I found out that my wife has been cheating on me for over 3 months?

Claire S

Go to counseling. Maybe you guys need to realize what your marriage means, so that you are both clear - USUALLY it is monogomus.. that is the way I would expect it to be... but maybe you guys have a different guideline... but get to counseling and work soemthign out you are both happy with and accept. Good luck/

Christina C

You guys definately need counselling. If you both aren't mature enough to be in a marriage then get out of it. You're not only hurting your marriage but your son as well. Think of the well being of your child before yourselves and quit being low lives and hurting one another. Grow up and if you're not ready to commit in the first place, then don't. Poor son, think about him for once.

Planet Hell

Break it off, I'm sorry but this is not a dedicated relationship and it's very unhealthy for your son as well. Hopefully he never finds out about any of this. Start a new life with him involved and find someone that loves you enough to stay with you and only you, and I hope you feel the same way about her

Mrs.Lopez~has 2 wants 3

It is time for both of you to move on. You need to end it before there is a never ending cycle of cheating.
It will be best for both of you. Sorry but it is the truth!!

business as usual

If it was me, I'd get a divorce. I wouldn't want my wife sharing her love and affection with anyone else. Marriage is a commitment between two people ... period. Best wishes.

Vivianna

Tell her to make up her mind which one she loves the most. Since she was already married falling in love with another was not an option. I would be really upset if I were you. You both need to sit down have a talk and get your priorities straight. If she doesn't care enough to stop this other relationship maybe you should divorce her.

luv

do you really have to ask? it's pretty obvious that neither one of you loves the other because cheating doesn't happen when there's love! you both need to go your seperate ways and move on, it's clear it wasn't meant to be. you may as well, the trust is gone. and if you think that staying together for the sake of your son is best......you're wrong!!!! your son needs to see love between his parents, not adultery!!!!!

chellelee28

I think that it sounds like neither one of you is committed to your relationship. If you have both already cheated, and she is cheating again, then it's just not working between you.

As far as the son goes, would you rather him grow up in a joined household, where he sees both of you cheating, or a divided one, where both of you are happy?

I DONT CARE

the both of you need to go your own seperate ways, its not fair for your child, clearly this cannot be a healthy happy family setting. Dont raise your child with the impression that it is okay to treat your partner the way you are treating each other.

klmtsj

I thnk it's time to accept that this just isn't a healthy relationship. Hard to do sometimes but once you do and believe that you deserve more you'll feel like a weight has been lifted from you. Staying together for the kids is not a good idea, happy parents make happy children!!

Hey U, Yeah U..Get over here

o.k well this is something only you can determine. can you forgive her, is she willing to stop seeing this guy...you got to take all this into consideration...aslo do you still love her eventhough she doesn't love you.

sarah b

Do you love her? Can you live with the fact that she has now cheated on you twice? If you can do these things then see a marriage counselor. If not then you need to do what is best for you and your son. Just staying together for him isn't healthy and what are you teaching him.

Mrs. House

Marriage was a bad idea...for both of you.

45 auto

It seems like you to have 1 thing in common> So ask her what do we do> Make it work or right it off>??

Anthony F

The first thing I would do is do a DNA test to see if the son belongs to me. If he does, then I would let bygones be bygones wince you have both cheated.

Queen_2008

it sounds like you both are unstable and maybe you both are looking for an escape from being married. I think it's time for both of you to sit down and see if you both want to still be married to one another. I got married 3yrs ago and it was tough living with some else. My hubby won't admit it to me but I'm sure he thought about being single again as I did. The thing is as much as we remembered the days of singlehood and wished we could back back we didn't cheat on each other cuz our love for each other was stronger than having to live without each other. The first yr beleive me are tough but resisting lust for love was harder. We have been married now for 3yrs and still no desire to cheat. We love the family we created and can't imagine life without it.

Question Guy

I think it is time to move on. Here are 10 signs it is time to break up:
http://www.bofads.com/stories/breakup.htm

emmiegsmom

You are married, she is telling you that she loves someone else, and your wondering what to do? It's called get a divorce. I'm sorry, I know it's a little harsh but why would you want to continue in a marriage with someone who is not committed to it? Move on with your son.

Allison, aka Nice Lady

I would be outta there. Sorry.

me...

you both need to get a life and stop all that cheating and if she don't want to then move on why stay in that kind of marriage its not good for your son!

no_limit_pryo

First of all Sam if she loves the other guy she dosen't love you. Sorry to say it that way but its true ,if she loved you she wouldn't hurt you right? The tuff part is you have a son together. secondly if you both cheated on each other after you first got married,wow thats a major trust issue on both your parts. trust is one of the things a marriage needs to last,if not the most important thing. If you think you can work it out with her and still have trust..i'd say go for it..your son is important in this becuase its best for him to have both a mom and pop looking out for him. good-luck in what ever you deside,but remember its not you nor your wife who will hurt the most it will be your son.

â™¥Luscious Lips Schlongettaâ™¥

well, move on and be in your sons life as much as possible

U is for Uranium

DUMP THE 'HO!

You idiots didn't learn the first time...Once a cheater, always a cheater! Should have never gotten married. Should have gotten divorced after it happen the first time.

How many more rounds you going to go with her before the HIV or STD test turns up positive?

Kathy

The biggest problem is that she says she loves both of you. But you should not wait around for her to make the choice. You should make the choice for her. You should tell her that if she is not going to put you first in the relationship, you deserve better than that, and you are not going to wait around for her to make up her mind because again, you deserve better than that. Maybe a trial separation is the answer short term.

racerwesu

time to move on

Islander

Get a private investigator to take some photos then divorce her a** on grounds of infidelity

mstuffyakim

well, if you feel that you can salvage the relationship, then go for it. You both have to be willing to work on it, and she defenitly has to end the affair.

Martin S

Well the fact that she can say this to you and you don't get rid of her right away indicates that she is the dominant one and thinks she can have her cake and eat it too. A cheater is always a cheater, it doesnt matter that you both cheated, you should have expected this to happen.

End the realtionship and find a non cheater.

â˜…SoCalMamiâ˜…

Start partying together.

I guess the question is, how do you feel about sharing? Tell her to bring her lover to your house and both of you take care of her. That way you will not be wondering what she is doing with him and not you. It works for some people, give it a try you may all like it. Just make sure your son is at grandma's.
Have fun.

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