I am so hurt and lonely...?

Tom T

He should never hit you...spank you maybe, for throwing a childish tantrum!

canucklehead1951

There can be no hitting, do you hear me? If he hits you even one time, that is your cue to get away. Get it?

Mon_10

You threw a tantrum and he said he could just hit you?
You both need to grow up and fast!..

joyceeleann

true colors come out in the heat of the moment...sounds like he is capable of hurting you...is that what you want

Anna Mae C

you know you should understand your hubby and...you both hurt..but dont let him hurt you because if he really loves you he will not do it...its better to talk slowly than to shout....yeah dont make the temper eat you...

reya m

in a marriage,there is ups and downs,it is but usual that you have a misunderstanding or fight over a silly matter....it is ok if you are showing tantrums....but when your hubby told you that you are shameless,it really hurts down to your heart as if thousand of needles was stuck on it.....and if your hubby said that he wont care if he hits you......well,its not good.......he will hit you truelly....if you wont stop from acting like a child.......hes still the man who fell in love with you and the man who married you but i think hes just that mad to say bad thing on you......so the next time,you have fight again,,,,you know what to do..........stop acting like a child......

Michael T

And what is your question?

we all, under pressure, act or say wrong stuff. 99% of the time we don't mean it. let both of you calm down and be sure that you both still love each other. this happen to all of us. take him out to dinner or a cafe and have a make out chat that will lead you to a better make out ;)

want-my-advice

Girl you need to get a grip. He is wrong for saying that to you. You both need to sit and rethink why you 2 were married. write down the things that you don't like and begin to work on those items. and I want to say to you. don't sit around and let anyone say and do mean things to you. youare worth MORE than that!!!!!!

Nikki

Well he shouldnt say it would be alright to hit you and you shouldnt throw tantrums. Neither of you we acting much like adults. When there is a bump in the road you need to talk about it, come to and understanding (even if it's to agree to disagree), and let it go. Otherwise that little bump will become a mountain festering inside of you. If you really want to make your marriage last and worth wild then you need to be able to sit down and talk about it. Like this situation for example sit down and say Im not trying to attack you I just want to let you know that My feelings were hurt when you said it would be okay to hit me. Once you talk about it and he tells you how he feels about the situation, then you will more than likely have no emotion over the whole ordeal because its over. You know how he feels and he knows how you feel and all without the tantrums. It will be easy on the both of you. You might even have a stronger bond with one another.

kathyw

Tell him that there is a name for what you do. It's called 'throwing a tantrum' and so far, it is childish and that is all. There's a name for what he threatened and it's called 'assault and battery'. Tell him that. And tell him that so far, it is against the law.

Get a grip and grow up. You are a married woman. Tantrums are for babies. Sounds to me like you act like you need to be treated that way.

Gentleman

At times you say things that you do regret and I suggest that the both of you take time out for awhile just to cool things down and look at the part you have played in this fight . Don't look at his part and look at your own wrongs . Please don't point your finger at him . You need to apologize to him for your part and I am sure he will forgive you and you need to forgive him as well .

raisedbycoyotes

Better find a way to take the floor and explain he needs to listen to you. Explain how concerned and hurt you were and you will not stand for ever being hit. It's always a silly matter, isn't it?? It brings out our worst traits!

shuggabhugga05

Hi....Unfortunately we all do silly and stupid things. Sometimes we say things that hurt another or show a side of our personality that we wish we hadn't. But time heals all wounds believe it or not. Sometimes married couples will fight or argue over issues that seem 'stupid' and later laugh about it when they come to their senses. Ok...you are hurt..maybe he is too. But in a different sense than you are. If you had started the argument, then tell him 'you're sorry' and you didn't mean to show an immature temper tantrum. I imagine he'll apologize as well and then everything will turn out for the better. Take care and God Bless!

pickatu30

i know wat u mean i just wander were the husband i married to went because hes not the same guy either. my husband mocks m e win he makes me cry and calls me names and wont have anything to do with me he says i gripe to much that's why he wont. I have this feeling win this all starts there tired of us and the relationship and they just want out that's how i have been taking it. mine says if it wasn't for the kids he wouldn't be here which that's so unfair to us like he hasn't done anything and there blaming us but its actually them because there the problem if they didn't treat us like they do we wouldn't have to do the things we do to get there attention if they would just give it to us u know wat i mean.

bujji

fight in family life for simple matters increase between both of you don't wary com premised to him

Wolfpak

Grow up !!

