I killed my parents,what should I do?

Now that I have your attention.
Well my dad is dead for 5 years.My mom had a boyfriend last 2006 and she thinks I'm so stupid that I won't know she makes up excuses and ****.
I know their having an affair because I see all the text messages and stuff.
then last february the guy is sleeping in our house,he's still here until now and it's getting on my nerves.I can't watch TV,can't eat right(he smokes on the dining table while I eat)I can't sleep right.
It's SO DAMN HARD TO BREATHE.
They sleep together in one bed the guy is hugging my mom.
It's so obvious that they're together and she still keeps saying "we're just friends" and it pisses me off.
She was fighting with my father's family denying that she doesn't have a boyfriend.
And she told me all about the fight and stuff and "we're just friends"
F*CK.
The guy is 13 years older than my mom and is still married!
I'M TELLING YOU THE GUY IS MARRIED!.
and has 4 kids.
I hate my mom.
so so so much..
if this still keeps going on for another week I swear I'm going to run away.
You people will say "try talking to her"
She's not that kind of person.
this story happen 2 years ago:
My brother was once an honor student but once she started screaming and having a fight with that guy on her cellphone I think he was traumatized too.He's grades started to fall.From an A+ to a B- then straight to D.This is still happening until today he keeps fighting with that guy then they're both happy again then fight and I dunno why she's still with that dum guy.
He even used my soap!!And some of my T-shirts and shorts and pants.
I AM SO F*CKING PISSED OFF!
Need advice, how will I end this relationship?
Additional Details
That guy I think has moved in to our house.
I hate my mom coz she keeps denying it everytime one of my father's side relatives are asking her.

Deon B

Wayne.

I am now 38, the same thing happened to me at about 12, there were a few things which happened in a different way, but for the most part the same stuff.
All I can say is that you need to think about you, not about her and the new guy. I have moved away from my family and I took a new route in life, this I did at 23. Thre reason why I did this is that at that time I had finished school and had a job which supported me. I am not saing that you should move out of the house or find a job. I am saying you need to look at yourself and focus on those things which will make you go forward. If you focus on school now, this will give you the chance to be qualified to obtain a job. That job will assist you in being your own person.
It is unlikely that you will chase the guy away or change the ways of your mother. If you use yahoo you will for instace see the advice I gave regardin the Platinum price. Work hard to become your own person, this is the only way. If you understand that things are about you and your life, it assists you in moving forward. I know that what I wrote here seems a bit airy fairy, but it worked for me. I wish you well.

Kindest Regards
Deon

prankishmelody

Why are you mad? Your dad has been dead for 5 years. 5 YEARS!!!! You really just never want your mom to be happy, or what? I know you're young and that some of these things can be confusing for a kid. That said your mom isn't doing anything wrong by moving on and trying to be happy. I suggest you get over it and be happy that your mom is happy and found someone.

Karatechop

This is very sadenning for you and troubling otherwise you wouldn't have had to put that serious question.
It's very hard for young people like yourselves when your moms or dads start acting a little crazy and getting themselves into relationships like this. I can hear the pain in your voice. Maybe you are still getting over your dad's death(sorry to hear this) and there is real sadness and grief in your heart.
Your mom is probably acting quite irrational here and grieving in a strange way and just falling into the arms of a guy that's obviously just using her and the family.
You need to tell your Mom how you feel using "I" words.
Try not to raise your voice and sound as though you are accusing her of doing wrong.
Tell how hurt you feel.
Leaving home is not a good idea and I don't know about your chances of HIM leaving.
I know your home should be a safe-haven for you, not a wrecking yard.
Do you have any interests outside the home or good friends?
Maybe you need something to get you by while your mom is hanging out with this loser of a guy.
If you tell her he is married, she may not believe you.
Sadly, she may need to discover this herself and I believe she will probably find out sooner or later. Women have a way of knowing these things!!!
The best thing for you to do is to try and just let your Mom know how you feel.
You can't change her mind about this guy. You will have to leave it up to her to work that out(sadly).
But for now you can do something about the quality of YOUR LIFE!

