I caught my husband kissing my best friend what do I do?

green3ch

Do not go to kissing on her husband. That is definitely the wrong thing to do. Confront him with this behavior privately. If he denies it you then have another problem, that of honesty in your relationship. Try to work through it if he is willing to talk about it and both of you get some counseling.

Pretty Princess

Being drunk isnt an excuse...so I would talk to both of them and maybe not hang out with them at the same time...but if he can kiss your best friend while hes drunk then imagine what hed do with a complete stranger when hes drunk

Maybe he shouldnt drink?

*Yo Soy Boricua*

kick his ***

HAPA CHIC

As for your friend keep her at a distance and your new husband stay very suspicious of him ...Honestly the person who said run while you have a chance is not too wrong ...it may be an indication of things to come from both of them

navigate33

Two wrongs dont make a right. Ask both of them what happened there and remind him that you will not accept this behavior drunk or not. Ask your friend what would make her so comfortable to do that and keep an eye out for suspicious behavior. They crossed the line there and it needs to be addressed. The worst thing you could do is sweep it under the rug

pinniethewooh

I'm not sure what I would do, but I would definitely DUMP one of them. Drinking should be in moderation and it's no excuse for that kind of behavior. I would be furious at both of them. How will you ever get that picture of them out of your mind? How will you ever trust either of them? Definitely dump one of them.

working mom

OH NO NO DID YOU LET THEM KNOW THAT YOUI SAW AND HOW YOU FELT AND DID YOU TELL THEM AS YOU CAUGHT THEM CAUSE IF NOT YOUR IN A JAMMER AND YOU HAVE TIO LET THEM KNOW CAUSE WHO KNOWS THEY PROBRALLYWILL DO MORE INTENSE THINGS AND THAT WILL LEAD TO THE BIG D AND TWO WRONGS DONT MAKE A RIGHT AND DOSE HER MAN KNOW OR HAVE YOU KEPT THAT FROM HIM EVERYBODY NEEDS TO KNOW WHAT YOU KNOW WHO INVOLVED

Lizzy

Well first of all drinking is not an excuse. There must have been some feeling there before to lead to the kiss. I think you should put a red flag up and do not kiss her husband. What would that solve? I would talk to both of them and express your feelings and let them know that kind of behavior is not tolerate in your marriage.

banananose_89117

Drunk is not an excuse!!! I would no longer consider her your best friend either.

But retaliation, getting even, is not the solution to the problem. It is only expanding the problem.

And what kind of kiss was it? Seems you and your hubby need to have a long, quiet talk when both of you are calm and not under the influence.

Good luck. Just remember a marriage is like a job and requires constant work. People do make mistakes but can you forget and forgive.

Kick the bit**es a**. She is now your official ex-girlfriend. Then go home and give your husband a heart to heart talk about never attempting to do anything like that to you again or there will be serious reprecussions. Don't let them sweep this under the rug and blame it on the alcohol. Obviously there is more there that meets the eye.

scrapqueen

I would run while you have a chance

*queenfairy1*Antioch California

You say goodbye to both and be glad you caught them. No good husband or good friend would do this. No matter how drunk. That is just an excuse and a poor one at that. If you let this slide you are in a world of hurt and it will be your own fault for sticking around waiting for it to happen.

Jeni

I don't care how drunk you were your friend knows her boundries and should of never have done that nore should of your husband. You need to speak to both of them about this at separate times and tell them that it is not allowed and you will not tolerate that and if it happens again that they can have one another and you can find someone that can treat you the way your suppose to be treated. Do not get even or forget it, Even your just telling them it's o.k. let them know how angry you are!!

You were DRUNK, and didn't take that opportunity to sock them.
I don't know what to tell you, you missed your chance to use the drunk defense.

The Emperor of Ecstasy

Drunk could be the reason, but I would most assuredly let him know I wouldnt tolerate this again, drunk or not.....good luck

Mr. Smooth

Did he just give her a peck on the cheek, or did he shove his tongue done her throat? Also, why did your "best" friend let him kiss her? I think we need more details. Obviously, you were all drunk and let your inhibitions down, but I am married, have gotten drunk with my wife and her female friends and never made out with them. Hmmmm...I think you need to tell him that he should refrain from repeating this (unless you both decide to "open" your marriage).

I_caught_fire

okay... if you are married, you should know better than to try the whole "get even" thing, that was high school... think!

You need to dicuss it with the four of you together. be open and ADULTS about it. Something small as this should not come between a marriage, but you obviously need to establish some rules and know that it meant nothing. You all need to be aware of what is and is not okay but if something of this matter happens again, it will be a bigger issue.

Marriage is about forgiving and working through things, remember what is important in YOUR marriage and best of luck to you...

minion

Why would you even consider doing the same. Do not lower yourself. Talk with your husband first and then your best friend.
I honestly feel this would pretty much end the best friend relationship, no matter what she says or he says. It is best just not to be together with them again. I wouldn't say don't trust your husband but be alert for any signs of infidelity.
in all honesty it was probably just a kiss, but why even let the temptation ever come again.
I would feel sick to my stomach, but you must discuss it and go on. i doubt you will ever forget it.

sweetnorma66

talk to both of them at the same time, and let them know you aren't happy about it.

Number Cruncher

Being drunk is no excuse for them kissing! I am a believer in that if a person cheats on you once, they are more than capable of doing it again. I know it is a terrible situation but I would not have anything to do with any of them.

ksgirl

If I saw my best friend and my husband kissing, drunk or not, I would tell my best friend how much she hurt me and stay away from her. Then I would keep a very close eye on my husband until I could trust him again. But, I know my best friend and she would NEVER do that to me, nor would my husband. You've got a problem, better do something about it now. And the revenge thing with her husband??? Don't do it. Also, it's not something that should be forgotten. Find new friends.

rikki k

YOU BREAK UP WITH JIM AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE YOU DONT DESERVE A MAN LIKE HIM

Ellie

NO don't scoop that low.Just forget about her and just deal with your husband. Work it out.

*Just Married*

Don't forget it. Confront him, if he seems very remorseful consider trying to work through it. If not, get an annullment. As for your friend, I wouldn't talk to her anymore. What kind of best friend kisses your husband right after ya'll were married? And what kind of man kisses his new wife's best friend?

spirit22poet

Well, don't get back at her because that won't make you any better than she is. Just focus on your husband. Ask him why would he do that if he loves you enough to marry you. Then ask you friend why would she do that to you. And if her husband doesn't know about the kiss, tell her to tell him or just do it yourself.It's a common mistake to get mad at the girl he's been cheating on you with. Hopefully you don't have to use any violence

You Don't Know Me!

Kick his @ss then kick your friends @ss...I don't care how drunk he is...he knows what he's doing. And so did your friend. What did he say when you caught him? How ever you want to deal with this, don't kiss her husband. Two wrongs never make a right...ever...I suggest a discussion and if he seems full of sh*t then take that as a sign of possible problems to come...Hope it works out for you.

Andrew

run, if it was just the alcohol you wouldnt have caught them they would have done it in front of you

blue violet

talk to both of them plus her husband too at the same time and tell them that you saw what they did and this really hurt you they did bad. and then let the conversation flow... just remember you are to find a good end here not bad - like revenge.

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