I am so enamoured by a girl at work. Do I tell my wife?

3am

Well, (and don't flame me for this) some women are into this type of thing - most aren't. BUT - if this woman is your wife, you should know this by now. So I can only assume that since you are asking here, you wouldn't be comfortable telling your wife. Just know, that attraction is normal, monogamy is great, but it isn't always human instinct - don't feel guilty, you are doing nothing wrong. You cant help who you are attracted to and talking about this with your wife may cause permanent trust issues. Just think long and hard about this and go with your gut, but I say keep quiet.

Miss Murder

dude KEEP TO UR WIFE

Cheryl J

No
why dont you go buy your wife some roses take her to a movie take her out dancing tell her she is beautiful
try romancing your wife she loves you already :)

lily

Yes, so she can step it up a notch and keep you better entertained. She has the right to know if your attention is elsewhere.

I love horses

It may be hard, but choose between this girl and your wife. If you choose your wife... don't tell her. If you choose this girl, tell your wife and seek help from a therapist.

The Ultimate Answer Guaranteed

Assuming that you don't use such a provocative word as enamored, then by all means proceed.

Just_gone

If you want misery.

KellyKapowski

i think the best relationships are when a couple can be open about other people they are attracted to, yet realize that they can trust and depend on eachother not to cheat. i wouldn't tell her you are enamoured by another girl...it will make her feel inadequate and unloved. and if it's a woman you see everyday, don't even mention it! she will constantly be worried that you are flirting with another woman at work!

SpartanWarFighter

Yes tell her.Don't keep things away from your wife or you will lose trust and without trust.....

MISSKINKY

is that like a retorical question? ofcourse you have to tell her!

dynamite_boy619

Not if you want her to stick around...

sure, that would be smart

cnn360coffeebubbles

If u want to be honest with her and don't want any trouble ?
I think its best to tell the truth always even if the truth isn't exactly what people want to hear.

Tell your wife go ahead..you may be pleasantly surprised at the reaction she will give you..

She may be jealous and mad..or she may just laugh in your face ...and react like, oh some young little thing has got the hots for some old man like you ? HAHAHAHA

You don't know until you ask to find out. :)

******

Go ahead. I'm sure she will understand..

Linda D

If you truly love your wife - then take a cold shower and forget about the young girl at work. Perhaps you should think about a job transfer....................

Yes, because it feels like your cheating on her. She may ask for a divorce though. You should tell her and go see a marriage counselor to confront your problems with your wife. If you love this girl more than your own wife, than you should go see a psychologist.

Torrejon

It would really hurt my feelings if my husband told me that. However, I would really appreciate it if he told me that he wanted/needed more attention from me.

Do I know you? ya right LoL

only if you want a divorce...and btw as long as you dont "do anything with her" your not in the wrong a lot of married ppl flirt even if they dont admit it on here...they know its true

jenny h

of course. tell her how much u love her and say u are sorry and kiss her and tell her it will never happen again.

going2md

are you acting on your feelings if not don't tell your wife and if you are acting on your feelings STOP

missyofallainhouse

Not unless you want a divorce.
Seriously, though, I think it's ok for someone to think someone else is awesome, and they should tell their spouse. For example, if the reason you are so enamoured by the girl at work is because she always has on perfect hair and make-up, then perhaps your own wife could take some pointers from that.

roxylee11782

THINK WITH YOUR BRAIN, NOT WITH YOU ''LITTLE HEAD'' IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN, A FLING IS WORHTLESS, BUT TRUE LOVE IS EVERYTHING.

I HOPE YOU MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE.

zajucomom

Yes she deserves to know.

kriti

DEFINITELY YES

Sakura A

no! unless you want to get divorced

Theodore H

No, unless maybe your wife likes threesomes.

sally

hi ,
you must first ask your heart do u really loved her ? if your answer is yes u must be truly person with your wife this is at least you do it for her she whom loved u and married u so please be honest with yourself before going in the anther step .

Vintage Glamour

Only if you think that this is going to lead somewhere that will get you into trouble. Otherwise, no. A little healthy flirtation is not going to do you any harm. It may even be good for your relationship,and helps you bring new ideas to you're relationship. It just depends on how you look at it.

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