I confessed to my husband I cheated, his reaction was unexpected?

getmymackon

It was good of you to be honest but I think you just broke his heart.

Ross

Wow...are you serious?

YOU cheat on HIM...and accuse HIM of not loving YOU because he didnt beat the ever living snot out of you when you told him? You have some nerve.

Aubrey C

Yeah, you just broke his heart. Good job

T Tyme

Hmmm....you are so selfish! I'm praying for you and your husband. Maybe in his heart he knew you were cheating all along. You only confirmed it. Stop being so worried about his reaction and start worrying about saving your marriage!

lady_phoenix39

A man's reaction will be different from one man to the next. Some yell. Some throw things. Some cry. Some lock themselves in the bedroom.

You say he "doesn't really love me" because of his reaction.....and if you believe that, you're a fool. Or maybe you're just looking for an excuse to get out of the relationship?

"What gives" is that you are a cheater, who is trying to get of her marriage. If you REALLY wanted to save this, you should have gone into counseling to deal with WHY you cheated and to have someone who could make you accountable for your behavior without telling him.

WHY did you tell him??? It might have made you feel better....and it hurt him. That, on top of the fact that you're a cheater...

makes you pretty pathetic and selfish.

Discovery

I feel the reason you confess is to make him jealous and mad, not because you are honest and regret. You think your husband don't love you enough? Maybe. But I don't think that's the way to find out.

brocdh

He's gone to lick his wounds and make a decision. And apparently you don't love him.

tetlitea

May I ask you a question? What did yo expect to get out of hurting your husband? Was this news something he really needed to hear (ESPECIALLY if you never plan on doing it again) or were you just trying to make yourself feel better?

People react to being hurt in different ways. Does he normally get all yelly when he's upset? Also, why are you questioning his love for you? Look what you did to him, do you really love him? Was this some kind of test because it just backfired.

I think you need to see a marriage councellor. I hope it all works out for the best for both of you.

green_clovers66

maybe he expected this of you. He sounds like a man that is in complete control of himself

amberkiss83

um... you probably should have thought about if you loved him. I mean you told him you just kissed someone first so he had to deal with that and then you told him u actually slept with someone. What do you want him to do? You seem to care about yourself a whole lot what about what he is going through? I feel sorry for him, your selfish.

bo, kingpin at large

You already depressed him the night before, and then the second action turned him off completely. He locked himself in the room because he doesn't want to have anything to do with you.

Howdy Y'all

Someone who gets "crazy angry" has no control over themselves. He is probably angry, and incredibly hurt, and I'm sure still loves you, but watch your back, he may now be quietly plotting the end of the marriage now that he knows you can't be trusted.

Marianne M

what would you do if he had slep with another woman ? maybe he is thinking he needs to leave needs his space to get his life together

star

People respond to situations in their own way. His quietness and need to be alone is his own way of dealing with his pain. Although it wasn't the same way you would have reacted, I am sure he is just as hurt as you would have been if you found out he cheated on you.

el88gringo

I would react the same way, looking over my options while I convinced myself to leave my guns in the cabinet. :)

Sara Lee

Well, it could just be that he doesn't know exactly what to think. If I were him I would be confused too. It's not that he doesn't love you though. Just wait it out and see what happens.
Good Luck!

Tiger Lily

what kind of woman you are? are you in a conspiracy to end your marriage? If so, do it. I think all that you do to him is very degrading.

ella m

hmmm, you cheated and admitted it to your husband and you were not satisfied by the way he calmly reacted. you wanted him him to act violently to prove that he loves you? i'm not sure i get you. you some kind of masochist or just badly in need of attention? maybe you're right. maybe he doesn't love you anymore or maybe he's just the type who doesn't get crazy when he gets mad. now, i think you're more screwed up than your husband. serves you right.

lady_in_waiting

Silence speaks louder than words ... just wait ...

C J

No, his reaction was that of a man who has just discovered that his wife doesn't love him.

Cake

You're a piece of work...

Therapy, lady. You need it. Get some.

just me here

What exactly did you think he was going to do?
Get up and give you a kiss on the cheek?
Girl, wake up!
You have hurt this man and he deserves some
love..You my dear sister, need to get
on your knees and thank God that he didn't kill you!!!!!!

Rudi A

Your husband seems to have more control of his
life than you do. Did you cheat to see if he would
get angry or cheat for the fun of it. Either way now
he knows you are a cheater and if later he leaves
you then you will know why, and when you have
no one then it will not matter who gets mad or not.

Sal SR

I would be more scare seeing his reaction this way. Let a sleeping dog lie.... you never know what he is going to do next.

mac&cheese

When I found out my husband cheated I was so stuned that I could barely talk let alone scream. That was more than three months ago. I've yelled, cried and everything in between since then. Don't assume his reaction means he doesn't love you. He probably just can't wrap his mind around what has happened.

jude

he sounds like a man who is in control of his emotions, but maybe he is not reacting because he is trying to save his ego, by acting as if he just doesn't care. but u know what people can't control what others do, he loved u, but theres nothing he can do about what u did, as u have free will to do what u want. when my ex told me about her, i did not scream or get upset, because my heart was broken, and what could i do about it? people don't always show anger but deep inside they are. he is trying to keep his dignity as thats all he has left.

Colleen O

Obviously your husband isn't you. He has a lot to think about and options to decide. That's what gives.

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