I dont know what todo with my husband?

Danielle.ox â™¥

kick his *** out of your house.
no person should be like that especially since you provide for him cause he doesnt have the sense to keep a job. no woman should be treated like that by a man. tell him to get out, get a job, support himself and try to learn some manners if he ever wants a shot with you.
be strong, believe in yourself, and dont take his ****.

run as fast as you can, now.. before you have kids.
if you already have them then run even faster.

Jay S

this is a problem with getting married young. although dont think just cuz your young that this happens. look. you need to confront him, but from what it sounds like hes trash, you need to slowly but surely start moving out, find a friend or relative you can stay with, and get out of there, file for divorce, and get on with your life, this is easier since u dont have kids but divorce is never really easy. good luck i hope you take my advice, your young you dont need to stand for that sh-t from anyone. i wish you well

kim h

I would be leaving him. What is he good for? You work and have to clean up after him?

Alma G

Here's what you need to do: Go into your room, get a bag of your stuff and when he isn't around you need to leave. I would not try to do this while he is home, if he is verbal abusing you then you do not want to take the chance that you leaving him might anger him to the point of hitting you. Secondly you need to go to a friends house, a hotel or whatever for a few days. When he calls you , you tell him how it is. You let him know that he will start to do some stuff around the house, he will stop treating you like crap and anything else that he does. Let him know that you are not joking and that you mean everything that you say. AND MEAN IT. You are not a bad person and you do not deserve this. If he calls you and demands you come home and doesn't want to change then don't go home. Before you go home you need to let someone know that is near you what the situation is. Let them know that you are going home. Also, if he doesn't call you when you leave then forget him and file for a divorce. Check before you leave and find out how much money he has, because he may just call you when he runs out of money, if you have a joint checking account make sure you take his card so that he won't have access to your money. Hope this helps and be careful.

John

That's why they invented Divorce

Bill C

Living with a drunk is never good. He tries so hard to control you because he has NO control over himself. He is a very unhappy and weak person. He blames you for his 'inadequacy'.

You can either insist he go to treatment, or you can treat him to a divorce.

You will never be good enough for him, because he is not good enough for him. The only people who are good enough for him, are drunks.

G Van

Leave. Its that simple. Don't do anything about him. Its time to get out and start living to be happy. Every single person in the world deserves that.

Lona

Turn the tables leave the house a mess if he doesnt like it oh well dont make him food make him depend on himself...act like he does to him...and if all else fails move out then see if he will change...do a post nuptual agreement...then file for a devorce so what is yours is yours

RobiCZ

Get out of the house. Go to your parents for a month. When he sees he cant survive without you he'll come looking for you. But while you're out, think a lot about what you deserve. You sound like an excellent woman that any guy would be lucky to have. You are still very young. Does he deserve to have you for the rest of your life? There is someone out there that will respect you and admire you. Even if at the beginninging it's hard, you will end up falling for some one who's worth it and you might even live happily ever after.

Chick <3

leave him!!!! please do. dont be that naive

Kevin M

Lay down the law. I don't like divorce, but if there are no kids involved and he is not willing to work to make it work dump him. But give him the opportunity to change first. Let him know how you feel, that the relationship isn't fair and that you're not going to support him laying around on his butt all the time. Oh and it might not hurt to secretly set up a separate checking account that he doesn't have access to before you do any of this. Also, download copies of all the divorce forms so that he knows your serious. And let friends know when you're going to do this, just in case he has any penchant for violence.

HCXY

LEAVE HIM!

he is acting extemly childish, and does not deserve you. getting a divorce would be the best possible thing to do in this situation. you really need to talk to your family and tell them what is going on! do not let your husband isolate you from your friends or family. his behavior is unexceptable... he is using you for a free ride. how do you ever expect him to take care of you and your family, if you two have one together. that's right, you can't! baby girl you really need someone who is going to take care of you. name calling, yelling, all this just sounds like verbal abuse. he may not be physically hitting you, but this is abuse. don't fool yourself or talk yourself out of thinking that it is not... you need to let him go no matter how hard it is. he doesn't seem like he cares at all about you...

i really really hope you take what i said into consideration. this is no way to live your life. you're so young, you can easily find someone else. you can find someone else who actually will take care of you.

Dr. T

I think you know what you have to do already.

mosaic

You need to know how to command respect.. and the first way is to walk out the door. It's getting real old trying to tell women on here the obvious. You cry and complain that a guy treats you like dirt but you stay with them. He calls you names and you take it right? Would you take any of this from a girlfriend? Think about it. The longer you take this.. the worse it will get. It's up to you.

marheather

You asked what to do with your husband ?

