I have cheated on my husband?

holly

Both of you need marriage counselling

Joe P

If it was me we would have divorced and I would have taken the kid

pepperg

he's stressing you with the situation?? you did that to yourself.

Tom S

Nice goin, the two of you need to see a counselor, he's obviously struggling with the issues.

Java Man

Definitely yes. Pack your bags and go. You crossed that line that shouldn't be crossed and he deserves better than you. You obviously don't love him to do such a thing. He really deserves a better life than a life of an untrusting relationship without love.

sheila

you broke his trust,maybe one day he will be able to trust you again but thats going to take along time and hard work for you to earn his trust back.

kama

You need therapy otherwise it will keep coming back to haunt you.

*****

YOUR HUSBAND ...GOD GIVE HIM STRENGTH TO DITCH YOUR SORRY ,DECEITFUL ,CHEAP,LOSER ,AZZ !!

macy

I think that " I dont care" has a point if a little overstated. You cant expect you husband to just forget about this as if it never happened. You betrayed him and wounds like these dont heal overnight, you have to give him time to rebuild his trust in you however long it might take, and if you receive some grief along the way, please remember that it was YOU that strayed.

redkicke12

You brought you're self into this. Imagine, what would've life be like if you chose not to cheat. No problems, and no stupid questions like these on yahoo answers.

Franketh Man of Yogurt

It's probably over. Trust is the bedrock of marriage, when you break it, it's like slurry, it can't harden again.

chinamigarden

Un fortunately this is the bed you made when you sleep with another. I am sure enough people on here have beat you up enough for this so I will refrain. Your husband cannot just turn off these feelings of mistrust and betrayal. He has to work these things out. You do need to talk to him about how he goes about it, but you can't expect forgiveness to happen over night. You didn't mention how long ago this all happened, so I am assuming it was recently. You should talk to him in a calm manner and explain to him how sorry you are, and how he didn't deserve this. But that you wish to try to fix the marriage, and he has to help by not calling you names and making you cry. Tell him you understand that you hurt him, but that by hurting you back its not going to fix things.

Good luck

confused in alaska

i dont think things r gonna get better sounds like theres too much hurt and resentment plus its unhealthy for u to be verbally bashed into crying sometimes thats worst then punching my advice turn and go

~*Honest Blunt Opinioner*~

this is what happens when the victim decides to stay. one minute they think everything is okay, but then that broken trust comes back and nags the heck out of them. which is why i prefer that the victim just breaks things off because the trust would never be the same.

go ahead and move out, give him a favor and make things easier for him so he can move on and you can continue to fool around.

sonofgod

if you say everytime he keeps reminding you of your error then you are going to achieve nothing with this relationship. Better get out of his life but ask for his decision first!

Millenium

The FIRST thing you need to remember is. . .your husband "deserves" to vent a certain level of frustration; WITHOUT physically harming you . . .or . . .your child together. You SHOULD expect a certain level of anger, frustration, and. . .HURT! If the situation was reversed. . .be honest! YOU'D BE MADDER THAN HELL!

But in that he IS trying. . .from time-to-time. . .it has a CHANCE! And I think you both owe it to your CHILD to TRY!

Remember . . . your infidelity isn't something you can EVER change. . .but your ability to show him you're SORRY should be inexorable. You owe HIM that! Infidelity is a tough, tough, tough thing to endure. . .if you're the "innocent" one. Give him VERY high "thumbs up" for staying!!!!!! Because if I were HIM!. . . .I'd be gone in a news-flash!

missfoolishprincess

ofcourse! as long as he loves you, and as long as you love him. there is nothing that is impossible. try talking to him about it very seriously, and if still it doesn't work, then why don't you try asking help from a marriage counselor ??

you're sorry, and he said that he is still giving you another chance, so you don't need to worry much because HE's STILL giving you another chance.

try to understand his weird acts & ways, i'm sure that he's hurt because you did something bad, so it's normal for him to act pretty weird. just wait, and be patient. show him that you love him, that you're sorry, that you won't waste the chance that he gave you.

He gave you a chance! so don't waste it, and don't be scared. everything happns for a reason.

Bringing back his trust will be pretty hard but just show him how much you're sorry..

goodluck.

(sorry, if i'm confusing.)

rugbygirl707

marriage counseling

wjs142122

no theres no future you fukd it all up and that's the harsh truth he does these things to you because when he looks at you its with pain and anger. he doesn't trust you its all your fault he is not to blame

missm029

i guess this all depends on the REAL question here: WHY DID YOU DO IT? its only fair that you explain your REASON. and once this is done, your husband can fully forgive you. otherwise, everythings jumbled in his hurt head.

bbiways

Go, he feels no love for you only pity, and for the rest your relationship with him you two will fight and both will be unhappy, soon or later your son will feel this too. and no one will be happy and life is to short to be unhappy all the time.

You destroyed the trust and love in your marriage, you can't repair it so leave I know this sounds like I am being hard on you but this is what I think. Good luck to you and please don't feel guilty everybody makes mistakes in life, you can't change what has happened in the past so look forward, and enjoy life

Amanda C

wow, it sounds like you really hurt him and I can understand why he is acting the way he is. How would you feel if he cheated on you with another woman? There is nothing more hurtful than that. The reason he calls you names and has mood swings is because he cant figure things out and he is still not over what happened. He loves you deeply but has a very hard time getting over what happened... no apologies can make that any better he has to look within himself and decide what is best. It is going to take alot of time and he will probably always have some trust issues but I do believe he can and will get over it. I think its important that you stay with him for your son and try to make things work and maybe seeing a family counsellor would help. Tell him you love him, be honest and try to get him to see a counsellor with you. I hope things work out for you.

Anna

You made a mistake and you have to handle the consequences. If you truly feel sorry about it and your husband still obviously loves you as he is still with you, then you have a future together. You also have a son. You cant let one mistake ruin everything.

You have to honest with yourself and your husband and sorry for what you did. Your husband will trust you again with time.

Gary G

You did him WRONG, the only thing to do now is, Do everything you can RIGHT when it comes to him. He deserves for you to help him heel this huge wound that you have inflected upon his heart. Good Luck

Heatherrrrrrrr

Think of how you would feel. Communicate with him as much as possible. Be an open book. He knows now that you are the type of person that can do it so he doesn't trust your words now. Maybe see a counselor together and separate. This may sound cooky but both of you should read "A New Earth" by Eckart Tolle. It is a great book to help you realize how your thoughts hurt you and not anyone else. You give your power away no one can really take it.

Mr. Taco

There can be a future for you two. But both of you need to take the steps to make it happen. That means counseling. Marriage counseling for both of you to talk about the trust issues and to get him to stop mistreating you. And personal counseling for yourself so you can find out why you did this and get professional strategies to ensure it never happens again. Perhaps if you do the counseling he will see your sincerity in making this work out. Then he may finally learn to truly forgive you and rebuild your relationship. People do overcome infidelity in their marriages, but it is a difficult thing to do. It takes time, effort, and more times than not the counseling. Good luck!

Betty B

Find a marriage counselor and learn how to communicate with each other. You have really betrayed him and it will take time for him to trust you again.

Steven B

There is a future but it takes time...

Men know all too well that if you cheat once and they dont give you a hard time that you will eventually cheat again... Not saying that you will but this is what happens most of the time...

Just hang in there.. right now you need to show him how much he means to you and how much you love him...

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