I did not call my daughter on her birthday

LooLooM

that's horrible.. do you not care about your children ?

the coast with the most

That's horrible. You sound like my father. I don't speak to him anymore. I'm 28 and he is not even invited to my wedding. Keep it up and your daughter will hate you. Although not sure if that really matters to you.

Wow...stop blaming your ex for your terrible relationship with your daughter. Be a man and be the father she needs in her life. Yes you are wrong for not calling her on her birthday. She's 5, how do you think she felt that her father doesn't give a crap about her? Nice job dude. You may have a new wife and family, but that does not change the fact that she is your daughter and you still have a responsibility to her.

I'm gonna have to agree with the Violation Queen and say that this is fake...otherwise you should kill yourself, that way your daughter will know you didn't call her for good reason...

Opiner

yes, you should call your daughter on her birthday. It's not her fault you hate the mother, and she's likely to have daddy issues later in life if you don't have anything to do with her.

Just another poster!

Wow, what a POS you sound like. Replaced her with a "new family" huh! No matter what the mom did, the poor kid should NOT be made to suffer for it!

Hope you rot in hell scum bag!

Tim

Try to get more involved, she's your daughter...don;t blame this on your "volatile relationship" with her mother...you have a responsibility to the child, don;t shirk it...it's not too late.

Good luck

gala ria

that is very terrible.
you should definitely call more often. it's not your daughters fault you and her mom aren't adult enough to get along.
please stop making excuses and call her.

Cindy's logic

please dont take out your bad relationship with the mother on your kid. your only hurting you daughter when you do this. You need to focus on her and her needs not on how the mother is reacting.

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Well, think of it like this. Kids get most excited for mostly two or three things around the year. Their birthday, Christmas, summer.

The fact that you don't call her on her birthday, or see her, is pretty bad. It's not fair that she has to suffer because of your and her mother's lack of communication.

By the way, it doesn't matter if you pay child support. Your ex-wife may appreciate it, but in reality, the kid doesn't know what the hell that is.

jonseyg

Yes. I understand that you don't have a good relationship with your ex...but don't let that spill over to your relationship with you daughter...she'll grow up fast....you don't want to alienate her too...I'm speaking from experience...my father didn't keep in touch with me or my sisters while we were growing up...he's tried to make up for it now that we're older but to be honest...I don't care...he should have been there for me when I needed him...don't make the same mistake my dad did.

Hannie(:

I would recommend calling her. She needs to hear her biological father's voice... Don't worry about her mother. So what if she's 5? Still call her and let her know you care for her. Because by the looks of things, it doesn't seem like you do...

think about how your daughter might feel...it's bad enough that you don't see her... i would give her a call... whatever is going on with her mother is between you adults... don't make your kid's life harder... I can't stand my ex but he still sees our daughter once a month if not more

Susan P

Thats very bad!!! What did the child do??? Ur her father after all.. I dont think her ,others behaviour should stopping u from talking to ur own child.. Come on... And she is 5 now.. She must have really wanted to talk to U.. Thats bad sir!!!

Tom C

ya. way to be a bad parent. even without being on good terms with you ex wife, you should still make the effort to be with the child more. she is yours after all

girl

my question to you is, why don't you want to have a closer relationship with your daughter for your daugher, does she not deserve to have a an active father not just one who pays child support but one who is apart of her life even if you live in another country. There is email, phones, webcams, why aren't you visiting her and why and how are you able to live in another country from your own baby. As a mother this is hard for me to imagine. I would think your child's mother is upset cause she would like her daughter to have a father in her life specifically the one who helped bring her into the world. Why is is soo hard to love a child and show them and how hard is it for you to call her up and wish her happy birthday, I understand you and the mother dont' get along but this is for your childs sake. Life is too short and she is your daughter.

FEISTY ASIAN GIRL

thats horrble!!! imagine how this will affect her if you keep doing this!!!

DONT NEGLECT HER

Morris B

That's your kid.

Be ashamed of yourself.

Acknowledge the child in some way.

goodgirl7245

u should call her every chance u get my dad lives in a differ state but we text messege back and forth so maybe get her a cell in about a year or so insted of calling u can text. my dad forgot to call me on my b-day and x-mas i was crying it hurt so i have a cell and even though i cant hear his voice he sends me pics on my cell or write a letter.just try to be there as much as u can these r the best moments of her life let them last a life time

Equinox

yes, this is very bad. No matter what, when it comes down to it, to the very end of it, she is still, your daughter, she came from your body, she is pretty much a part of you ( and your body). Your genetics are in her, so, she is your daughter. With
that said, you should of called her, because shes a small child and that stuff hurts them, it makes them feel like you (the parent) dont care about them anymore. If you continue to not call her for special events in her life she will block you out completely, and it may affect her later on in life. When a child is growing, that is where they learn everything, this is the time in your childs life where everything you say, everything you do, and everything you dont say or do affects them drastically. The mother has a right to be angry at you because she expects you to be more responsible for your daughter since you are an adult now.

-never neglect to do things for your child, this is when they need you the most.

-work it out, and say your sorry, make it up to your daughter, as she still loves you ( she mustve cried for the mother to be so angry at you and sending you that email)

-try to be a little closer with your child, or at least just show them that your still there, becuase it counts when its coming from a parent =)

-hope that helped =)!

-ken

Not Always Sure

Honestly, I think it's horrible that you wouldn't call your daughter, no matter what's happened between you and her mother, there's a little girl involved. I think you should step up and be a REAL FATHER to her, it's not her fault that things didn't work out between you and her mother and it's not her fault things continue not to be good...Your daughter is going to grow up to resent you and why would you want to do that to an innocent child...

Bethy4

Um - yeah. Poor babygirl, just think, whatever it maybe that her Mother is telling her in the negative, you just proved. God Bless.

momrfg2003

Your child needs her dad and her mom has nothing to do with it. I had a long distance relationship with my father and could not depend on him. It has affected me to this day.

Time Bandit

Ah, that poor little girl. She needs to know that she is loved by her Father.

Um....you asked this very same question like last week or something. Your still a loser

Angel

Yes your behavior is not acceptable by no standards.. This child did not ask to have you for their father..
You helped make this child and there fore she is as much your responsibility as your ex-wife's.

And as for you having a new family and living in another state, does not mean that you should slack off on your parental responsibility.. this child from your first relationship needs a father just as much as your new children do.....

How can you look at yourself in the mirror every day knowing your actions towards this child is cruel..
Regardless of your relationship with your ex, this child needs a positive role model and you are her father and should step out of your selfishness to put your daughter first before your own feelings.

toofpaste

Well I would call or send a card at least, because she still is your daughter and although you're very distant it could have a huge impact on her later on. My parents divorced when I was 12 and they do NOT get along but my dad tried to call and remain close.

junglegurl

Yes that is bad! You sound like a horrible father and I feel bad for your little girl. She did not ask to be born, espically born fatherless. So she was born when you were already married, does that mean not only are you a s h i t t y father but a bad husband also.

Courtney(:

Yes thats bad!

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