I don't love my husband?

wishbone..

Get out ASAP. Before children. Why waste any more time?

I love my hubby :)

follow your heart. but you should sit down and talk to him and see if maybe he can change some things and try to work on it first. try taking a piece of paper and writing all the things he needs to work on and he should do that about u and then one for both of you guys!

christinamasalha

i think you need to talk to your husband. You must have loved him at one time or you would not have gotten married right? Talk to him and maybe you can rekindle what ever it is you lost.

naldo

you need to tell him this so he can go on with his life before you leave him so he can be prepared like you will be it is only fair

Gwen H

U need to end it. Its not fair to u or him. Just thank god there are no children involved. Let him go and move on. It will be better if u do trust me.

amy

You need to leave him, thats not fair to him. I have been divorced for 2 years with 2 kids and Ive been making it on a part time job, its rough but it is worth the freedom from a bad relationship.

Jandres

Get a divorce, get a studio apartment, and eat lucky charms until you find a job that can support you. If you bail out now, you still have a chance to make something of yourself, and save yourselves undue pain and further financial dependence. Forget the alimony, he doesn't owe you a dime, in fact, you owe him for wasting his life, and whatever emotion he has invested in you. Also, grow some backbone, and cut this "helpless little girl" stuff out, you're a woman for crying out loud. Take charge of your life, and become independent. You'll never find Mr. Right if you possess the mentality of a leech.

donnadome

I think you know what you should do if the truth be told, you should need affirmation from others, am i right?
I think you should leave him, and start the ball rolling asap, for this guys sake, as much as your own.You have said yourself he isnt a bad guy, well, it sounds like he deserves a great deal more out of life than what you have to offer him.
It seems all a little one sided, what about this guy?Can you really go on living a lie in your marriage when he physically repulses you.
Many women, in a far, far worse situation, eg in a violent marriage, manage to leave their partner, so why on earth can't you?Leave him, allow him to find someone who truly loves him , and is not repulsed by him......get a better job, find your own place, and be self sufficient, dont rely on this man financially any longer, set him free, and find your own way in life.......i hope you can both move on with your lives, make a decision and see it through,and stand on your own two feet, some things in life are far, far more important than money.

Searcher

Well you can talk to him and tell him how you feel. It won't help the marriage but maybe he feels the same way and you can get a quickie divorce. No children should mean a simple divorce which doesn't cost too much. Then you advertise and get a roommate. It is not going to be easy but why stay in a loveless marriage? It has to be very draining on you and him if there is no love. Its not fair to either one of you to stay together. After a time of loving alone, with a roommate, you can find someone else. AKA "Mr. Right".
You have to make a move. Sooner is better. Good luck my friend.

Jordan M

Wow...a user. You are being deceptive letting someone take care of you financially when you resent that person. Let the man go so he can find someone who loves him.

Stephen K

Typical 1800 years woman fate, that was very sad. You cannot do more than stay with him, satisfy him as he needs, maybe having a secret lover time to time. Since you are not able to live alone and try a new life, you are captured.

BearsGoBears

go get some counseling

`LisHa...

To me you should have thought about this before you said I DO... You are wasting his time he could perfectly be with someone that will wanna be with him && care about him...To me it sounds like your more into bad guys then good guys... If you && him do get a divorce once you are apart you will realize what you missed out on.... But i would let him know now or soon because its not fair to him... && especially if you want to go be with someone else you do NOT want to cheat cause that isn't right because you are married right now... But i do think marriage is something that should last forever... Me && my husband we been getting into a few fights lately and i am snoopy && he keeps thinking divorce is a way out no its not then he tells his family that marriage is forever so he better stick to that cause its not like i cheated on him... but i wish you && your husband best of luck

ellie18

Well, I find that you are in a difficult situation and I really am sorry. Maybe it's fate. Have you ever tried loving him? If it really does not work then maybe, you might want to consider divorce. Your husband sounds like a nice guy though. Treasure him while you can. Sometimes you don't know you love someone until the day he no longer is by your side. Do think carefully and I wish you all the best in finding your happiness.

mischievous

Hasn't your mother advised you to sleep by yourself so that hubby gets frustrated, finds someone else, you divorce him because the courts will see it as his fault, and you become a kept woman while enjoying single life again unless you remarry.

