I have always had a fantasy of sleeping with 2 women in a 2some, but my wife isnt game, what should I do?

I have always had this fantasy, I can't get it out of my head, my wife says shes up for trying most things, but refuses to try swinging, 3somes, or role play. I can forget about most of my fantasies, but the 2some with 2 women just WONT go away, I know I can't truly settle in until I at least try it. I love my wife but how can I be happy and content where I am if I have things that I just NEED to try that she wont be part of?
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I see alot of you saying I'm selfish and that I wouldnt like it if she wanted the same thing, she has said MANY times she is bi-curious, she is ALWAYS pointing out women she wants to sleep with, and I'm not some scumbag thats going to cheat on my wife, she has even said she WANTS a 2some, but not with me and has even told me she wanted to see me kiss another man, so for those of you calling me selfish and all that, all i can say is **** OFF!

bronzebabekentucky

you got married, you DONT sleep with other women

Zucchinisinratatouille

You are selfish! decide if you want to be married or just a playboy all your life.

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You are a selfish pig and people like you should never marry. Stay with your own kind. And I think it's called a threesome.

my sheds on fire

Keep it a fantasy or your asking fir trouble.

The Y!ABut

It has to be a two-way street, dude! If she is not comfortable with it, she is not going to relent. I know I would not want to share my man with anyone, not even my best friend.

jamand

What would you say if she said she wanted two men ????

Not so attractive now is it?

Mark D

It needs to remain a fantasy. If you just HAVE to be involved in a three-some then you need to divorce your wife. Now there's a three-some, you....her.....her lawyer. Time to drop it and move on!

chicknbootsk

I think you are being selfish!!! you need to decide whats more important, your wife or you fantasies.

you made vows to each other to love , honour and cherrish, not swing, particapate in threesomes and any other fantasy your spouse may come up with.

Is it really more important to you than her??
How can your wife feel happy and contented if she is pressured into somthing she really doesnt feel comftable with?
Maybe she is better off without you.

mims03

just keep it a fantasy and dream bout it if you value your marriage

baylees

She is your wife. If she doesn't want to sleep with another women and you, then you need to respect that. That is something you needed to get out of your system before you got married.

Pete H

Be faithful to your wife or, if you can't, come clean (as it were!) and divorce her for her sake.

george

how would you feel if your wife wanted a 3some with you and another man..?

she doesnt like the idea of a 2some i dont see why you got married if you want to do stuff like that . if you want to go thru with the 3some more than you love ur wife then divorce her ...(dont cheat thats nasty)...if you love ur wife more than your fantasies ...stay with your wife and ignore you fantasies

magic_porridge_pot

Everyone has fantasies, but they don't often get/or want to act them out. YOu just have to deal with it. Ask yourself what you would prefer a short time of self-gratification or a happy marriage with your wife?

flutterby

Trust me on this one, you need to keep it a fantasy. Bringing someone else into her space could back fire on you and her both and then it could break up your marriage. Or she may not ever forgive you and always think you've been with someone else.

rocky

You eval bast....... you don't deserve a wife. there are men like me who would give there right arm to be married and look after their wife like a princess

thebigB

If your wife doesnt want to then you need to just let it go...if you talk her into it and she isnt for it in the first place you and her will end up splitting up for good.

delia

keep your fantasy in your head.

you should have had you 3some when you weren't married

pooshay7676

You should have did that before you got married. What if your wife likes it and decides she wants to be with a woman?

Bountyman

Give it up, play a movie while with your wife. Or webcam it...with her approval!

sunny

To be honest you should have thought of this before you got married if you were having these fantasies then. You say you love your wife then respect her decision, and file away your fantasies because you will lose her, this could destroy your mariage. You need to get a perspective on life whats more important, really really think about it. I will leave it up to you. So good luck and i hope you make the right decision.

sassy_mom25, TTC#3

She may want the same thing in a different way, but she isn't saying that she needs it to be happy with you. You aren't going to die without it so you don't really need it. If you wanted this so bad you should have done it before you got married.

shayhi

sorry its hard to change a womens mind when sh e not game..
you know youll need to sit down and tell her...what you have been thinking...
sometimes wanting something that is outside of your marriage leads to be really bad so you better have a good reason to have to be content out side you marriage...
cuz you will be losing you wife if you do////

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