343 Remember

Let me get this straight:
1. You had a fight with your husband.
2. You threw a tantrum.
3. He said that you were shameless.
4. Then further went on to say that he would be ok hitting you.

I do not advocate physical abuse; however what would make you think that a tantrum would be a mature way of settling a disagreement? I am a female, so before anyone gets uppity. Girls, ladies - women, please stop trying to get your way by acting 5. Yes, I believe men can be really frustrating; however a tantrum is not a solution. The laws of domestic violence have gone way too far.. I've seen women on several occasions taunt men ... and then when even a an arm is grabbed and a mark is made.. that man goes to jail or is charged with Domestic Abuse. I am a strong advocate for no physical contact; however women have the power and many times it is abused. Most of the women that are truly victims of domestic violence do not receive the benefit of the laws. The police are usually at calls where an immature woman that did not get her way throws a tantrum.. Grow up. If you are sad.. be sad.

If you want the man you fell in love with to be that man perhaps you should be the woman that he fell in love with, rather than a child.

I wish you well.

Let's make sure that when we are made aware of a true domestic abuse situation we do all that we can to protect the victim.

catlovesme

Talk to a third party for some help. Counselor, pastor, or church leader.

Gina

He shouldn't have said that you were shameless and that he didn't care if he hit you. Thats wrong, and thats verbal abuse. Don't take it. If he's going to treat you like that, you need to get away from him. Saying he's going to hit you could lead to him ACTUALLY doing it. But then again, maybe he was just super mad. Talk to him about how you feel on this, and if he doesn't care or show any remorse or apologize, then leave him. Everyone woman deserves better than that.

johnmonroe

Can you still talk it over with him? Is it the first time that he said that kind of hurting words? Maybe he is also hurt with the way you acted. Try to think over the situation and why he reacted that way and if you can still kiss and make up as long as he doesnt lay his hand on you try to make things work out.
But as I say, AS LONG AS HE DOESNT HURT YOU PHYSICALLY AND HE TRULY FEELS SORRY FOR SAYING THAT, you can try to forgive and forget. But you have to tell him that you are hurt by what he said and tell him that he never say that again.

Beachy Blonde

I'm so sorry to hear this, but I know you will get through it, you seem strong! Just relax, breathe, and listen to your favorite tunes. Just let it out, then relax. He'll come around. :]

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feysunny

You are such a baby.

Arguments over silly matters are very common in marriages. What he said is definitely unacceptable cuz what he said this time will become an act next time.

You have to decide if you want to go for marriage counselling or just simply tell him that you are sorry for what you did and he should also apologise and move on OR then the unthinkable is the obvious answer anyways.

Good Luck.

Dreamy S

if you was fighting over something silly and you was acting like a child by throwing a tantrum then you spouse reacted to your childishness by threatening you the way he would a child. you should let him know you regret your actions and try to resolve things in a mature fashion

Carl

In marriage there should never be a reason for hitting. He touches you one time leave immediately he no longer loves you. He is just using you and playing head games with you.

cris

every couple will fight at one time or another. The tantrum throwing will get you no where. His hitting you will get him in jail. If that is not something that ither of you want maybe it's time to give each other some space. Tantrums and hitting are things that children do to get their way or get attention. Sounds as if it is time for both of you to grow up.

So>>IntoTheBlue>>&gt

tantrums! how old are you? Hey he can't hit you if your'e not there

ajal

how old are you guys......this silly matter has totally blown up in your faces right,I just wonder what will happen if some BIG **** happens???You better control these fits,this is what toddlers do and he better NOT hit you,sort it out,COMMUNICATE please....I quess he didnt touch you but talk it over and out,you are in a marriage and thats hard work...for both of you. AGAIN You STOP acting like a little girl and he better STOPS acting like a macho and you go back being husband and wife....

cherokee squaw

just don't let him hit you......... don't have tantrums... your a grown lady !!! talk it out !!!maybe get out of the house , go to a park, be where your at least visible to others, but where they can't actually hear your conversation.....best wishes....

WORKING OLDER SMARTER BLONDE

i am sure he was also very hurt by the shameless way you acted and he responded improperly. as you both did. give it up and get over it.

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