I found a heartbreaking voice message on my husbands phone from another woman. What should I do?

sugaree

that's the oldest trick in the book, "we're seperated". yeah, what you should believe is that he's cheating.

Romi

Your husband is cheating on you with this woman.
You need to take charge and confront him. This needs to end at the earliest, if you want to save anything in your marriage.
Cheating Men ..whewww !! Never realize what they have !

tommy

HEY,WAKE UP

Dee

Obviously your husband is lying because you caught him talking to her 3 times. How you handle it is up to you, but I would tell him to stop talking to her or I would start talking to a lawyer.

KRIS

i'd believe her.
where there's smoke there's fire.

you know what 's going on, don't be a fool. he is playing you and you are letting him.

godess19772000

Take the blinders off! Your husband is a lier and is having an affair. Even if they haven't cosumated the affair it's an emotional affair. If he won't respect you enough to stop talking to HER why are you still talking to him?

RedRabbit

Neither. Divorce. They know what they are doing is wrong. He doesn't deserve you.

racheldeos

I totally understand how you are feelin, I have been down this same road. my now ex husband was cheating on me for the last 4 years of our 7 year marriage. I say trust you gut.

Serendipity

Either way, your husband shouldnt be talking to her and not telling you about it. So he's at fault! You think it's so simple? His baggages are out the door hun!

kibye

You got a serious problem.

Why not make that phone go dead for a few days?

Roshni

he is obviously lying to you! I feel so bad for you! but seriously, leave him! why get hurt more, take a little vacation to think about things. contact Cheaters. they will follow him around to prove if he is actually lying or telling the truth. good luck!

happpy *(:

OMG believe her!!!!!!
your husband is sooo lying no offense......
you must be very heartbroken.
i think you should call up dr.phil.

no really.

michael d

Confront Him

just curious

Believe this honey. There IS something going on. Ask yourself a few simple questions. How did she get his cell #...why on earth would she call him at 3 in the morning, call him babe and tell him she can't wait to see him....and did you really think the lady you called was going to tell you that YES there is something going on with your husband and I? Come on wake up....tell your husband you know he is lying and you want the truth from him NOW!

imissmahboo

girl if you tell your husband to stop talking to her in my opinion he should listen - 3 oclock in the am ? no booh booh ! i wouldnt hve been nice when i called her back - you need to ask your husband why would you talk to a woman that would lie to me about what you told her ? she is lying on you and to your wife ( me ) - i mean seriously maybe they havent done anything - but thats a no no - im not saying go get a divorce - but you need to check his *** immediately -

swtserenity43

Honey, believe what you already know to be true...he's lying and cheating. Been there, done that. Had all the excuses in the world and turned my head. When you are confronted with the cold hard facts, don't make excuses for him and don't accept his lies. Talk to a lawyer and make some decisions. He has already proven to be a liar to you and to her, saying you were separated. Ask yourself some questions...how did she get his cell phone #? Why did she feel comfortable enough to say she loved him? How come he told you he wouldn't talk to her anymore but you caught him three more times. That's only the three you caught him. Don't believe his lies...he WILL NOT CHANGE....get out now and don't believe you can change him. You deserve better.

Kayleigh

Don't believe either person - they've been caught red-handed. Trust your gut

sxyrdkitn69

I am so sorry this is happening to you. Been there done that. You feel like your world is falling from under you. Look back at the past couple of months and see if you remember any flags going up in your mind. Things like him trying to look better at work, exercising more, spending money that you don't know where it is going. Flags normally are right when they start to go up in your mind, we just try to ignore them until something concrete like this happens. You don't need proof, you don't need to meet with them(not that they would, he would never let that happen, most likely). Just trust what you know in you gut is going on.

6@5^&%

leave you husband

Mark C

Hmmm...I smell something...do you smell it? Oh, yeah...the coffee...sorry, darling...

