I am sitting her crying and he is happy?

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Welcome to the world of reality. :) See how many people responded here, they are all with you.

It's a transition phase, when things changes in life and comfort zone changes, lot of emotioal ups and downs.

64 people had responded before me, Do you have 64 old friends who can come to in minutes ? How many people are giving their hands to you. Same way in your new life now new people are waiting for you who are willing to help you be with you, love you and respct your love.

Life doesn't ends here , and this is not worth dying for ?
6 yrs. ? imagine there are people who have broken hearts after 20-30-50 yrs of marriage. there was another couple the guy is 87 female is 80 the guy is giving divorce becuase he can't aford her.

:) Every time a thought comes stop your thought there and think
of these 64 people what they told you.

Sherri F

It is going to take awhile, I am sorry. Dont drive by the house or call him or anything that will hurt you more!! You were together awhile so give it time...I am out of a 6 year relationship and it has been 6 months and it gets better all the time..Life goes on, just focus on you and getting yourself together.Time is the greatest healer..

LadyAuthor

he's not worth it honey! pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on with your life. forget him.

You ask, I answer

just be happy he's gone. you wasted 6.5 years on him. it'll be tough for a while, but i think that after all that time, he wasn't going to commit anyway.

notyou311

It could be worse. You could have married the SOB and had kids. You lost a cheater and he will cheat on the new GF, too. You were saved from having a miserable life. Someday you will understand that and be relieved.

Airzy

To be totally honoest with you, The pain probably wont go away.
Not that it wont get better. It will! Just time and more time can heal it. But the best thing you can do is not be the one in tears, I realize it's super hard. Maybe Impossible at this point. But dont let him think that he is winning. Go out there and show him that he lost out.

India

I went through this last year. I feel your pain. He didn't leave me for someone so I don't know if the reason for his leaving makes a difference in the pain. I do know that after about 5 months. I felt much better. It may have been sooner but he works where I work and when ever I run into him, I find myself thinking about it all over again. Each time it's easier, though.
Now I'm at the point that when I do think about him, I also think of all his faults, and boy did he have a lot of them. Believe me you'll feel better, don't worry.
Mine was 4 1/2 years

cobrasnake

Move on.You do not deserve a bad man like that.

dan m

It's going to take a long time. As hard as it is, you must get him out of your head. Dont drive by his house anymore. That only makes it worse.

sunshine

move on with your life. i know it is hard i am there right now. however dont let him try to come back to you. also what you are feeling is natural just let yourself go through and if you need to cry dont be ashamed we have all been there once or twice.

Me777

It will never stop hurting if you keep sneaking up and watching what he is doing . Stop going around to places you know he may be there . Then as the days pass it will be easier on you . Love is a ***** and it takes time to heal . Good Luck and Best Wishes to you and your heart !!!!

Shopaholic Chick

your allowed to cry and be sad - mourn for him as if he was dead - he is obviously NOT the person you loved - the person you loved was honest and trustworthy and did not run around with co workers - but this new person is not the man you loved he is a different person - mourn him as if he was dead - write a long letter to him telling him how you feel - then burn it - in a bbq grill if you have one - or in another safe manner - and STOP DRIVING BY HIS HOUSE - youc ant torcher yourself like this - he is obviously not the person you thought he was

Candie137

wow i am sorry that is a long time to be together and it just to end like that. I know it is hard to try and move on after all that time. I would need counseling have u ever thought about that?

SweetElf

First off, don't drive by his house again! You know what that scab is up to, you certainly don't need to rub salt in your own wound.

Secondly, you let yourself feel the pain sister. You let yourself mourn for the relationship. It's a process you go through emotionally and it hurts and it's horrible and it seems neverending, but you will get through it. And you'll come out of this a stronger, smarter, healthier person.

Please don't drive by that dogturd's house again. Please.