All the reasons you give for not leaving him are excuses. If I felt the same way you do about a spouse I would have already been gone. The longer you make up excuses for not leaving him, the more miserable your life becomes. I have a friend who fled Vietnam with nothing more than the clothes he wore, could not speak a word of English, and had no marketable skills. But he knew he could not live under communism. Today he has an annual income in the six figures, a lovely family, and a great future. So what's keeping you in a loveless situation?

KLD 1

why di you married him in the first place now you want to break up with him to make him suffer and feel pain shame on you and I dont like the women like you

DongBrat

Look, this is why they invented marital separation. You don't have to create a divorce in one stroke. Move out to the home of a friend or relative while you get back on your feet. Read up on separation.

Here are some links.

http://www.womansdivorce.com/how-to-file-for-a-legal-separation.html

http://www.womansdivorce.com/separation.html

http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/usstatedivorcelaws/a/fla_laws.htm

http://www.uslegalforms.com/fl/FL-DO-10A.htm

â™ Jayâ™

You do have the option of returning to your parents. If not that, you have to be brave enough to move on with your life. How much longer can you stay suppressed? If you truly feel that it won't work out, just walk out without a divorce. Say that you want some space and want to live with your parents or a friend for a while.

Either that, or think it through and stick by him. You did get married to him for a reason. Think back to that.

Mike

Tell your husband this and seek some kind of marriage help.

~*Honest Blunt Opinioner*~

okay well if you didnt marry him for money and you BOTH work, then dont you dare go after alimony if you are qualified for it. why do that to him when the worst thing you have already done was not love him back. if you say you never loved him then why did you get married? oh, becuase you didnt want to be alone.

you are using him and if i were in his shoes and my wife never loved me but is using me for money and not wanting to be alone, i would dump her and walk out the door.

you are using him for money becuase you said you can't afford to live on your own. he deserves to be with someone who's going to love him, its not fair.

Red Rose

It's good that there are no children to pay for your mistakes. You can't have it all. Either you stay with him and continue to live as you do now. Or you leave him.

Bill

This is so unfair to your husband, you should really let him know how you truly feel, my opinion this is just as bad as cheating because if he dosent know he is in a loveless marriage then he might be blaming himself for the things that go wrong due to the fact that you just don't love him, at least give him the opportunity to be happy and not have to live life in a complete lie.

Robert S

You're acting and talking like a little girl too. Grow up and be an adult.

jayjay

You dont you shouldnt be with him if you dont love him. Why dont you stay with a friend or your parents house.. you wont be alone and you will afford
no worries and good luck

tommytheworstofthemall15

if you have somewhere you can go like sister grandmas etc ask them if you can stay there until the divorce is over and thataway you won't be alone for a while

Jessica

I know exactly what you are going through. I would suggest that you stop pretending! It's scary yes being alone, and moving on but you owe it to the man your married too.
In all honesty your not being fair to him. If you don't love him the way he deserves to be loved than move on. For his happiness, and your own.
Your resentment is a sign that it's time for you to stop acting like a helpless little girl, and realize that you control your own life. Just because it's easiest to stay isn't a valid reason.

Just me.

What made you marry him then ? Did he have a big wallet ?

If you can't afford a lawyer maybe you can consider marriage counseling .

oscarwilde_420

why dont u say it openly! u love somebody else!

kensey

start doing things on your own. start building life for yourself outside of him. then you can leave him. otherwise, you could just try to learn to love him. that's been shown to work a lot in arranged marriages. good luck.

shadowmutt

Then go stay with family members. Its that simple. *Seperation* not *divorce*

You had a life before you met him
and you will live after hes gone

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