I have been with my husband for close to two years. He keeps acting like a single guy. Should call it quits.

dizzyd

I am so sorry you are going through all of this. I do know that men who behave this way are abusive. Telling you lies, telling you that you can't go out and then doing it himself, telling you you're fat and ugly are all signs of abusive control and it can only get worse if you don't put your foot down immediately and let him know you will not tolerate it anymore. Do you have somewhere you could go for a week or so? If so, then you should definately get away for awhile and gather your thoughts. You can talk to him a little more firmly when you are not in your house. I think he hangs with his buddies more out of the fact they tease him about being whipped than anything else. But the accusations are a clear sign of him doing something he knows he shouldn't be doing and guilt will make a man lash out at his wife if that's the case. Do go out with your girlfriend and make new friends. And make sure he knows that just because he thinks you fail in his "dream" of a wife that there are plenty of men who would love nothing more than to be with you. It all comes down to a little "tough love". You have to be firm about your decisions regarding how much you are willing to stand for. And when he crosses that line, you make damn sure he knows about it. Being subtle is the best way to deal with men sometimes. Not shouting, or yelling, or throwing things. LOL But, quietly stating your business is much more effective because men sometimes act just like little boys. And we all know that little boys are more scared of mommy when she is not yelling, but serious.

I hope you will find the self-esteem you used to have before you married. I know how hard it is when you have some moron beating you down while building his ego up, believe me. If he truly loves you, he will come to realize how important you are to him and stop doing these things.

I would do a little investigating on him about these weekends with his friends. A little spying perhaps. It's one thing to accuse, and another to accuse with facts. But like I said, try and get away for awhile and do some soul searching. God Bless.

DeeDee

He is abusive and probably cheating on you that's why he accuses you of it. Try marriage counseling and if he doesn't want to go, dump his a** because life is just too short to have to live with that type of abuse.

Amber F

you dont have to deal with that, it sounds as if maybe he's the one with the problem and not you. why should he be able to go out and not you. you should be able to go out with your friends also. maybe you should talk to him and tell him how you feel and talk to him about it. then if things dont get better maybe you should take some serious action. then he will know what hes missen. if he doesnt change then maybe you should call quits and find someone that appreciates you more.

Kiki

I am sorry but he don't respect and deserve you. So move on because he doesn't want to be with you he wants to be with his and since he is spend so much time with them already he wont know that you are gone

gliddenalisha

he does not want to feel tied down so he acts like you are dating and not married.

willie w

i heard this in a song once...he was saying...leave me alone
pack your bags, and get the hell on.....take the advice boo...god created u to be happy...go somewhere and find it.

TXChristDem

Bail!!!! He is beginning to commit verbal abuse and exhibit controlling behaviors on you. It will escalate. Get out now while you have your self-esteem and soul intact.

Dulcinea

you already know the answer. He is beneath you and he doesn't deserve you. get a divorce lawyer and get on with your life.

trishopesisters

I think you're in a dangerous situation. This man is trying to destroy your self esteem. Its hard to leave, most people dont know how hard, but you should. I absorbed myself in a man who acted like a batchelor, told me continually I was "ridiculous" and made me doubt my very self worth. The faster you leave, the quicker you can recover and find someone decent.

kny390

I feel for you. I went thru something similar with my first husband. (Yes, I dumped him because of it). We tried marriage consoling and talking to the minister. Only you can decide if you can put up with the verbal insults, never mind trying to keep you under his thumb. If you are thinking of getting out, I will give you one piece of advise, do it before you have children it will be so much easier.

sarah071267

Ok, you took a vow for better or for worse but you don't have to take that crap. Tell him to shape up or you are gone. You don't deserve to be treated like that. He wants a doormat who will cater to his every whim and he gives nothing in return.

I'd give him the ultimatum that he starts treating you with respect or you are gone and I'd do it. Hell, I DID do it.

orionsgirl76

I can't believe you put up with that crap for 2 years. You'll be so much happier without him

nic_tammyscott

He's insecure and immature. Disappear for a little while until he shapes up. It's amazing how fast they can come around when they think they could lose the best thing they've got! Hang in there girl!!

BIG WILLIE THE GEORGIA TITIAN

leave him.

bic

i think you know the answer.

IslandGuy

Yeah, dump him, he doesn't love you. Take it easy. Nothing lasts forever.

vosy2006

He don't seen to care about your feeling and treat you like transparent. Perhaps have a talk with him and address the concern you have and if things don't work out, you may then decide whether you want to leave him. At least give him a chance to speak out.

MGM

You are way too good for him I think you should tell him if he doesn't shape up that you want a divorce and if he tries hard to be better stay with him if not leave him cuz he ain't worth it and girl sum words of encouragement you are worth a lot and dont deserve dat sh*t

and if u can plz answer my question anyone?

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Asj5hvYmobQhL_wX7jN4.q3sy6IX?qid=20060902161223AACfCzu

thanks

lizzybit64

This person is an abuser. He is controlling you and mistreating you. This will not get better it will only get worse and more dangerous. He is tearing down your confidence. The fact that he will not "let," you go with your friend is a sign of an abuser.

NO ONE HAS TO BE ABUSED!!

I was nearly killed years ago by my first husband. I found myself and confidence to get away from this. Years later I have a great career and a very great and Loving husband.

jolie minouche

girl do not let that men treat you like that,have a talk with him tell him about yr feelings the way he's been treating about the hurtful things is saying to you ,pls his trying to make you loose yr self esteem and i bet you is not the mac dady he think he his and please don't ever let no man tell you what you can or can't do your a grown woman.marriage is respect,love and understanding ive been married for8 yrs and my husband to this date steal treat me like the queen that i'm.you have the answer to your problem have strentgh.good luck

Cut him off....... Not worth the pain...

sexonsight

i HAVE NO INTENTION OF GIVING ANY ADVICE BUT i HAVE A QUESTION:how LONG MORE ARE YOU GOING to continue to play the part of a fool? are you a rational,responsible, respectful and resourceful person? If you are then please do something respectable with your life.

rinachick

There is so much better out there. Go find one of the good guys and then you can mean for better or worse.

I won't give words of encouragement but a question.

So, you want someone like this?
.
.

lovephoto

the longer you'll wait the worse it will be....leave him, but when he will realize that you are not there anymore he will come back to you asking you to take him back,,,do not.

people like that will never change and he will start over again after using you like a door mat... take control of your life....do not let it depend on a person like that...go away start a new life...find a man that appreciate you for what you are inside..

i married a woman that is fat but she is the most beautiful in the world to me because i love her... that guy is playing with your feelings..don't let him.

be strong....i will pray for you....let me know how things will go...

berry

I suggest you leave him ASAP

goldengurl412003

Usually those that are quick to accuse.. are the ones that are guilty. So... if it were me.. I would say he is not being faithful or that would be what I suspect. As far as him forbidding me to see your only friend.. thats bull. I guess I am too much of a child when it comes to someone who is suppose to be my equal telling me what I can and cannot do. I would see my friend hell or high water. And to heck with what he thought. If you have caught him in lies.. then whats his reason for the lies??? And.. one more thing... if that were me... my bags would be packed so quick it would make his head spin. Better or worse sometimes is for the birds especially when one person is having to make all the amends. He has the better all the time and you are having the worse all the time. Good luck and God Bless!!

justmemimi

Clearly you are not happy. I do hope you don't have children. His behavior is very abusive. I would call it quits if I was you.

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