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mcnees79

You're with the wrong guy. Divorce him before you hurt him further. Sorry he neglected you, but there is never a good reason to cheat, only a good reason to leave. Cheating scars for life. Whether you stay with the guy you cheated with or not, you are obviously not in love with your husband and the two of you will only hurt each other further.

liz

You need to see a counselor, both of you. Need to talk to each other about your feelings. what ages are you? How long have U bn married? What is goin' on your days. Is he working late alot? Maybe he has something on the side also? Yes, to be touched is exciting. But think of how many others have touched him, too!

Avid

Do your husband a favor and divorce him, please. You have no intention of giving up this other man and I don't think your husband deserves to be cheated on whether you feel he's neglected your feelings or not. You want lovers? Get free first.

Littlemissy

You're right, it wasn't the right thing to do. It's just a mixture of lust, and having someone new. It will fade away. But, you should tell your husband what you've done, and of course you shouldn't keep doing it. I'm telling you , it will fade.......I can almost promise you that!

shirley e

The reason the other man makes you feel special is because you say that your husband has neglected your feelings. I can understand that one. But forbidded fruit always tastes good for awhile, until you get caught. Is there any way you can discuss this (his neglecting you) with your hubby? If he really doesnt care about your feelings, divorce him. Just dont keep on doing what you are doing because someone (mainly you) is going to be hurt badly. Good luck.
Ok so he has cheated on you but 2 wrongs dont make it right.

Eric H

you know adutery is a very bad sin, i dont know why you would marry someone if you would cheat on them. My advice, never marry again and tell your husband.

clm2675

Yes, of course its wrong! You are lusting after this man which makes you think there is no other touch like his. If you have been neglected by your husband for so long, thats probably why you think this other mans so great. Have you tried talking to your husband about your feelings?

sasha

It's just the attention you love, not him but you do need to take a long hard look at your marriage. Obviously you have a decission to make and this other guy should be no part of it. You won't end up with him if you leave your husband anyway.

Mango

what is done is done! You have to do things right!

supreme

You should talk with your husband about how you are feelling and what do you want from him. If he is not ready to provide that to you, move on. Life is to short to expended with persons that do not appreciate you

Angel Eve

I have no advise for cheaters... Its women like you who end up on maury povich... WHO MY BABY DADDY!

useless

Why dont u watch the movie Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna. its a hindi movie and a similar kind of situation has been described in it. and then u can decide what is best for u.......If I would be in ur position, I would never cheat my husband.....n e waz, it all depends from individual to individual and situation to situation.....I feel sorry for U....

andreea 155

i think u should do what your heart tells you.i think u should talk with your husband,and tell him about your feelings,tell him that u feel "alone",maybe he will repair his mistake .and with the other man..if u like him..u should continue with him

Jewells

Don't continue sleeping with this other man no matter how good it feels. If you are unhappy with your marriage than get out of it before you start another relationship.

Concerned Mother

WOW this a tough one! NOT!!!! If you have feeling for another man why are you staying with your husband?? You should sit and talk to him(you hubby) tell him how your feeling and maybe seperate for a while and see how it goes. BUT while your seperated dont see either man simple as that.!

robsnor

You should have left your husband before you started sleeping around. Only now after you slept with someone else do you judge him I bet he(your) felt just as good when you met him. You have no sympathy from me.

ntoriano

This is usally where everyone starts shouting divorce b/c you aren't getting the same feelings with your husband today as you did when you were first dating. Now there's this man that does that for you. It's called lust or infatuation. What makes you think the new man is what your need? You're husband has provided you stability, a home, etc. What does the new guy have that they will freely give you like your husband has already done. So the quandry is your's to solve but remember this: The grass is always greener on the other side until you find that it's really a desert wasteland. Work it out with your husband. Right now, you've just complicated matters. The worst case scenario for you is you lose them both. Then who is the loser here?

atiqueflorida1947

Sister , this is not good.If it's not possible to stop it then divorce
your husband & marry that man.

Katie

I Am Messing Around With A 54 Year Old Married Man And I Am 20 Years Old!!!!!

What Would You Do If You Was Me?

jessigirl00781

You should leave your husband and to not hurt him anymore. If you truly loved your husband, he would be all you needed. You married the wrong man. By you staying with him with this secret, you are hurting him.

mac5doc

Your desire to be with this man is because there is no emotional attachment. You have no committment to him. If your husband has been cheating and you didn't like it....then why would you stoop to the same. It all ends in death of a relationship. If you are done with working on your current then finish it off. If not, quit being a part of the problem.

dukalink6000

Why can't you work on something with husband?

Lauren728

If you are both cheating on each other, why are you still together? Wouldn't it make more sense to divorce so you both can be happy??

sophia_of_light

Two wrongs don't make a right!
It's time for a heart to heart, if it is agreeable to sleep around then fine, (who cares but how fair is that to the man you're sleeping with?) If it is not get a divorce it doesn't sound like the two of you have a happy marrigae and never have so why stay? Do you not want to be happy with someone someday your husband is only holding you back, why stay in a realstionship just b/c of a piece of paper.
If this othe man makes you happy and the damage is already done from your husband cheating numorous times, tell your husband where you're at, you do have a right to be happy and chances are your husband is going to do it again anyway it's only a matter of time. It also sounds like you have given up and no one blames you (otherwise you wouldn't be where you are today!) So go on, be happy but be honest to all and fair, just b/c your husband has had affairs don't stoop to his level and sneak around, get out if that is what this marriage calls for!

rocs

1st of all your wrong by sleeping with another. and you need to tell your husband and go from there if he stays with you then he loves you doesnt mean you love him your useing him for something obvisouly or you wouldnt of slept with someone else. just get a divorce. also if your husband does forgive you and you still have feeling for this other guys then really its over for you and husband. MOVE ON someone else will appreciate him!!!!!!! cause if you are in love with husband the 2 of you wold talk about you being ignored!!!!!!!!!!!!!

gabby

you need to analize you situation and maybe divorce is your best option-talk to your husband and tell him whatyou need or call it quits - how would you feel if he had an affair?
think things thru first

imnotbtami

if it feels right, go for it.

Mephisto

WOW, that is one long sentence. Luckily my ADD kicked in and I zoned out. So I have no advice.

~me~

cheater...

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