and move on. |
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Celestia X
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The fact that he is on all of the dating websites is a very strong indication that he is not committed to you, and he does not respect you. If you can accept this, then you might be able to stay married to him. If you cannot accept this, it means that you respect yourself and value yourself as a human being, and you know that you deserve better. This issue has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him, and you are not at fault in this situation! I sincerely hope that things improve for you. Value yourself; you mean something in this world! |
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Jaime
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the question is what cant he get right. hes married and looking for something else... seems like hes just someone who cant be satisfied so dont think or blame yourself. you should talk to him though because he has to respect your relationship and if he doesnt he has to go |
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Terri M
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What is it you can't get right? The phone number to a good divorce attorney.
If you have decided to be the doormat for this man for the rest of your life ignore my advice, otherwise get a lawyer and get the hell out. Who on earth wants to be in a relationship with a person who is clearly not interested in being in a relationship with them? Needy? Desperate? Get some counseling, get a lawyer and get the hell out. (P.S. make sure he pays.) |
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bumsteadowl
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Why are you assuming that YOU are at fault because HE is being a skunk and trolling the dating websites??? I don't care if you're the worst wife, ever, that violates his marriage vows, so start by letting him have his share of the blame!
That being said, you all may have some problems you can work out, but you'll probably need a little outside help. There's no shame in getting a hand from someone who can help you sort things out and build a better relationship. You could try a marriage counselor or your clergyperson, for instance.
I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope it works out well for you in the end... no matter how it works out. |
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weeder
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Of couse I don't know for sure, but perhaps he is on them for some kind of ego boost. Some men need to go on those sites just to see if they will get any response just to make them feel better about themselves.
However, if you catch him emailing or arranging meetings hammer him. |
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alisa03_us
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Have you talked to him about it? If he's looking for someone new then why are you hanging around? |
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loving U
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Lips,
Because you let him. stand up and take notice and expect more, then demand more. |
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*´`*♥♡Sarah☺ Beanz♡♥*´`*
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tell him if you arent what he wants to get out . |
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MomRN
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I believe you have asked this question with one error. You've asked, "what is it that I can't get .." Nope--it isn't what you're doing or not doing. It is his issue. Does he know that you are aware that he visits these sites? Ask him why. Is he comparing you to other women? Curb it now, because looking can sometimes turn into contacting and then other things. Also, he may be contacting single women and leading them to believe he is single. Speak with a counselor or religious leader you know. Protect yourself and other women. |
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Missy
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it ain't you that can't get it right. it's him. you could be halle freakin berry and he'd still be looking for another chick when he's bored with the same ol' stuff. men that cheat... whether it's physically or on a mental level... normally do it because that's the type of person they are... never satisfied with what they got. he's obviously insecure and needs attention from other women to feel more like a man. you need to check him. |
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Sue S
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He's the one not getting it right. He's a dog....nothing wrong with you. Put your foot down now and straighten him out or tell him to get out. People who join dating sites while married are not happy in their present relationships. He needs to step up and be a man and tell you what the problem is. If it's not fixable.....he needs to scram!! |
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CeeGee
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The only thing you're not getting right is the fact that this man does not consider himself married. Unless you can accept him "as is" lose him! |
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moii
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he probably just wants reassurance that he's still attractive to other women, and by putting himself on these dating websites he's going to get women speaking to him left right and centre.
maybe you're not paying him enough attention? |
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Ronin
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Sorry. It's time to get a lawyer |
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Shooting Star
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maybe he like the attention, of other woman, and being online allows him to have any character he allows! |
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not_ez_2bme
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your man is not suppose to have marry you...he should stay single if he continue to seek dates...to save your self for more heartaches...set this guy free...its not you,,,stop blaming yourself...if your man wants to live thre single lifestyle..let it be....let him go and be where he is happy...would you like to be..disrespected everytime?If your answer is no....live him and move on |
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intrexgames
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No,my dear ! Let me tell you the sad facts about your marriage is on the rock.It's a long way you're from home if you want to keep this a float.I don't know the back grounds, but one good advise a personal attitude change might worth a thousand words.However,if that what is in your partners' mind you are sinking the boat.Hard to keep a marriage going where there isn't any love between and one left in the cold.Good luck,try lots a hot tea,makes the nerves calm in the 'high seas'
of divorce. |
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