I don't know how or if I should even tell my husband?

Sassy OLD Broad

DO NOT TELL YOUR HUSBAND unless you want a divorce, honey! What would be gained by telling the man? You think you're the only woman who got caught up in something like this? You're not. So forget it. If it ever comes to a life/death decision about your baby, then you'll have to fess up. I've worked in alot of hospitals and you can't imagine how many women have babies that could't possibly belong to their husbands due to blood typing. So, let it go. Keep a secret and have a good life! Godloveyou!

dsd

Tell him! He's probably going to react badly but can you blame him, having an affair never helps matters. Keeping it from him will eat you alive with guilt, not to mention he might eventually figure it out as this child when he/she gets older might show certain characteristics that belong to neither of you. You owe your child, your husband, your marriage honesty atleast.

Special Ethel

NOOOOOOO
You shouldn't have done that, but why hurt two people just to ease your conscience?

BellaDonna

what will it accomplish?
A) you will devestate him
B)you will alter how he feels about the baby
C)he may leave you
D)he will doubt the paternity of the other kids
E)after your temporary relief from "Confessing",you will be left with nothing.

Make it up to him by treating him like a king.NEVER cheat again.

alter_tygo

Keep it to yourself.

You made the mistake, you bear the burden.

Only if you are prepared to end your marriage should you tell him.

Admiral

how can u be sure that the child is not your husband's. get a DNA test and if the child isn't your husband's then you have to tell him. remember the child will eventually grow up and your husband will know.

Laquishacashaunette

The honest answer is yes. Of course in telling your husband you run a very very high risk of him telling you to get bent. If you're willing to chance losing him just to clear yourself of guilt then by all means.

If you want to keep up the facade of the happy marriage, etc etc, then learn to live with your guilt, and keep your mouth shut.

~*~*~B3@UTY_IZ_M@_N@M3~*~*~*

First of all does he get mad very quickly!And yes !Remember you said you would not have an affair with any other person and hes ya husband !why NOT!Tell him you loved him even though this mystery man had you pregnant1 and you have added that child into your family with him so he'd better treat the child like his own! And still think of him as a a son! Yall have to be trust worthy so yall have to balance yalls trust be faithful ! And tell him! ON THE OTHA HAND: If doesn't like it then da hell with him! you dont need a man dats not going to love the rest and leave one out he has to love them all! HATE IT OR LOVE IT!!! And your child needs to know also that the husband is not the father stays up the street! The street of your house!

malanina

do not say a word!!!!!

Dr. Feelgood

I don't know.....ask Jerry Springer!

seeitmiway32

Some things are best left unsaid.

You tell your husband at the risk of losing him!

I hope you learned a lesson from this. Keep the goodies at home.

little mama

Keep it to yourself. YOu are only wanting to lessen your own burden by getting this off your chest. It won't help your husband or your child in any way. Just make sure you remind yourself constantly that you almost lost your family and for nothing more than a roll in the hay.

Wondering If ?

wow tuff question to answer. tell you what, I wouldn't want to know but remember one thing what goes around comes around,
you better give your man the best loving he's ever had, you have done the worse possible thing to you,your family and him.you owe it to him to be the best wife,lover,friend he had for the rest of you natural life.

melanie b

u should really be open to your loved ones especially if u really do luv them so be open

Natalieeee!

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DON'T TELL! You will only be hurting him and your child.

Keep it to yourself - this is your guilt and you have to live with it. Don't try to relieve your own guilt by burdening others with the truth.

Live with your mistake and spend every day of the rest of your life making up for it by being the best wife and Mom your family could ever ask for.
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E. Gads

Whatever is done in the dark, will eventually come to light...

How would you prefer your husband to find out? From you, or sometime in the future due to some chance occurrence.

I would say the baby now has more of your features, but eventually, the baby is going to start exhibiting some of the father's DNA. Height... blood type... feet... skin shade, perhaps... other features. Your husband may or may not notice, because he loves the baby that much. But someone is going to notice and they might just happen to ask or mention it.

I just pray that your marriage is strong enough to weather the damage if he should ever find out.

God bless you all...

Paul H

Do nothing. Don't rock the boat. If he loves the child its his, even if it isn't his biologically. Why cause him anguish needlessly?

janina_sd1

you have to

chowderboxallnite

I think that you should just wait until the doctor finds out that he isn't the right blood type and that he can't be the father.

that way when he beats you you have witnesses.

Asia

Tell him

mad

The honest, responsible and moral thing to do is to tell your husband because he has a right to know. Each day that you don't tell him, you are living a lie and how could you continue living life that way? Put yourself in his position. Wouldn't you want to know?

Erica

Do you really want to be one of those embarassing families on Maury? Seriously, it's a guilt you have so confess it to a priest or counselor. Your mistake can really hurt a lot of people. I know honestly is really important and I pride in being an honest person. But in your situation I really believe whole heartedly that you need to keep this can of worms CLOSED! You will unleash a wrath that you won't know how to handle. If you love your family spare the pain you can cause with this information.

superbad~honeydip

I know its going to hurt alot of people and your relationship, but in a situation like that you have to tell your husband. For your child's sake and also the real father deserves to atleast be given a chance to know.

Foxy Roxy

The best thing to do is to tell him, no matter what the outcome. At least you would have it off your chest. If he really loves you he will forgive you but it may take him some time to heal.

Ask God first for forgiveness, ask Him for guidance, to help you choose the right words.

daisie

take it to the grave and keep it to yourself

Tracy

I think not telling him would be dishonest, and it will keep weighing on your mind.. One day he will find out anyway.. What if your child ever got sick and the needed to do DNA testing?

robsnor

The answer is obvious. It is bothering you so tell your husband. It will come out at some or other time and then things could be worse.

Tell him as soon as possible.

soul815december

i dont think so because you might lose your husband and he will never accept the child which you had from affair and might see him from hatred,so better ti live the way you are living

bad_bob_69

Do nothing

beenthere

Why bother telling him?You made a mistake.Telling him will only cause pain and could end your relationship and look at the effect that will have on your kids.
Take the secret to your grave.

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