I just don't know what to do anymore...?

oyldbatt53

take your child and leave and make a life for yourself, hes not gonna grow up and he wants things his own way. i know i was married to a man for 18 years just like him, and he always was with his friends. and me at home with the baby. it wont change and he wont, not for many years to come. are you really going to waste your life? hes just too young and so are you.

Agent99

guess grow up and serious have consequences-good luck

Naeem

hate 2 say it but leav. then he will no your not playin

Nikki R

u keep threatening him but u don't do anything about it u stay and put up with the same old crap if u want things to change u have to change move out take ur baby and make a better life for urselves tell urself u desrve better and u will come to believe it and u will come to the point where u don't need him or his crap anymore and u will find someone who treats u with some respect and love GOOD LUCK

johnnysunshine11

If you can go back home you should. He's not now nor ever will be husband material and you should realize you've made enough mistakes with him. He courted someone well under the legal age of consent and fathered a child to you. That alone shows his judgement is questionable and his values and morals reprehensible. Throw away your trash.

soozemusic

I know you have already heard this, but you are too young for all of that. Take your baby home if you can and stay away from him for a while. He has alot of maturing to do and that will take years. I had my daughter when I was a little older than you. Her father (I married him) could always be find on a bar stool. I left him a year later. Never looked back.

WOWZA!

The more you threaten him, the more he's going to rebel...Let him go do his thing for a few weeks and don't say anything and then bring it to his attention. If he doesn't change, then leave.....

Nina

Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. He is not ready for the responsibility of having a family he helped to bring into the world. You lived with his parents and they didn't encourage him to be more responsible. You may have to realize you probably need to move on. Make sure you have a court order child support for yours and your baby's benefit.

Have you applied for food stamps? Are you getting WIC (Women Infant and Children)? This would help. You can also see about childcare through the state. I wish you well.

Tammy B

Sorry sweetie, with all respect and hope, you need to leave. This situation is not going to change. I know it's not easy, but you will look back and understand one day. Please find somewhere else to go and concentrate on your daughter and your self. Leave!

LemonGrass

I answer this having come from this situation: I was married at 18. We had our first child when I was 19. Second child when I was 20. We were divorced by the time I was 24.

He too, like your man had many maturity issues and that is exactly what they are. Men mature MUCH slower than women. Some men dont start growing up until they are almost 30 ! Sad but true. Some it takes longer than that. My EX Husband is now 28 and he STILL is not the father to our children that he should be. Our kids are mostly MY responbility in his opionon. I care for them 90% physically, and finacially.

So as much as I wish I could tell you there was some magic there really is not. Griping and Lecturing and constantly being in there ear about what "they need to be doing" only pushes them away even more......so unfortunatley there isn't a whole lot you can do if your man is just not mature. What I can tell is to PLEASE not get pregnant again as I did. Another baby will REALLY complicate the situation. Most people dont know this but the first 6-8 months after you have a baby you are VERY fertile and therefore VERY likely to get pregnant again so be careful !

P.S. If he is sincere and he truly does love you and your baby, the only thing that may possibly help is if you move out and leave for a few days and then without you there he might realize what he is missing/losing without you and the baby......maybe....but unfortuantly some guys JUST DONT GET IT. As i said, my kids father, 8 years later is still not the dad he should be.

mazhar

hello,
I think there is mistakes both of you. In my openion you just do what he want. when your relations begans then tell him his mistakes but first think plz understand him and talk to him softly when you got soft corner then talk to him about situation.

If no forgivenes for both sides then.............

ghosai

take yourself and your baby girl and go visit your friend/family for a few days. let him know that it's only temporary, but can become permanent really quick...

you can't threaten and then not follow through, he's just think you're bluffing and will never take it seriously.

bookworm90

he's 23 and still that irresponsible? That is just sad

I agree if he stays this immature leave him. but before sit him down and have a serious conversation. and Be strong and serious if he doesn't listen to reason get tough.
You said your back with his parents bring them in to it ask them for help.

good luck

Shannon

His father needs to beat his ***.
You should separate from him and tell him he needs to take responsibility for himself, you, and your child or your leaving him.

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