I keep seeing my husband with this girl he works with when she see's me she walks away.?

My husband works as a builder where we live, it is part of his salary the free rent thing. Anyway there is this women who works for the company I have caught her/ him talking outside, but when she see's me driving up she takes off. I ask him what is up with that and he says I don't know. I call him at lunch and his phone is off. He says he doesn't hear it. Hm he can come home for lunch he works on site, but I am ok with him going out for lunch I don't own him. Lately he goes to the store on the weekend to pick something up and gone for hours. Or I have to give my buddy a ride etc. Am I just being paranoid? About three years ago he had an affair with someone he works with, I left him for months. After counseling etc. I took him back. So I wonder if I am imagining things because of that. I don't get why she takes off? Something just isn't right in my gut about this but how can I find out.
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I busted him last time by the phone, but now he is on to that one. Also on to email. need a new tactic.

David H

Women 'never' seem to understand - that if their 'man' has cheated once they will do it again - and you in the past have only caught him out 1 time - there will have been other times that you don't know about. A lot of men are 'always' on the look out for other 'conquests' all through there lives - but no - the women (not all) give them another chance - wrong - it will happen again with all the heartbreak that will follow.

If you don't mind living your life in that way - (you make no mention of leaving him) then so be it. Its over - what ever you both had has gone - and 'all' your 'suspicions' on he's new encounter are well founded - and you know that - you've seen all the signs before - whats the point in 'forgiving him' again and to go on having a life of 'mistrust with him'..........move on - find someone who wants 'only you'. Life is 'far' to short to have to put up with 'all' his messing around.

Satanic Brainsmasher

He's shellacking her. Playing hide the hot dog. Divorce. Stay if you want to feel horrible. Get checked out for clap!

pfcamanda91w

i have played this game before, he is definitely cheating on you. it doesn't take hours to make a grocery store trip (most men HATE going to the store, i have to BEG my husband to help me once a year...) you are being paranoid for a reason, his actions do not add up to a loving and faithful husband. if there was nothing going on, she would not run away when she sees you coming, she would be an adult professional lady and introduce herself (if she had nothing to hide/fear). hire a private investigator or a friend that he doesn't know to try and follow him. go on cheaters, the show...if he is on to the phone and email thing, you need to bust him in the act.
also get tested for STDs. Just keepin it real.

candie

when he goes to the store one day...follow at a great distance and when he reaches his destination...you'll have your answer...REMEMBER don't let him know you're following.///

kashmirkat7777

The facts are telling you what he's up to. His actions betray his words. It's human nature to want to "catch him" like the Wife/Nurse/Psych somewhat mentions. It would feel like a little bit of sneaky reward in this otherwise lost relationship. But it would hurt like hell, and you know it. I say confront him with it. It sounds like you're strong enough to move on without him. And not fool enough to continue to be lied to. At least you are trying to give him the benefit of the doubt in spite of his history. But looks like his spots never changed.

bearsbullsfan

wow...I really wonder why you posted this. he's definately cheating on you. get a divorce....good luck

Daffodil

Sounds bad indeed!
I don't think you're being paranoid. He should be careful about you, if he's not cheating you : you've been both through all that a few years ago, then he can guess how you must feel.

januckey

Usually when another woman acts sketchy around the wife, it's because she's been being sketchy with the husband.

Qwqw

ask him ull know if hes lying

Winter Blossom

open your eyes a bit more, you know whats going on.

Alisha

IT SOUNDS LIKE HE'S CHEATING AGAIN....TRY GETTING TO THE GIRL AND ASKING HER WHAT'S GOING ON....IF THAT DOESN'T WORK JUST LET HIM KNOW HOW/WHAT YOU FEEL AND THAT YOU ARE NOT TAKING THE SAME CRAP ANYMORE....

AKAO4D

I'll give you 2

1) Divorce or 2) Introduce yourself to her when he's not there. Ask her for some advice in terms of the store or place where they work. That way when you pull up you can call her by name. And thank her for the information. If something is going on, the look on your husband's face will tell all. You know what I'm saying?

pixie

I wouldn't say he is cheating, just yet, but something bad is going on. I would think about going back to counseling, but I wouldn't trust him.

Queen of Beer

Girl, spy on him! All signs point to --------------> Yes, he is cheating!

bill b

I think it's fishy that she takes off when she sees you coming. Of course, his past (having a relationship with a co-worker) isn't reassuring at all.

Best sneaky tactic I've ever seen was done by one of my wife's friends. And yes... she did catch her husband this way.

She bought another phone exactly like the one her husband used. Then she switched them. She would have the calls forwarded to his new phone, but she could see every call that came through. Because his phone always rang, he never caught on... until it was too late. Most people never check their own phone number once they've had the phone for a while. Sneakiest sh!t I've ever heard, and pure genius! It wasn't exactly cheap, but it's cheaper than a PI.

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