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Violet Pearl
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weed is illegal so buying and using it is breaking the law.
Obviously drug users don't have a problem experimenting with other drugs, as your kid did. Maybe you need to take a stand against illegal drugs -- might help your children not become drug addicts.
I think your husband is right, and your attitude is reflected in your kid's choice of "activities (meth use) and friends (pot heads) |
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Prophet 1102
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Regardless - it's still against the law. I enjoy speeding too, but if I get caught I pay the price. Are you ready to pay to get her out of jail?
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Raymond
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That lifestyle seems to follow trouble. If it's illegal, I'd say don't do it. |
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Anji
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Pot is still illegal...
I would NOT encourage my kids to do anything that is illegal and harmful...
You are just trading one addiction for another... |
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Valerie X Account #14
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I won't tolerate any of them.
Marijuana, by the way, is ILLEGAL. |
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IcanoutfishU
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I don't think it is ever ok to condone something that can end up with your child behind bars. I don't care if everyone on the block is smoking pot, it is not OK for MY child to do it. I also think that if you OK what you consider SMALL offenses (that are still breaking the law) then how can you tell them it it's wrong to break other laws.
It's like telling little white lies...it is still lieing. |
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Joey R
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Just remember it rarely ever stops at just "weed". |
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CHEETO_310
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introduce her to crack instead..its a much better experience |
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Future Citizen of Forvik
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Just hope that she doesn't get caught up in the justice system. That is worse than the behavior in my opinion, judges who were stoners sentencing teens to rehab and sending them to jail. And the DAs who know where all of the dealers live and won't give the Chief of Police a call about it. The war on drugs is erroding our freedoms and is corrupting our police. We should never have let them convince us that the police could tackle this problem, and now that they have proven that they can't, we should stop making it illegal. I have never smoked or used any illegal drug, but when they can bust in your house and plant drugs and then sell your house there is something very wrong. |
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Sandy Ego
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The main prob with weed is that it's illegal, regardless of anything else you might say about it. So right there, there's a difference between pot and drinking. As far as physiological and psychological implications, I don't know enough about the effects of pot or alcohol in the brain to make a comparison. Both substances can potentially be dangerous, esp. to a young person. |
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elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom
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I agree with Val.
There are better things to spend money on anyway.
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staytrue
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smoking weed is something almost all teens experience.its mainly cause of peer pressure or becuase they just want to try it and have that experience.weed isnt such a bad thing as most people claim,it is just protrayed bad as in those comercials,weed is not as bad as alcohol or tobacco i can say for sure.and yet they are legal. |
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freedom fighter
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marijuana is the gate way to other drugs. i bet that's how your child who used meth started, just by smoking marijuana. your husband is right. any drug is not good,no you can't watch ur kids all the time but you can give them the tools to make the right decisions. i remember my mom used to let my friends and i drink in my home when i was growing up and i thought it was cool,not realizing my mom was an alcoholic herself and guess who else became one,ME,so don't enable ur kid in this behavior and "weed" is just as addicting as any other illegal drug. that's my thought. |
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Magic 8 Ball: The Witch is In
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"Marijuana" is illegal for everyone, and "drinking" is illegal for EVERYONE in the US under the age of 21. As a parent, you should teach her that ANY drug or alcohol use is unacceptable and that it is not okay for her to associate with people wh do those things, or at the very least discourage the relationships.
"You are who your friends are" |
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lavenderbugys
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it's different, weed does harm to your judgment on things and kills more body parts and cells then drinking. my man did the same with weed and it was so bad that, he couldn'tt stop, he would have dreams about, it was really bad when he started to drive around looking for people who sold it. |
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treschicmarg
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i think that weed is a gateway drug which is probably why your son got caught up i meth. Weed may not be the worst thing you can possibly do but you will go so much farther in life with out drugs. and people can argue that it is an herb which it is... BUT! that does not mean you should allow you children to do that... don't you want the best for them? |
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sayra5595
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Hun i would break there relashonship be a good mother!
what mother lets there kid hang out with some1 who does that now me! |
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St. Kitten
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Tell your husband that prohibiting your daughter from seeing her friends is going to breach her trust in him. If he doesn't trust her to make informed decisions, than she won't truly florish to the best of her potential. Tell your husband that your daughter is NOT your son and likely won't make the same mistakes. He needs to get past the painful memory of your son's troubles and let your daughter make her own way. I know it's difficult but before you know it, she will be an adult. It's not really a matter of whether or not you think pot is an illicit drug, it's about trusting your daughter to make a wise decisions regarding her body and her habits. |
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Heather
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weed leads to other things. the high gets harder to accomplish so they move on to something else. stop it now. |
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JERDAWG
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i feel the same way you do. when was the last time you heard on the news, and he killed everyone in the classroom because he was high on weed? never, and weed like everything else if used in moderation is ok.and is the least likley to be abused. all i've seen a weed freak do is try to eat themselfs to death whitch is probly good for the fast food industry. so if that is the only problem, there is none. |
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MsCocoa
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Weed is a major problem because most people are lax about it and think its harmless. But it aside from the stench, it damages brain cells, affects memory, lung problems, can lead to depression and its a gateway drug. After awhile weed can lose its effectiveness and that often leads a person to try other drugs such as Meth and Coke since its much stronger. |
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jaded
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if your daughters friend in high school smokes pot then by association your daughter will be counted as one of the 'stoners'. or whatever they call pot smokers in high school nowadays.
