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lofolulu
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You are not married but you do have a child. I'm curious as to why the committment was never made. But on with my answer....
Document all his wrongdoings such as this.
Ditch the webcam. Get rid of messenger. Force him to give you all passwords to his online accounts. When he is not aware...delete all email accounts and emails you suspicious. "Block sender" for all those accounts. Be sure he doesn't have any girl's email address, messenger contact, or old emails- sent or received.
Get rid of his email and messenger accounts.
Get a stealth internet tracker. I don't know the details but there is either software you can install that he will never see or hardware thing you install on the back on the CPU. Go to CompUSA or someplace like that and ask the techies how to track. Then watch the sites he visits for a month. Let a whole month go before you say anything about his bad online visits. Then make a list of his month long history.
Ask him to go to counseling with you. Bring the history list with you to the counselor and confront him on it.
Sounds like he wants a cheap thrill. Somehow he has needs that are not met. Sit down and ask him what you can do to fulfill his desire. |
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Photographer
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He is NOT going to change, How can u deal with it if he is there? U need some alone time. You is not respecting you and he needs to know how bad it hurts. I would leave for an ENTIRE weekend and think things thru. You may find out that you made a mistake by choosing him. Be careful, this behavior might be leading to something much bigger |
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Cobra
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leave him, and find someone who will respect you and not play games with you. l think you deserve alot better. |
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Mike
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Getting back at him will not solve anything and could just do a bit more damage than any good. This is not something that should go tit for tat.
What you need to do is it him down and let him know how you feel. that you feel it is a form of cheating on you. Start off by stating the following " When you use your webcam and expose yourself to other women I feel " and then finish the sentence. I hope this helps |
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me2
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sorry hun but i think this is also considered cheating. he is showing his most private parts to another person who is not his wife. this time and last time it was on cam keep accepting it and it will lead to real life. it is disrespectful to your relationship. |
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Elizabeth L
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I think that would be the end of it for me |
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Mystress
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I used to catch my ex all the time doing that. And he would always swear not to. And in the end, I became so insecure and paranoid, that I yanked the internet connection off the wall, and destroyed the camera. And the best thing I did, was leave.
No matter who you are, if your man is finding something out there somewhere, then it's because he's not getting it at home. |
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bornetobegerman
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you got to leave him if hes done it twice, hes going to do it again. there is a better man out there for you |
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shughes2000_2000
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Leave him.......It is obvious he dosen't care about your feelings or the fact that he is hurting you!
Cheating is cheating there are no gray areas. |
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™Spaceman™
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shove the webcam up his aaaassss |
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lsawholder
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It seems to me that your husband could use some professional help. I was married to someone like that. Believe me when I tell you this is just the beggining. It does get worse. |
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St.Anger
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Leaving him just now is not the answer. These days when the going gets tough the tough split. Listen, you have a kid together and that kid needs both a mother and a father. My advise to you is try to find out why he's doing this. If you see he's not open to this drag his to couples theray. But before leaving him and breaking up your family give it all you got. When you've done everything to try and save your marriage then consider leaving him. But just don't leave without trying. Your responsiblity to you kid are greater than your or your husband. |
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osunumberonefan
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If he'd cheat on the cam then he'd cheat in real life. Sorry but you'd be better of without him |
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bluedanube69
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give him a choice.. he gets rid of the comp and all equipment. or he can leave the home.... simple if he did it once this may be the second time you catch him but he has been doing this for a while.. make a choice and stand by it...
best of luck.. |
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randella_24
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I'm not sure how I would handle this. I can only offer a piece of advice.
If he is getting his "fun" by cheating on web cam and chat; how long until this doesn't satisfy him anymore and he cheats for real.
Good Luck |
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lucy p
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Not a good sign. Be careful with him around your child. Cheating perioid is wrong. Open your eyes....weird people expose themselves. Online or in person is wrong. Sounds like a red flag to me. And it doesn't sound like he respected your feelings if he did it again. This is an addiction..he needs counseling and help. He won't stop...it is too much of a thrill or a "high" for him. Like a drug. |
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ekdikeo69
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I think he can still love you, but he doesn't seem too worried about hurting your feelings
I think you should do the same, and see if it doesn't stop his behavior.
Go to "ifriends.com" and set up an account.
Tell him you found a way to make some extra money |
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MarriedMan
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do not judge him to fast please.... I've been through that myself... it's almost an addiction... try to talk to him and find out what is missing between you two. Remember it's always a game of 2. Good luck |
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misydoll
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Next time he wants to make love tell him to do it with the cam. Yes, get back at him. |
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AK
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if he is doing that on webcam, whats to stop him from meeting up with whoever......its only a matter of time...
and it is no excuse that he does it because he is bored....if he is so bored, why not be with you instead of the internet...
you need to start snooping in his emails and see if he has been meeting up with these girls or guys...
and I would kick his a** out.... |
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someones fairy
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Well how do you know for sure it was for gals.It could have been for dudes nudes.
I would tell him if he wants to do that all the time then come on honey were going to make some money off of your ***. Get involved. |
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traveller
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dump him |
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allansc2005
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Try a little "reverse psychology",and you start doing the same thing |
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msqtech
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well he isnt married to you he probably doesnt think he is cheating. I think you need to get a relationship with someone who loves you and whom you can trust.
Good Luck and God Bless!! |
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free_angel
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Dump him, he's a pervert. |
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Sal
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You are worth it.!
Screw him....
He has no values, if he does not respect himself he won't respect you..and though he is not respecting you already...
What a shame! |
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annye
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I have a similar issue. I didn't really caught my husband doing it. I just found naked pictures of him on the computer that was taken without my knowledge through a webcam. I feel.. that since we're are married to each other, we should only show our private parts to each other and no one else because we belong to each other.
But perhaps, he thinks it's ok to show it to others. When I first saw the pictures, I felt disappointed because that's my husband (not bf or anyone). But it's his private part right? He can show to whoever he wants right? However, I don't feel right because how can you share something so private of yourself to someone else when you already belong to a woman.
Am I wrong to think that way? I wouldn't show my private parts to another man as long as I am with him. If I do that, wouldn't I be like a going astray?
I don't know why he does that. I would very much like to know. But I don't want to pick up a fight with him. I mean, he would feel violated that I saw those pictures because it wasn't in an obvious place. It's hidden. If he want to let me see it, he would have let me know about it.
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