I dont know what i should do! please give me your advice as i really need it!!?

bootsontheroad

I think the guy thinks more of you than you do. Give the guy an honest chance and maybe you will feel better about yourself. Even if it does not work out, you may never go back to the abusive type relationship.

I tell it like it is

You said it yourself: He`s different than all the rest..he could be good husband material if that`s what you`re looking for..

Angel

Give him a chance, I had bad luck myself then I decided to try someone diffrent and I did, and I am more in love now than ever.

Mrs. Heather Schabby

Give him a chance, sure but don't string him along.

You're 26 you're not 15 -- it's not like if you go on 1 date with him you're automatically "boyfriend and girlfriend."

Why not just ask him if he wants to do something with you? Keep it casual if you want; just ask him if he'd like to go get an ice cream, or go mini golfing or bowling. It doesn't have to be dinner and a movie, you can keep things super casual and "friendly" at first.

Go out with him a couple of times alone, even if it's just as friends. Who knows, maybe you'll find yourself becomming attracted to him. Don't string him along though; if you're not attracted to him or you don't want a relationship don't lead him to believe you do.

Good luck!

mommyof3

I am Married now to that friend you just described. I use to call him crying about all the " bad guys" He Always would cheer me up and tell me i deserve better. He came over to my apt one night because ANOTHER bad boyfriend had cheated on me and I was really upset. That night I learned the Guy that was perfect for me, was ALWAYS there. Sometimes Love is right in front of your face and you don't see it. Give him a shot. Maybe you will end up being HAPPY in a relationship for once.

Ashley M

Give him a chance go on a date if you like him go on another one, don't rush it and if things are not going well dont go on anymore dates with him.

mandy.

try it out you may finsd your soul mate
i know why your saying that i have a thing for the bad ones to darnit!
hopei helpd!
good luck!

Real Talk....Ya dig

ok. So seriously, find out how he treats animals. See if he takes care of something besides him self, i.e. plants, pets, a kid. How does he treat other people, men, women, other races. How does he talk about his mom, who do his friends speak about him, if they are always joking about his bad points, that a red flag, they are trying to downplay his negitive traits while not scaring you off. Learn from your past, and if he's not the one, YOUI LET IT GO, dont let a guy determine your destiny just because you have low self esteem. Dump him if you see the signs, dont stick around waiting for a change. Cause it aint a comin!!!

is preggo again.

I was in the same situation. Then along came Chad. At first we were just friends, and I wasn't really all that attracted to him. Then it became friends with benefits, and in no time, just by the way he treated me, and made me realize that I DESERVED to be treated this way and shouldn't take anything less, he became more and more attractive to me. We have no been married for 2 years, have a beautiful daughter, and another baby on the way, and I have never been happier, treated better, and more comfortable in life than I am now. Things happen for a reason. I found my soulmate in a person that I really didn't like at first except to hang out with.

Tricia G

Here's what I think. I get the impression that you see this guy when you are with a group of friends and you are not spending alone time with him...just hanging out together.

Be honest with him and tell him you are not ready for a dating relationship with him but that you want to get to know him better. And then spend time with him hanging out, doing things together, etc....but just as friends. Don't put the pressure on yourself of a date with this guy because then you will be forcing things.

When you know him alone and not in a group, your feelings might change.

WalkingContradiction

you should definetly go for it
stop being shallow and basing your love life
on physical appearance
theres more to a person than something they cant help

youll find the attraction with that person when you become attracted to whats inside

malnjazon

I think the first thing you need to do is ask your self am i ready to be with someone or do i want to be on my own for a while first! also do u like him it is a simple question forget about what he says and what others think you should do sit down and think about it!

If you do go out on a date etc... tell him you want to take things slow don't rush into things, take ya time date a few people don't put all ya eggs in one basket that way if you change ya mind after testing the waters you can walk away from it unhurt!

Good luck and don't let people push you into something your not ready for have a think about things first! being single is not a bad thing!!

Dunno

If I were you, I would give him a chance. The attraction may come along as you guys get to know each other better. Try not to focus on attraction from the start and focus on how he's treating you.

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