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Is this a question or are you venting? Are you looking for someone to answer a question or console you? Do you want me to tell you how and what to feel???? |
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spadezgurl22
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i dont have a military husband but i think u are a brave woman to stand behind ur husband. its def going to be tough and troubling. take lots of pictures so ur husband will be there in spirit. know that he will be thinking about u and his son. its going to be hard for him to be away from u too. bless u and ur family. |
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jennie
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agree w/2nd answer that you're a strong person & thank you |
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Derick
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Hang in there.
You in your children are soldiers too.
Best wishes. |
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WorldofAshes
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I have the highest respect for you and your husband. Has he taken this up with his chain of command. I believe that he can at least address this as a family grievance? something like that.... Otherwise hang in there a little longer. Find ways of getting by until he returns. |
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MaRaNdA
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It is very unfair!! Thank you for serving our country !! Your son is 2 he won't remember daddy not being there when he gets older just make alot of home videos when he is home and show them to your son. If you have a DVD camcorder maybe you guys could send your husband videos of "family " also Good Luck to you and Thank you again |
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majat888
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Iam so sorry to hear that. My son just left for there, leaving a 3yr old beautiful girl and a pregnant wife. He will be gone for 15 months also. I put my son and his family in Gods hands and pray for him to protect his heart and body. I hope you have close friends and family that you can turn to. My prayers are with you my friend. God Bless you and your family. |
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HereweGO
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Tell your two year old son what a wonderfully great and courageous man he has for a father. Tell him how brave his daddy is and what a TREMENDOUS sacrifice he is making for him and you, for all of us. My heart goes out to you!!! Be Strong, I pray for you every night. God Bless!!! |
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Kimberly M
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Everything will be ok! Get him a laptop and a webcam and use it whenever you can! My son was 2m old when his daddy left for Iraq the 2nd time and I had him talk to him on the computer whenever we could and tell him thats daddy and he would say hey and wave. When he came home for leave, 9m after he deployed, my son ran right up to him like he never left. As long as your husband is smart and careful he will come home to you! You have to be brave for him that way he won't be distracted worrying about you. If he got stopped lawed for this tour then he will be able to get out as soon as he gets back so after that you will have nothing to worry about! Don't worry things will get better day by day! Good luck with your tour! |
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mrsyac2
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i understand your concerns ( i am a army wife my husband is on his 3rd deployment to Iraq and is gone for min of 18 months) but you also need to realize that your husband is government property he knew what he was doing when he signed that line now even when your husband does get out he is still eligible to get deployed again after 2 years its called in-voluntary reserves- you need to support your husband through this deployment it is rough on the guys. As for your son I have 2 young children one that is 6 and the other one who just turned 3 my youngest understands that daddy is in Iraq and working and will be home and that he loves her- my oldest who has experienced deployments with her dad leaving knows that daddy is fighting the bad guys and will be home to visit for 2 weeks and then go back and will be home before she starts 2nd grade- Just talk to your child they understand more then you think (honestly) dont make your husband feel guilty at all-its not easy to leave your family behind to do a job so serious as what they have to do- they have alot of stress on there shoulders more then you could imagine so support him and keep your sanity. Your husband isnt the only one getting extended or going on his 3rd deployment there are plenty of others just like him that feel like Iraqi citizens and visitors to America and plenty of people who miss there children walking,talking, going to school for there first day, ect.. you chose to be an army wife they dont call it the toughest job in the army for nothing. and dont tell your husband that you have sore feelings of him going back. just be supportive thats your biggest role-- good luck |
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Belen
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I am so sorry to hear that. I can feel your sorrows and deep concern for the safety of your husband. Just to let you know that I am one soul who will be sincerely praying for his safe return. Meanwhile, take good care of your baby and yourself. Please let me know when your husband comes home. God bless you and your family. |
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rockgirlfury
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My husband got deployed the same, and we too have children, and it was very difficult, you just have to keep your head up, and tell your son that daddy is fighting for the country, and tell him all of the good things about daddy..
My son is almost 3 and got to spend almost a year with daddy now that he is home, and i am glad i hung in there....
Whether he will come back ok, all you can hope for is for him to return safely, and if anything does happen, he will always be remembered as a hero....
I dont speak light of the situation, i know how it is, i was there not too long ago, but if you hang in there, Im sure all will be well.
God Bless, and Good luck |
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precious
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I feel for you.... I hope he will come home to you and your son safely.... I'll pray for you and your family...... |
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bmattj121
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I sympathize with you. Having been deployed twice in as many years, I couldn't help but feel that the burden was being borne by a few of us while so many went without sacrifice.
It makes things all the harder when the political machine turns your misery into political capital.
I wish you and your family the best. God Bless. |
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Maddison
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I'm sorry to hear that... and if you're venting it's ok. very understandable! |
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mamabear
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I can't imagine how hard it is for you to go through this. All you can really do it pray. Pray for him to return home to you safe and sound. |
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Whitnie d
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Thank you to your husband for his service. It is a wonderful cause to keep us safe and he will always be a hero to your son and others for fighting for his freedom and that of his fellow Americans. |
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schoolaccount04
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I would say just stick with your ideals. Were you originally a supporter of the war? Do you still think the war is just? All war comes with sacrifice. Yes your husband, in my opinion has served his time, and this feeling is strengthen by the fact that I do not believe in this war. Unfortunately our military is stretched extremely thin, and multiple tours can not be avoided, especially with the surge. However all I can say is that if your ideals are satisfied, hold strong knowing that we're all rooting for him, and that hopefully this war will end soon. |
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jaded
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i salute you for this sacrifice. you are my hero, you are a true hero. you are amazing.