YOU THROW HIM OUT

jazzy

get rid of him if uve tried talking to him and he doesn't listen then you shouldn't waste ur precious time taking care of somebody who is immature

gina

Divorce the loser

Sophiesmom

I would dump him.

tuff chick

leave him even if its just to make him realise what hes got. you can stay somewhere until he comes to his senses and changes his ways. if he cant change then you need to think bout wether this is how you want your life to be. coz at the moment ti sounds like crap no one deserves to be controlled like that or talked to.

hope you sort it out and soon before something else happens

Nightofbodom

He is still stuck in that stage where i'm the man of the house so i can sit around and drink, while you cook, clean and feed me.

I have a brother-in-law who does the exact same thing to my sister, he boozes up constantly wasted off his @ss and well not even care to lift a finger around the house while shes workin up a storm and taking care of their children.

Luckily, i mean i dont do that to my wife we only been married like a year or so, but she works hard like REALLY and i cant bare to watch her do everything on her own so thats why i do go in the kitchen and help her fix up the dinner, and take out the trash, hell i'll even clean the house a few times?

Because i mean she gets stressed alot so i try everything i can to make her more relaxed so thats why i help out alot. And in the end it really helps out the relationship because we are both more comfortible.

And if your husband would realize it just once that you would be more less stressed and i guess you could say "Happier" if he would just help out and take part of the marriage, because its not a one person show it takes 2 to make things work its not a one man or woman show.

And pretty much the only way he will know how you feel is if you sit him down and tell him that your not comfortible with him drinking all the time and being lazy.

Because i mean if you dont say it, he is just gonna make you his carpet rug, thats just the rotten truth. Hope the best good luck.

Bayonnaise

eat him

divorce. Based on your question, it's a no-brainer. You're very young and I'm sure can find someone else. There are LOTS of good guys out there that will treat you like a human being.

SirK

I would suggest:
1. You do NOT have to tolerate abuse (and the way you say he treats you is abusive)
2. He is an alcoholic
3. So, remove yourself from the situation. Find a safe place you can live (with friends or family is a good idea, if they will provide you with real support).
4. Deliver the ultimatum AFTER you move (tell him "you are an alcoholic and you have to get treatment or I will file for divorce" and mean it).
5. Get counseling for yourself regardless of the decision he makes. Abuse affects its targets in a lot of bad ways and you should get help dealing with it.
6. Tell yourself everyday that you are a smart, intelligent and capable person who deserves to be treated with respect.

Charlez M

whoa...u need to divorce him seriously. all the details u explained about him r good enough reasons on y u shoul ddivorce him. hes not doing anything to keep a job and ur makin all the money. nope. u gotta take a stand. if u dont want to divorce him do the following...
one day if he yells at u. just start shaking like your about to lose it. and start yelling and cursing like crazy. you gotta scare some sence into him. then hell stop taking advantage of you. believe me this will work bcus my friend beth did it and now her husband has a job hahaha.

mizymia2u

He's a Bum! Marriage is a 50/50 give and take relationship its hard work to keep a marriage from falling apart. Until you stop supporting him, he'll never stop treating you as a "doormat" what he's doing is "mental abuse" which also leads to "physical abuse". Have you thought about counseling? speaking with your pastor and/or your parents? His parents are going to stick up for him no matter what he's their "son" and they are going to believe him over you no matter what. Do you have any children? if so the best thing to do in this situation is to get away from him to a safe place and get an "Order of Protection" if you do decide to leave its not healthy for children to see their mother being mentally abuse by their worthless father. Good luck!

cpacheco148

sounds like you married a winner and you got married at 18 that's insane i say you reevaluate why you married this loser and then file for divorce and find a better dude cause this guy sounds like a waste of life

Sexy Me

You are so young and an ideal wife.I salute you being a martyr has no place on this earth.Cheer up young lady,I think your husband is no longer in love with you.If he does, he should care about the family and more importantly about your feelings.Is he still good in bed, if not there are no room for improvement, talk to him sincerely and let him know you are tired of understanding him.Get out of the house with your friends more often and share to them your sacrifices.Try to reach the hands of your parents, they are always there for you.Please wake up.

avocadoadam

well, maybe you guys need counsling... or talk to his parents and tell them whats going on and if that did not work I would just leave him or maybe just get seperated for awille and if doesnt cahnge just leave him becasue he has to learn that it takes 2

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