Try using your home as a base and doing more activities outside the home during the day?
Do you go to school?
Maybe getting out of the house more(the right hours though) and spending time with your friends or getting involved in a sport or hobby outside the home.
Try (also) talking to a School counseller about your feelings.

Obviously you miss your dad (this is sad!) and you might need to talk to someone about that.
Keep a diary(under lock and key) and write down your thoughts and feelings.

I'm not sure what else to say but I am sorry you are going through so much.
I just hope your mom can see the "light" soon and you guys live peacefully together.
Your mom may be experiencing some feelings of intense grief and not aware of what she is doing to you or the rest of her family.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.
You take good care of yourself.
You'll get through this.
Life can be tough sometimes.

MzTerioz

how old are you? maybe you should move out and live with another family member, grandparents or aunt and uncle,

sweetgranny06

i agree its wrong for your mom to be with a married man but really there is nothing you can do till your grown and move out .and don't listen to max that's wrong to even think what he said even if he might not been serious thats bad thinking that way

howitfeel

First you have to tell us how old are you. Assuming your entire story is true , it is difficult for both you and your brother to live. Look whether some one else will take care of you. (The relatives of your Fathers side). If so then better move there. You cannot let your life be ruined because of your stupid mother.
Anyhow once you leave the home there is no turning back. This will be the worst case. So before you go for a decision think twice. Is there anyone else whom you can trust and get some advice? We cannot do this as we don't know our entire family set up.

Betty T

How old are your grandparents? are there aunts/uncles on your fathers side of family that you guys could petition the court to live with?
In most states, this can be done, esp. if you can prove something is going on in the home like you are talking about with the smoking, and your brothers grades dropping so rapidly!
I'd sure give it a try if I were you! (That would get her attention, maybe, anyway! It dosen't sound like anything else has)!!
But don't kill her, son---sounds like you'd be wasteing a perfectly good bullet!!LoL!!!

pwinceskitty

call Child Line!
you and your brother pack everything you can,
run away to someone's else house.
this is sikkkk!

DANNIE M

I thought this was a joke question
Look you and your brother have right to live in a safe environment if she treating you like this and allowing this man to smoke in your home and take your stuff and cause your brother so much stress then i think you can move out to a relative,or ring social service and tell them what you told us here
I suggest you talk to your grandparent on your father side or uncle auntie and see if you could move in there for awhile to this get sorted
you not said your age if your under 16 (uk) not sure usa then you need to get them to seek legal advice and do it all by the right channel,
If this guy does anything to you illegal report him to the police and if you know his wife tell, make his life hard there he not want to stay
Your mum should be ashamed with herself but some people do act strange after death
This is one of the reason i never let a man in to my home since i left and divorced my kids father ten year ago as it mess your kids heads up
wish you well

happyfeat w

Don't just run away. You won't be safe. Call a responsible relative, or talk to a counselor or any (FEMALE) adult you trust, or call children's services, or whatever they call it in China. In the U.S. kids can go to court and tell the judge why they believe they need to leave their parents home. I don't know if you can do that in China. If you must leave, do it in a responsible safe way, and a way in which responsible adults know where you are, and you are taken care of.

Your mom is emotionally disturbed. She probably can't help it. Not that that makes it better. But you are going to be an adult at some point. This is not forever. You will probably need therapy to deal with this, because you don't have a normal childhood with a trustworthy parent.

Just follow your own path of integrity and make sure you're safe, and show yourself love, and realize that these things pass, and you'll be okay.

favorite things in life are free

You may have gotten my attention but I'm not reading that long drawn out bunch of crap!

MummaKins

Can you and your brother not move in with some other family member? I feel that you'd both better off in a healthy environment. That's all I can think of - sorry :o(

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