I cheated my Husband. Should I tell him?

celtic_irish_man

Yes because a relationship is all about communication

ihatelilac

Being drunk is the lamest excuse. Tell him and what ever happens you deserve it.

missyj

If you are not honest about it, someone else will tell him eventually...so might as well be honest.

ndnqt1966

Better fess up now...before someone else does....Might want to lay off the booze.....it can't be an excuse every time you want to cheat on your husband.

i4munwritten

If your husband were to cheat on you, you would want him to tell you right? Then the same goes with this, you should tell your husband, because it will be worst if he found out that you cheated on him from someone else, it is bad enough that you have cheated on him, hearing it from someone else can make it worst, especially when they can add in additional information that wasn't true, and can hurt him even more. He will find out eventually, and it is better for him to know now, and you two can decide what you will do with your relationship, than for him to find out years from now and not be able to trust you anymore. If you would want to know if your husband cheated on you, you should tell him. If you are going to tell him, remember to include how sorry you are and what a big mistake you think it is that you have done such a thing. Remember to tell him how much you love him and how you would never do something like that again. Good luck and I hope you make the right decision.

Live_For_Today

Of course you should tell him, but also kiss your marriage goodbye. Hope your romp with your friend was worth it.

MNG

Honesty is the best policy. You've messed up big time. Hiding it from him is going to eat you up inside yet telling him isn't going to turn out so well either. I just hope that you have an understanding husband.

kim h

Yes you should tell him. There are not many men out there who will just let that go, he might leave or make you leave. If you don't tell him he will find out eventually and it will be a lot worse.

butterfly

You mine as well tell all! it will come out sooner or later! Get it out in the open and deal with the consequences!

400lbtwins

Wow, you couldn't even go to a party and keep your morals. You think that you can say "oh I had to much to drink I didn't know what I was doing". There is no excuse, you did it cause you planned it and you should tell him you were a lousy unfaithful wife. You deserve everything you got coming.

headblaster1

well is not good to tell him about that, but is good to be honest if you love him

crystal_of_ravenclaw

You really need to tell him about this. This will eat away at you making you feel guiltly and will most likely make things hit a bit rocky in your marriage anyways. He loves you and will probably sense something is wrong. You just need to sit him down very soon, and talk to him about it. Tell him it didn't mean anything and you were both drunk and that you love him and only him. You need to tell him soon because the longer you wait the worse it will be.

painterswife

There is a saying "What you don't know, won't hurt you". It is not fair to tell him that just to try and get over your own guilt. You need to ask God for forgiveness and forgive yourself, then make sure you are NEVER in the position to do that again. Also, make sure no-one else is going to tell him.

You are human and we all make mistakes. Please soul search and figure out WHY that happened. Once you do, fix the problem but I would not tell him if there is no way he is ever going to find out because it is going to drastically change and maybe END your relationship.

~Jess~

Will i would because you say-ed for good or bad and this is bad so may he will get you help.

GOOD LUCK!!!!

KingDupless

I'm not one to judge but this dosen't sound good at all, tell him cause if he finds out it'll be much worst. If he dosen't leave u he loved u, if he does the love was not strong enough, but do take blame in this cause it was ur cause that made or will make an effect.

luxbele

everyone will tell u to tell him blablablablabla but the truth is you regreted what u did and this is whats important rite now.i belive that u made a mistake ,you are not the first and not the last to do it,so my advice is keep it to yourself and don't do it again, you'll be hurting him and yourself .off course for a while you'll feel guitlty but later on it will be a experience for future mistakes... THATS MY ADVICE,NOW YOU KNOW HIM BETTER AND I CANT TELL U WHAT TO DO BUT THINK, "IS IT REALLY WORTH TELLING HIM EVERYTHING?"

Bert

Hi! you should tell him, if he cheated on you, would nt you want to know. A marriage is built on trust and honesty, tell him exactly how it happened. Please ask Jesus to forgive you of your sins, then invite Him to come into your heart, He will help you through this.....Jesus loves you

red

NEVER HIDE ANYTHING FROM YOUR SPOUSE! That is a divorce waiting to happen. Please tell him the truth. He'll respect you for telling him what happened. Yall might need marriage counciling

dalton

Humans are prone to temptation, accepting it to yourself its a mistake and hurts you a lot is enough for the One above to understand. Lying to save the precious relationship worth it. Just promise to yourself never do it again! The second time would mean and tell it's more than a mistake. Don't let it happen, stay away from the guy!

Bwk

No,It will only hurt him more, the damage is done.hopefully it was a one time mistake but I doubt it , I don't think you love him any way because if you did you wouldn't have cheated on him in the first place,either that or you don't know what the word love means,you might want to reevaluate what kind of person you are and move on with your life, overall I think your a rotten person and you should spare this guy any future pain.

vincepac601

just tell him

My Oh My, Why?

if you want to do the right thing, get divorced.

You don't deserve to be married or to be loved.

Once a Cheat, always a Cheat....

three6ty

Better if you tell him. If he finds out any other way could be bad. I'm talking Unsolved Mystery, he was never convicted because they couldn't find your body to prove you were dead kind of bad. If you tell him asap he might forgive you enough to just divorce you, rather than dearly depart you.

anoldmick

Keep your mouth shut if you value your marriage and don't be so stupid with the friggin' booze anymore.

Nancy M.

If I were to ever cheat on my husband I would have to keep it to myself forever. The reason is because he had already told me that if I were to ever cheat then he would walk out of my life forever and he would never be able to get over it. If you believe that your husband can forgive and be able to deal with it then tell him but if not then some things are better left unsaid. If it were me I would hide it forever and hopefully no one else knows about what happened.

Kyrstin R

Yes, tell him. It will be hard, and he will be upset, but it will be worse if you don't tell them. And your husband doesn't deserve to be lied to. Every second you wait will only hurt him more.
But don't listen to the people saying divorce him. You did make a big mistake, and I'm not going to tell you that its okay, because its not, but I will say this. Divorcing will solve nothing. It is a horrible experience. Try to work through it with him. He probably won't trust you for a long time, but prove to him that you can be trusted. It could take years, but if he really loves you, he will be there for you like a husband should be.

Purl

Never ever, ever tell him. Ever.
If you love him, do not destroy his ego like that. If you tell him, he will never trust you again and he will never stop thinking about it.
Just make the solemn promise to yourself (and him) that you will never do it again. And hope that he never finds out. (And make sure you didn't catch any STDs you can pass on to him.)

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