Linda1314

im sorry about what happened to u, i know it's gotta be hard.. after all, it's been 6 1/2 years already. i wont say that i know exactly how bad u feel cuz i would be lying, but i bet it's gotta hurt. i would like to help, but im affraid i can't do anything, sorry.

all i can say is, that i wish u the best, and im pretty sure u'll find the right man, the man that won't leave ur side and will love u just the way u r.

i know is hard, but.. try forgetting him. he's not worth ur tears after what he did to u. the one guy that will deserve ur tears, will never let u drop, not even, one tear for him, cuz he will treasure u, and he will feel hurt if he let u cry. soo.. cheers, u r one step closer to find the right man. be happy because it happened, because it's over.

keithleyjustin

if he is living with his gf already,he is more than likey a mooch and ya dont need him anyway.. look around maybe go out with a guy u have been over looking...

Michelle

think that if he can't see what a wonderful person you are then he's not worth it.

It probably doesn't seem like it to you but if you've been together this long and he cheats on you, he's not worth your tears, he'll regret it someday and when he does it'll be too late.

There are plenty of fish in the sea and I'm sure that there's someone out there who will be more than happy to treat you like a queen, and stay with you forever, but you'll never find that person unless you get up, and start moving foward.

rayhab

well stop driving by his house. be happy it was only 6 1/2 years. remember all the good things about yourself. call up a girl friend and go out collect phone # of guys don't pick any one up just see how many Phone # you can get it is a real ego boost

drslowpoke

Firstly, if you weren't crying, then there would be something wrong with you.

It takes a while to get over this kid of thing. He probably had her in his sights for a while. Since it isn't going to happen between you two, it's time to look beyond it. The pain will go away, slowly, but quite quickly if it is replaced with the joy of a good relationship.

The relationship doesn't have to be with a new boyfriend. It could be with God, or a volunteer group, or something which gives you more purpose in life and lets you grow on your own.

The last thing you want to do is just obsess over it for years and years. As long as you do, he is controlling your life, even if he is out of it.

Wish the two lovebirds luck and happiness. Give him permission to leave. Then move on.

twilight

I'm sorry you're hurting. Six months ago I felt like DYING over a break up. Like you, there was betrayal, in a different way- but it was devastating!! Slowly but surely it's getting better and I am starting to enjoy life again.

I know it doesn't help now, but it will get better. He's not much of a catch if he could do this to you. I mean, he is living with her after being broke up from you for only two months? Give it some time and you will eventually see him for the ****** he is. You're stronger than you think.

laurin

wow. sweetie, its okay to cry. its goning to take a lot of time to get throught this. i know its hard. but in time you are going to find that one guy that makes you feel like a million bucks and he will never hurt you and never leave you and breaking up with this guys was just one step closer to meeting that special person. you will make it throught this as long as you have great friends and supporting family. you are gonna be okay. i hope you feel better soon!

luckystar

im so sorry for what you are going throught., it hard to let
go of someone that you have loved for some time.but as
time goes on the heart will heal, but dont let him or any
take your sprite from you, know it seem so dark right now
but the sun will shine for you in time. as for him he not
worth any more tears, you know what they say what goes
round will come back around. and trust me when it does
he will get his trust me. god bless and keep you my angel.
you hang in there.

bin there dun that

I am so sorry you have to feel this kind of pain. I know it is an awful pain. You gotta cry because of your grief ... and it is grief. You have lost the love of your life, and he is ok with it. Do you have time to become involved in something you enjoy doing, maybe even a little volunteering? Find something to fill in time while you get your feet back on the ground. Something different than you normally do every day, and something that will help someone else out. Try to find something fun to volunteer for ... and you will find fun people there, who will cheer you up without even knowing you are sad. It will take time for the intense pain to stop, but, unbelievabley it will!!

medicine_man_rn

I know what your going through and there really is no easy way, It takes time to heal from it, don't turn to alcohol for the answer it is not there.

just give it time it took me a few months to get back in perspective and stop the drive bye's.

time is the only thing i found that helped.

rwalke01

I am sorry to hear this, but it could be worse. You could be stuck raising his six children. Like everyone says you'll just have to mark it up as a learning experience. Sarcasm, on my part cause I think that saying is B.S. Life goes on. Maybe it was the best thing that ever happened to you, only time will tell. ;-)

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