I just got married 5 mos ago is it appropriate for my husband to smack other's butts?

donkeyoftheday

Only if he is drunk, trying to get a threeway, or both.

Amie G

This is indeed inappropriate behavior!!!

beautifully emo

IT IS DEFINANTLY INNAPROPRIATE WETHER UR MARRIED OR EVEN JUST DATING ...... IT IS ALSO VERY IMMATURE OF HIM!!!

thatsit4theother1

Wildly inappropriate behavior, particularly since you've made it clear to him that it bothers you.

Michelle

That is very inappropriate.

Lara Croft

You're absolutely NOT over-reacting. That is very disrespectful, to you and to the other women. If the other women don't have a problem with it, then you definately should. I'm a pretty lenient wife, but I would NOT approve of that. Even if he has and never will cheat on you, that is still disrespectful to you. Tell him the least he can is have enough respect for you to NOT do that.

Taylor

I would be mad too. If my husband ever did that he would never hear the end of it...trust me you are not wrong. I dont think he should be doing that if he is married to you. He should be commited to you..and you only.

franC

NOT OK!!

stormy4

hes married to you.. the only butt he should be smacking is yours. and thats only if you like it.

J. J

Yes, it's inappropriate.

Jan C

No, it isn't OK. The only person whom he touches this way should be you. Tell him how you feel when he does this.

i pack a 44

he should not do such things that disrespect your marriage..............

Sweet_Addy

I would not be comfortable at all if my husband did this. I think it is completely inappropriate. I would have a serious conversation with him and tell him that it really bothers you and you want him to stop.

Caesarion

Definitely not something I would do. I think it's very disrespectful, especially considering that you don't like it.

Sundae

what? Heck yeah that is unappropriate. Maybe you should go around and grab other men you know what so he can understand.

.MaddieMayhem.

hell no! i didnt even read the situation it just not right

songinthedark78

Well I agree with the majority that it is inappropriate, but i also believe it is disrespectful to you and to the other spouses in every way. There is also the question of how would he and the other women react if you started doing it to other men and their husbands. I'm not saying to do it because it would only bring you down on his level. I'm saying just question him and see and if there is a protest, then remind him of the vows he made 5 months ago. See, when you make those vows, your making promises, that no matter what anyone says, are not meant to be broken. To love, honor, and cherish you till death do you part meant that he promised to love you more than beer and sports, honor, or respect, you enough not to act irrationally like that when you've asked repeatedly for him not to, and to cherish you, or to put you above all else, especially slapping other women on the butt. But if it is just one of those things that he can't live without doing, then tell him that you have 2 cheeks and he has 2 hands and to have all the fun he wants, but to leave the others alone for good. And if this doesn't work, then that means it is time for you to give him the ultimatum, them or you! So good luck and farewell. And just for future reference, I'm velocity's husband.

georgewallace78

it's not appropriate

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TeeTee

It is very inappropriate and you need to address it again and again until he gets the message. Also I feel like you should give him the opportunity to tell his female friends NOT to disrespect you by touching him in that manner. If they don't get the message then you should let them know how you feel also.

m-s

no you are not wrong, it is not appropriate. if he had any consideration for your feelings he would not do it. there is obviously some feelings that he is not sharing with you. and perhaps things may have happened between him and some of the girls that are involved. in may have been in the past or it may be current, but one thing is for sure it's leading to something in the future!!

jonathan beechwood

You aren't overreacting because he really shouldn't be doing that. He doesn't really have any control over what the women do to him but it's much more of an issue if he is initiating this himself.

a_n_cassell

I do believe that this is inapropriate behavior. He should respect you enough not to do that. He should also respect the other women on the team and keep his hands off of their butts. You may not be the only person with a problem with it. Ask around. More important, ask him to stop.

freebird31wizard

I would directly and seriously question the sincerity of my husbands love for me, just because he is not taking your feelings seriously. being married means something. or at least it should. and if you mean so little to him that he is not taking your feelings about this seriously, ask him to think about how he would feel if you started to touch other men just for fun.... if he says he doesn't care, he will be lying. ask yourself why he is not taking you seriously. this should matter to him, and he should not send you away with a "don't over react..." because overreacting would be to yell at him the moment he touches the other lady...: WILL YOU KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF PLEASE...??? WE JUST MARRIED FOR CRYIN OUT LOUD... see what that does to him.... On the other hand if you don't want to embarrass him, just ask him to do so... :)

Lady Boe

No your not because in no fashion or form should he be allow to touch other women butt. You need to get him in check. Because the next thing you know he'll be just having friendly conversations with them.

It's common in competitive leagues to smack each other on the butts . If you have told your husband that it bothers you, he should respect your wishes and stop.

Jennifer C

Are you talking about a playful congrats pat or a behind squeeze/grab that is more than that? If its just playful I wouldn't worry about it and chalk it up to teammates bonding. Anything beyond that I'd be mad and expect it to stop.

Good luck.

Pamela C

Hell NO!! I would be stomping his face in as soon as we came home from the place he smacked a-ss at. He also could be testing you to see how far you will go. OFF THE BAT I WOULD FAIL! don't let him do such things. I don' think he would like it if you went of doing the same. If he wasn't ready to not be single anymore. He should not have made a commitment. Take my advice. I feel for you. My Ex did the same til I found the stash of phone numbers in his pocket and left his sorry A_S_S!!

exaltedchick

No, if it makes you uncomfortable then that's it. Some wives would not care and some would. If you do, let your husband know it just really bugs you, and even though it's not really serious, you just don't think it's behavior fitting of a husband. Try talking to the ladies about it as well, calmly, just let them know it makes you feel odd and if some of them are married they should understand.

JustMe

How would he feel if the men on the team did the same to you or if you started this with the other guys on the team? I bet he would think that was inappropriate. This is a goose gander thing - Its ok for him but in his eyes it would be wrong for you. Does that make sense?

1grrsn1845

I hate to tell u this but you married a jerk. Its never appropriate for him to touch a womans behind, and even if it was the fact that he does not respect yur feelings is bad enough...

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