I don't know what's going on with my husband, do you know?

phishsbabi

It's very sad to see that so many people jump to "he's having an affair". Just because he is distant does not mean that he is having an affair. Men tend to go through these distant, keep to themselves types of things. My husband does this often and most of the time it is stress from work and has absolutely nothing to do with another woman.

My advice is to still do something special for him for his birthday. Make a point everyday to show him how much you love and appreciate him, let him know he is special and that you appreciate all that he does for you. He may just be going through a rough moment in life and he needs your love and support in what ever it is. He may not be ready to talk about what is bothering him, but you still need to be there for him. Focus on what you have with him and not what you don't have.

Hope that helps.

Chris B

Seems like you guys just lost touch with eachother. You need to let him know how you are feeling, because if you don't nothing will change.

Think back to when you guys were very intimate and loving. start from the beginning and work back to what you were.

Channa

Well I don't think you should think you should automatically think he is having an affair. Mabye he is going through a hard time at work. Just make sure you don't act like a nagging wife, but just talk to him about it. Tell him how your feeling. If he really loves you he will listen. Good luck :D

i<3 tom kualitzz

talk to him

sarah

sounds like he is being very distant. did he tell you who he is going to lunch with? him not telling you he loves you is a very bad sign. you need to sit him down and talk to him. tell him that you love him and you deserve to know what is going on.

LadyPerk

TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND! Do not accept anyone's speculated answer on this very specific question. None of us can tell you what your husband is feeling or why he is acting the way he is. Lack of effective communication is the number one problem in marriages. Again, talk to your husband.

run_becky

He could be depressed. Try doing things he wants to do or just talk to him further. He might not be cheating on you just because he isn't being intimate.

Kat

You need to get him to go to marriage counceling with you, so you both can express your feelings to a professional and get advice. I would still do something for his birthday today to show you care. Keep trying to express your feelings to him in the meantime. Maybe he will finally give in and express his. Be prepared to hear good and bad, though.

zen_cop

Who knows.

Maybe the spark is just going out a little bit and needs a boost.

Maybe he's just taking you for granted.

Maybe he's cheating.

Maybe he's just slowing down and feels more like a homebody.

Only way you can know is to ask him flat out.

Mrs. Heather Schabby

I think you should talk to him about this and tell him how you're feeling.

He's going to lunch with "someone"? What kind of marriage do the two of you have where he can just say he's going to lunch with someone without even having to say who? If my husband said he were going to lunch, he wouldn't even say with "someone" he would tell me who it was right up front.

I'd be suspicious of his not telling you who he's going to lunch with.. seems weird.

Why not sit him down and explain to him that lately you've been feeling pretty detached from the marriage, and like he doesn't have the same feelings for you anymore that he used to. Tell him you feel like he doesn't care about your feelings, and how it hurts you. Explain that you miss the intimacy and love you used to have in your relationship, and would like to try to work at getting that back. (I recommend a date night, either once a week or once a month, whatever you can afford. Be romantic with one another and go on a "date" like you did before you were married, it helps.)

Good luck. I hope everything works out for you.

Oh, and also - do something special for him for his birthday anyway, to show what a loving, considerate wife you are. :)

laurenscott30

he may be having an affair but also he might have something on his mind that he is trying to protect you from or trying to figure out how to tell you.you need to talk to him

amedm89

I hate it when things like this happen. Well, I'm trying to be positive and say he MIGHT NOT be cheating, maybe he's just losing interest but either way it's definitely a red flag darling. I would try and talk to him, maybe expect the best but be ready to handle the worst.

dukemack

Sounds like something - but its up to you to judge determine - I dont like to guess based on this little bit of info. May want to look at credit card bills or itemized phone records.

Happy-2

I wonder if he has issues with your religion. He may feel as though he is insignificant to you compared to that. I mean, look at the name you chose: jesus christ is my everything. If He is your everything, that leaves your husband with exactly nothing. Maybe your husband is feeling like the #2 man in your life, if you catch my drift. I'm all for devotion to Christ, but you do live in the world right now, not in heaven, and you have to treat other people accordingly.

Amber

You have a suspicion in your gut about whats going on don't you? That's why your asking this question. I'm sure you suspect an affair, which you very well could be right about.
Confront him, but not with anger. There;s an excellent chance that anger will shut him down and destroy any real chance at a conversation. Tell him you are very concerned about what kind of future your marriage has, and possibly suggest marriage councilling. Sometimes you can't do it on your own.
A lot of times men don't talk about the things that bother them about themselves, their lives, and their relationships but its crucial that you learn his true feelings and where they are coming from.

I wish you the very best of luck.

its so hot

It is pretty obvious what is going on with your husband. You definitely need to talk to him as soon as possible. Be blunt and don't be afraid to ask him what's going on. Point out all the reasons why you are concerned about your relationship, but don't assume that he is cheating. Tell him he needs to be honest, but you need to prepare yourself for the worst. Good luck!

Kristi H

When I read your question I felt as though I had written it myself. I know my husband is not cheating on me - but I do feel as though he has forgotten about me, or even worse, doesn't care how I feel anymore. Am I hitting close to home????? Here's what I've been telling myself: You haven't done anything wrong. If being sad because you feel alone is wrong, then I don't know what RIGHT is.... You deserve to be hugged, and told you mean something. You should feel appreciated for wanting to do something special for him. He chose you, right??? Out of all the women in the world, he wanted to share his life with you, right. Remind him of that. And remind him that with the flash of a smile you might find someone who would be more than willing to SHOW you the love... if, you think boss lady has anything to do with it, go straight to her.. you'll know by the look on her face... best of luck

mt75689

It's hard to say what's going on without knowing you guys, but it sounds like he may be having an affair, or he's holding a grudge against you.

If you were my daughter or even my daughter in law, I would be having a talk with your husband. He's being a fool in the way he's treating you, and he needs another man to tell him to get his head on straight.

the_dark_side_of_heavy_rock

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Acoriana

u need to really talk and if necessary go to counseling watevr it takes to make it if hes willing to, dont accuse him of something right away cuz if it aint wat ur thinking

who cares

Tell him how you feel try to talk to him make him realize somehow that you need him tell him that you would also like to join him at lunch.

Peg B

Go see who he is eating with - that should answer your question.

Katie K

it sounds like you need to sit down and have a serious talk with him or seeing if counseling is an option... don't try and snoop around in his business, just try to talk to him to see if there is anyone else.

x_rina

you should have a talk with him.

â˜…â˜…pixieâ˜…â˜…

I think he found someone else. You should talk with him and find out whats really going on dont let him put it off any longer.

dazedaznchick

first of all, ask him this question. u guys are married and u should be able to have this conversation with him. if u feel like u can't then ur relationship is based on nothing. what is a relationship if u can't communicate with each other. if u told him how u feel and he's still doing it to u, then he doesn't care about ur feelings. if he says he'll talk about it later and later never comes, he's avoiding u for a reason. women have that GUT FEELING, a woman's intuition, do u have it? if u do, DON'T IGNORE IT. u are feeling that way for a reason. i'm sorry to say, but it does sound like he's cheating on u. u gotta get to the bottom of this, not only for ur sake but for ur daughter's sake also. how can ur child be happy if u are not? get to the bottom of it.

Lady Morgana (((love LB)))

have him tailed, he is seeing someone else I bet

nikie_atkinson

I'm sorry I hate to say this but it sounds like he may have someone on the side??? I really really hope for your sake that he doesn't but what else could it be?

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