if you can, if at all possible, just write your worries here, dear, but try, if you can at all, not to let on to your husband, it will make him feel guilty and helpless. and that might not be good for him when he needs to keep his mind on staying whole and alive for you. keep on being supportive and cheerful, that is an old fashioned word, isnt it?
bravery like your bravery and his bravery is old fashioned as well in this world that lives for the moment and seems at times to forget it's values. cheerfulness is what is needed here.
i am glad you wrote here cause i want you to know i will pray for you and your son and his hero father. that i am proud of your sacrifice and the honor you bring other military wives.
take care and know there are many people who care about you. i cannot say for sure that your husband will be ok. no one knows that. however, he is very experienced from being there before and that must count as a good thing that will help him stay safe. |
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Yggdrasil Mithos Symphonia
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Damn! That's so not right.
Prayers be with you.
(i'm keeping my politics to myself this time) |
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Kella G
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Oh honey......what a tough time tou're having. This is the "other" side of war that people don't think about - the families living with the loneliness and the waiting. Spouses raising kids alone with the added stress of a partner in danger and often not contactable.
No wonder you think it's unfair - it IS.
I'm sure knowing that you're not the only one doesn't help much at all.
Military familes make as great a sacrifice, in a different way, as the troops who leave them behind.
I don't know what to say to you - It must be so hard. I hope it helps just a little to know that most people admire you greatly for your courage. Your husband is a lucky man. I hope he comes home healthy and much, much sooner than planned. Good luck. |
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eniles21
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I don't personally know anyone serving in Iraq, but my heart goes out to you. I get worried when I don't see my boyfriend for a few days, so I can't possibly think of where your mind is. I'm so sorry that you're going through this and it's ridiculous that they keep sending him back. Just keep your faith and know that you have a strong husband. I'm sure he will make it home safe and when he does, tell him I said to tell "Uncle Sam to kiss his ***" and unlist from the Army.
Keeping you in my prayers. |
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MR MIYAGI
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There is just no good, comforting answer for this question. I have a friend in the same situation.. Hopefully, we can get everyone home soon. The answer is in the 2008 elections, but that won't help in your case unfortunately.. Just know that a lot of prayers and thousands of Americans respect the sacrifice you and your family are making for all of us... and don't forget to vote the fools out of office in 08.. |
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usa2dav
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You may not like that fact he is going for the 3rd time but don't blame him for it. You need to be supportive and strong for him and your son. Every spouse is worried and I would look for a support group to help you. Take it from a disable veteran you don't want his mind on problems at home. |
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sillerious
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my son just really got to know his stepdad for a few months and then he had to leave. we got married on his r&r. i know how it feels to be alone and him being gone so long. we have a year and its tough. i honestly wait for every day to go by quick so we can start a family life. you arent the only one. |
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RT
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I feel your pain and worry. I had friends not come back from Viet Nam, and some not in one peice.
I did not go to Viet Nam for religious reasons. Instead, I spent 30+ years in service helping others - and am still doing my job for our country because I can.
Have faith that he will be safe. Stay in touch with him and give him support that he needs.
Contact people that can give you support; they are out there to help you. |
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Kris
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First of all, "Thank you", from a military spouse... my husband was medically discharged in 11/06 5.5 yrs into a 6 year commitment. I know that what you are dealing with is extremely difficult, and I would greatly recommend utilizing the benefits the military has to offer to give you and your family the support it deserves and needs. I relate dealing with "loss" to dealing with deployment... denial, anger, sadness... etc. I believe that is "unfair" that your husband has to go back for a 3rd time... I believe that all military members regardless of rank and mos should spend time being what the signed up for... "soldiers". However, unfortunately that is what they signed up for. It is wrong for people to join the military because the benefits are great, their job in the civilian world was going no where and yet most seem to forget that they signed up for combat... it wasn't in the fine print... it is common knowledge. I don't want to come across as unsimpathic because I AM NOT. I had many friends, 5 to be exact, who lost the partner in this war and I certainly feel that they would be alive had we not been chasing a poorly thought out pipe dream... however, after the stages of grief passed.. they found themselves stronger wives than ever before. Death is not something we want to talk about... but it is something that we as military families need to prepare ourselves for. We as spouse AND former spouses need to stick together, because the family unit that the military gives us... is NONEXISTANT in the civilian world, and I truely miss it. But most importantly, you need to be as supportive as you can be, because the last thing your husband needs is to worry about you while he is there... sad to say, but he has a lot more important to things to be worried about!!! |
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Angelic Valentine
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Try your best to stay positive. With you thinking like that it is making you miserable, and your son does not need a miserable mom all of the time.....especially with your husband being gone for so long. If you stay that way, your son will not only be without a dad for the time being, but will not have what he needs from his mom either. Do it for him. Just tell him the truth. Tell him that he is working and they made him work even though he did not want to, and would rather be at home with him instead. Just do not lie to him about things like that. |
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Foley
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pray for his safety while in Iraq. Psalm 122: 6. The bible say that, the safety of His children will be His ultimate priority. (1Timothy 4:8. Promise of life. |
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Holly H
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I know how it feels to watch someone that you love walk out the door to back to some where, that they don't want to be. My best friend (which I love so much) is in Iraq. The only thing you can do is prey for him and tell your sons everyday that their daddy loves so much. Hang on, its hard. I might not be a military wife, but I know how you feel worrying about that one person that you love |
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