Tina

Your husband is definitely lying & cheating on you. You have 2 choices, if you really love him and want to keep the family (do you have children?), then give him 1 more chance. If you can't take the insult, give him an ultimatum, and start looking for a good lawyer.

jess4u2c2

Having been told by a man that he was separated and waiting on his wife to sign papers for the divorce, I would believe her. In my case, she was pregnant and he had no intention of leaving her. Had I been able to call her (he had his home # changed the day I found out), I would have told her to get rid of him so he wouldn't have any woman to lie too.

iamhappyfourme

Hate to break it to you but he is cheating, THe more he denies the grater the possibility he is. Don't bother talking to her, she doesn't give a rats behind about you. Your husband filled her head with so many lies. You can either leave things the way they are and wait for him to finaly tell you or tell him to get out and once he has decided what he wants to do to give you a call. If he still loves you and is truly not involved with her you will know by the way he acts. I wish you the best.

Alion

You are so lucky you heard that message. If you hadn't you
might have turned around one day and found his clothes
missing and your joint account cleaned out. Forewarned is
forearmed,now you can protect yourself.

Your husband is a liar and a cheat. There's no question of that. The only question is if you want to dedicate yourself to
a marriage with such a person. You may want to find a good
lawyer,check your finances and such.

MNature

Neither. Sorry, but if your husband has continued to talk to this woman after you asked him to stop, he isn't treating you with the respect you deserve as his wife. Sounds to me like they do have something going on--an inappropriate relationship at a minimum.

I'm so sorry you are faced with this. It is awful

raidergirl1965

I really hate this because yes he is cheating on you. I went through this a year ago. The one thing that really stands out to me about what you said is his mother is very ill. Please read this........

ROMANTIC INFIDELITY

Surely the craziest and most destructive form of infidelity is the temporary insanity of falling in love. You do this, not when you meet somebody wonderful (wonderful people don't screw around with married people) but when you are going through a crisis in your own life, can't continuing living your life, and aren't quite ready for suicide yet. An affair with someone grossly inappropriate--someone decades younger or older, someone dependent or dominating, someone with problems even bigger than your own--is so crazily stimulating that it's like a drug that can lift you out of your depression and enable you to feel things again. Of course, between moments of ecstasy, you are more depressed, increasingly alone and alienated in your fife, and increasingly hooked on the affair partner. Ideal romance partners are damsels or "dumsels" in distress, people without a life but with a lot of problems, people with bad reality testing and little concern with understanding reality better.

Romantic affairs lead to a great many divorces, suicides, homicides, heart attacks, and strokes, but not to very many successful remarriages. No matter how many sacrifices you make to keep the love alive, no matter how many sacrifices your family and children make for this crazy relationship, it will gradually burn itself out when there is nothing more to sacrifice to it. Then you must face not only the wreckage of several lives, but the original depression from which the affair was an insane flight into escape.

People are most likely to get into these romantic affairs at the turning points of life: when their parents die or their children grow up; when they suffer health crises or are under pressure to give up an addiction; when they achieve an unexpected level of job success or job failure; or when their first child is born--any situation in which they must face a lot of reality and grow up. The better the marriage, the saner and more sensible the spouse, the more alienated the romantic is likely to feel. Romantic affairs happen in good marriages even more often than in bad ones.

Both genders seem equally capable of falling into the temporary insanity of romantic affairs, though women are more likely to reframe anything they do as having been done for love. Women in love are far more aware of what they are doing and what the dangers might be. Men in love can be extraordinarily incautious and wining to give up everything. Men in love lose their heads--at least for a while.

When I was in your situation I read this and saw my situation in this. I decided that my husband and relationship was worth fighting for. I was right. 1 year later my marriage is better than ever. BTW my husband told the other woman that his marriage was over and he was getting a divorce.......during the year he was going through this I asked him if he wanted a divorce and he said NO.

In the end the choice is yours to make. You need to decide if he is worth the pain and suffering that you will go through. Good luck. My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

mommyt06

been there done that , listen confront him and ask him to stop talking to her. tell him that it makes you uncomfortable. if he makes a big astink about it then your suspicions might be right that maybe he is having an affiar, but dont confront him in anger. be calm

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