I am scared to get married?

RAllen1st

Only get married when you're really really sure. Sounds like cold feet, but only you know for sure. If something is telling you don't get married, perhaps it might be a message... don't get married.

Deedee â™¥

Its so normal!theres no such thing as a perfect man... get over it!

cawecm

Even though you have been with him for 5 years, you are 21. The two of you are going to develop into you "selves" over the next few years. You views about life are going to change as you work your way into the "real" world. I would give it some time. If you really love each other, what's the rush to get married?

ratul s

I think you should take more time to reach a decision. It is not a good idea to get divorcee. I guess its too much of mental pressure. It is more wise to spend more time with the person and try to know him better. You have already spent five years and you still feel that there could be a difference between both of you.
Talk more about different issues where you think you might have a conflict before you go for marriage. I guess conversation always help to resolve many things.

pamandkelly@sbcglobal.net

If you are afraid you will get divorced, or if you actually see you getting divorced, then you probably shouldn't get married. You should never get married if you're already thinking of divorce.

estefany v

you are young, so no rush, people have long engagements, and it could be fun, until you feel ready dont get married. And it makes you feel better i've been engaged two times, i married the last one, so seriously rather wait than marry the wrong guy.

King Midas

You obviously don't love him because if you did it wouldn't matter. You should do the right thing and break it off.

Duke

If you love the guy, you have to love everyhing about him. Follow your heart, only you can decide what is right and what is wrong.

devil_adc

you wait for 2 or 3 more years...

patchesvz121

Your to young to get married, Iâ€™m 21 and there is no way in hell I would get married right now. Experience life now or you never will.

syd_col1

It means that you're still young and you have yet to enjoy the single life. I fyou're having second thoughts about him, then I can suggest yuo go to webdate dot com and try dating around.

mcmillae

Ask yourself if you can live w/ the things that drive you crazy & have him vs. not having to put up w/ those things & not having him. Then you'll know if you really love him & want to get married.

prats

u are right, wait awhile too young for this, let time tell you what is best, dont rush, only fools rush in

U2 Sucks

Don't get married.

Boom, there's your answer. It's quite simple. Don't do it. Or do a prolonged engagement if you insist on getting married.

commoncent

DON'T DO IT!!!!! you just walked into baskin robbins, tried one flavor and decided it was your favorite FOR LIFE... gotta try some of the other flavors... who knows, you may not even like icecream!

socalgrrrl05

totally normal! Hello you're only 21! Thats very risky to get married. I'd say just talk to him about it. Do you have a date set? I mean have you dated anyone else at all?

stepmomster22

First of all relax. There's nothing written any where that you have to get married at a specific time to a specific person. I personally view marriage the same, unfortunately it didn't agree with me. I was married, but my sweet Innocent husband soon turned into an overbearing, control freak. My advice, follow your heart and your head equally. Don't marry him just because you love him. While loving and being loved is great, sometimes it's just not enough.

Comrade Dimitri Dingleberry

Why would you put your relationship in the hands of somebody like me? Damn! What is wrong with the people on this website?

Man_With_No_Name

Your still a little young. Maybe you should wait another 5 and see how it goes from there?

countrychk

IT WILL BE FINE IF YOU LOVE HIM GO AHEAD AND TAKE THE PLUNGE IT WILL PROBALLY HELP IF YOU TALK TO HIM YOU KNOW HE MIGHT BE FEELING THE SAME WAY BUT ANY WAY I HOPE ALL GOES WELL
NIKKI

You should be it is a big responsibility, good luck with that.

harborgirl2006

Everyone is scared of marriage in some way or another. If you question yourself or him in anyway then wait awhile longer, what could it hurt, if your meant to be together then he will understand and wait as long as you need. He does some things that quirk you don't worry about it so much, your not going to love everything he does you'll just learn to deal with him for being himself.

sunshine25

good that you're in love and have been in a long relationship. many marriages last for a lifetime.

talk to your fiancee' about some of the things that he does that you don't like and maybe he'll change.

maybe both of you can council with your pastor.

good luck

kiss me

If you're scared, theres a reason, which you find out til its too late. Don't do it til you feel safe and secure in the decision.

johnsonjrod

You are very young, but if you are religious then pray. God has all the answers you need, not us.

prince charming

Just say the hardest word to him: " No"
If you're not ready or scared, you have every single right to say no. Just do it and get over it.

Never try to complicate thing...

janeroth7

Ask your heart, this is a serious move in your life VERY.
Would you feel alone if he walked out of your life, or maybe if he gave you an date...to make up your mind by... Life is about growing old, has great choiced.......YOUR CHOICE... with someone it is nice to share life with... the love of your life. JR /counselor older and wise....

marianlaughs

You are 21 and with him 5 years, too young, move on.

MsMath

Have you tried living together? That may help if you live together for awhile before getting married.

birdy

WAIT-DO NOT get married. You are WAYYYYYYY too young and if you have been with him for five years and feel hesitant, then listen to your gut! You need time to explore other people and the world before getting married to anyone. So, pay attention to the "scared" and don't do it. Give yourself more time.

Inquirer

Well, it's normal to be afraid. It's a big commitment thing. Also, I think you are too young to get married. You still have a lot of things to explore. You might want to wait a little more. It's true nowadays more and more married couples get divorce simple because things don't work out the way it should be. comes.

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