I heard it said that having an affair is all negative ...?

The 5 pound Robin

There are no posatives.
Affairs are wrong, but there is usually something wrong in the marriage if it happend.
If your partner is not worth being faithful to, you need to set them free rather than cheating on them.
What are you doing? Are you insecure and need someone on the side just in case?

TAMMY D

Having an affair is definately immoral and wrong...no doubt about it. BUT, it's not always a "negative" experience. Not many people feel free enough to admit it, but positive personal growth can come out of having an affair. I don't think affairs are had out of desperation. I think it's selfishness, period. I don't know of one person who's had an affair and regretted it........unless they're caught that is. I think that for people contemplating an affair, the one and only negative is being caught. The positives are too many to mention, if you're a selfish person that is....unfortunately, far too many feel it's a risk worth taking.

madelline h

well if their partner that they are already with doesnt give them any attention.or if the fire has went out.

Andy N.

Actually, its not all negative. Affairs/one night stands are great fun, exciting and can actually keep your marriage going. You just have to be sure you know what you are doing and realise that there would be consequenses should it come to light. It depends on the life you lead. A good rule is never have an affair in the same zip/post code as where you and your family are.

jane h

IT IS ALL BAD. there is no good ,trust trust trust when it is gone the fight is on.

Bethy4

No all bad.

Mr. B

Having an affair is great. all so fun to. Who cares if you get caught. It's all good. I do it all the time. I was told I'm a walking dead man, my girlfriend said.

arawind_2000

Yes, but the desire to have one over comes all.

Dizney

How is hurting someone you are suppose to love good? And then after someone screws around they feel like they have to come clean and tell their spouse. That just makes it worse. Live with your wrong doings and don't hurt your spouse just to "clear your conscience." You are a scum bag for cheating. Don't do further damage!!!

No trust, extreme hurt, possible infections, breaking vows, etc... Those are good thing? I don't think so.

mekusa

If the purpose of an affair is anything other than marriage it is really negative so don't venture into it

Ivy

Are you trying to save all the marriages?

jimbobo

Some have it as a revenge to their spouse. some have it as a variation in life or marriage. Some have it for respect's reason. Some have it for fun. Why don't you go and get one and try to find it possitive and negative point? positive points could turn into negative for the others and vice versa.

vannili

It is fun and exciting,it is entriguing,You feel like 16 years old. No obligations ,no problems no responsibilities.It is all where to go ,where to make love.It is fantasy..and it is a short time period .When reality sets in and you woke up,huh! It's a big problems.

pansyskunk

I had an affair several years ago. For me, it turned out to be a positive experience, because it helped me get out of a really really bad marriage. i never married the person I had an affair with but that person helped me clarify what was going on in my life. When my husband said, "are you having an affair?" I said, "yes", and we began dividing up all our stuff, and we moved out. I was married for 17 years, and I'm so glad that it all happened because I remarried about 6 years ago, and its been a more wonderful rewarding experience. By the way...I would never cheat again. I don't condone it because it just hurts everyone. I figure most people do have affairs because they are dealing with issues that they need answers to.

springer

There is no good side to an affair. You end up being a liar, a thief for stealing someone elses spouse, or friend, a cheat for doing that to your partner.
Why it happens, you get mad at your spouse or friend. It starts out innocent enough, but then you go one step too far. You start confiding and spending time together all in the name of friendship. If you would have just put that time in with your spouse or friend and put it in the same kind way you would having a loving relationsship. It is you have to blame the other person instead of talking to them the way you would with someone else.

ROCK*N* BOOTY

must be a lost time no where to go no meanful joy in this affair why waste time when time heals a body alone affair are empty lost time
pride dignity think it time to be free live smiling a;lone be free
set ya sight on living free from others be free it the way it better then affairs are least of life low high u got to be free simple who cares if the world can live without a man beside u i need no one but myself to live i free no man to pull or push

ephraimrulz

ther is no posetive reason for having affairs
they hurt people and they hurt and break up familys

LadyLuv

An Affair? It's very negative...It's will just make one's life and marriage more complicated.

4everFaithful

I am a woman who had an affair. . .But 1st, R U talking in general relationship(s) or within a marriage?

I can't say I was "driven" b/c of anything my sp did or didn't do. It was me. I was young, selfish, foolish, inconsiderate of another's feelings, must I continue? surely U get the point. Anyhow, noone drives another 2 do wrong. . . 2 say so is simply a cop-out. Pointing the finger at another about what they do / don't do is simply a stubborn indiv's way 2 not acknowledge what's truly in their heart.

I & the person whom I'd had the affair, most surely caused another/others 2 exper heartache, rejection, insecurities, cheap even. it wasn't/isn't ever a fair way 2 get back at anyone or 2 improve any situation. it will in fact undoubtedly cause more harm in all cases. . .good/positive does not derive from the situation(s) but from the way one handles/chooses 2 deal/work with what they've been given 2 work with.

People fail 2 realize that we become one with he/she whom we lie with. . . If we truly understood this, then fewer would lie with anyone with low morales, ethics, standards of cleaniliness/hygeine, etc.

Sexy Chelle

It can be. U can hurt people that u care about

Its Y

i'll start w/ the obvious...

negative because someone will get hurt.

positive because, as selfish as it seems, it makes the parties involved feel desired and special again.

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