these people are labeled by the other kids who dont do drugs and they are shunned by a large part of the school body and feared by other parents. depending on the class, they are then because of this forced to hang around together, leading to more and more drug use.
this is my personal experience. my sons friends were beer drinkers. every parent and every kid knew who smoked pot and they were talked about behind their backs and avoided. pot smoking to many teens is part of a less than desireable lifestyle that includes a lot more than pot.
get your head out of the sand. maybe you and your daughter can take up a hobby together. your son has already been on drugs? that is like a green light for your daughter and your "whatever" attitude toward this is also giving her permission. i am with your husband.
i live in a soccer mom type of bedroom community. most parents are fanatically protective. they know who smokes pot and which parents dont care. and these people are scorned and their children are not included in mainstream activities. so dont dont dont say there are no penalties and there are worse things. not true.
if my kid drifted into a bunch of kids or a best pal who did pot regularily as part of her lifestyle i would do my best to steer her away from it too. as much as i could without her catching on.
but i am not you. |
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Betty M
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It's not whether or not you think weed is a big deal, it's the fact that it is a drug and it's against the law. Most (no all) people who use drugs, started out smoking weed. After awhile they started using something that would give them a better high. Ask your son if he used weed before he started using meth.
Something else you might want to think about. People who use drugs like to hang out with other people who use drugs. It's no fun to be with a couple of friends and you are the only one who's high.
Your husband is right, if you don't want your daughter to get into drugs the way your son did, then you need to stop the friendship your daughter has with her friend that uses weed.
Don't you remember when you were in high school how all the kids formed their little clicks. All the smart kids (geeks) hung out together, all the football players and cheerleaders in another group and all the trouble makers and the ones who party hard, used drugs and alcohol in another group, etc...
If you don't use drugs, then you don't hang out with people that do. Like it or not, who your children hang out with IS IMPORTANT! |
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Lucy
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I can count on one hand the amount of times I've drank. I've never gotten drunk. I've never done something and blamed it on my being drunk. I never drove drunk. Never drunk dialed someone. Never cried hysterically while drunk. Never hit someone while drunk.
I do smoke weed. I have gotten high. And in getting high, I never killed anyone, cheated on anyone or beat someone. It's not addictive. In fact, when I got pregnant, it was easy to stop. It is illegal, but in the sense that double parking is illegal- all you get is a desk appearance ticket (provided you're not carrying a large amount).
I'm glad that smoking weed has always been by means, not drinking. I've seen the drink destroy people. Weed is not destructive even when people center their lives around it. They may be lazy and unproductive, but not abusive and self-destructive. |
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nolimit5439
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marijuana is an illegal drug however i do not find it has bad as alcohol ....pot head is always better than an alcoholic....i use it daily as an antidepressant and i have a very successful job |
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runningmeg82
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When you let your child smoke weed, you are letting the break the law and are teaching her that doing so is okay.
What happens when she smokes up then gets behind the wheel of the car? Oh, but that could never happen, right?
Not to mention that pot is a gateway drug and can lower her inhibitions, making her try something worse.
I think you are being a lazy parent. |
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puppyraiser8
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Weed isn't much different from drinking except that smoking weed is illegal, regardless of age. As for breaking up your daughter's friendship, you are right. You can only watch your kid so much. I'm not sure how old your daughter is, but there comes a point when you have to let your kids make their own decisions and deal with the consequences. (This age could vary, depending on the specific child.) However, keep in mind, your daughter has seen your husband and her sibling smoke weed and do other drugs. So it might be hard for her to see why she should no participate in smoking weed. |
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Sayruhh_
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i totally agree with youu. i can see where your husband is coming from though with trying to protect her.
but honestly, as long as shes not getting into any serious trouble or anything, i dont really see the harm in it.
im sure there will be other issues she may come across and this isnt something you guys should stress nout about.
but it sounds like this is just an occasional thing for your daughter and i dont think its too big of a deal.
you should make it clear to her though that this isnt something that you approve of. and not something that you will allow.
io think it can go toooo far if its something she starts doing daily or something. but for now, as long as it isnt affecting her life and relationships i dont think you have much to worry about.
goood luck and best of wishes. |
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fattydude55
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wow thats too much for me to comprehend
haha idk wat would jesus do? |
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