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Natalie N
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First of all, I'm really sorry. I don't know why you married him in the first place...
and YES you did cheat on him. However, he sounds like a horrible person and I think you're marriage is not working, so you might want to think about separating. |
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k
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u cheated |
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monkeypb20
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your husband is a cad... dump him
but yes, you cheated on him |
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mizzhollywood26
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Yes, and I think you know that. |
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Troy L
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That is cheating. |
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Babette
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Yes you cheated.... |
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glitterbug
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leave! you are in an abusive relationship...its not healthy for you or your kids |
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Sherry D
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Physical and emotional abuse ... pregnant or not ... this man has issues and a divorce is in order. This man will most likely abuse his own children too. If you can't get rid of this man for you then you have to get rid of him for your children's sake. I would also ask the court that visitation with the children has to be supervised because of his violent history with you. Do not give up and do not give in, demand it to be so. As far as moving on with another man ... stop, right there. Take care of a divorce and your children and when you have healed emotionally then start dating. The last thing you want to do is step into a relationship with a new man. Have lots of friendships that are platonic ONLY. |
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2fine4u
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If your husband has treated you like this, you should have packed your bags long ago. In any other scenario, I would say that you were wrong. After the way that you have been treated, I say good for you! |
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THE BOTTOM LINE!!!
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Yeah it's cheating, but sounds like you found something that feels good...so you went ahead and kissed him...since you're marriage sounds like a mess.
A female friend of mine told me that females tend to stay with abusive men cause they are afraid to leave them (plus you have kids). They think that what the man might do to them if the woman decides to leave is what scares them. They don't really love them...they are just scared. You can't live your life like that...go to somebody you really trust, or a counselor...and try to figure out what you should do.
In my opinion, you shouldn't live your life like that though...but you have to talk to people you trust and figure out what you want for yourself. |
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Julie
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ummm ya thats cheating.... :/ |
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Toes
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Tough one.. It all depends on how you and your husband feel about it...
Some people will say yes, Some people will say no...
Ask yourself - Would you call it cheating if he did the same to a woman?... |
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Yvette!
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I think you should leave you're husband. He's abusing you and it doesn't matter what you did you don't deserve it. You could even go as far as to say its partly his fault you cheated because he drove you away and you are looking for love else where. Leave your husband, go through the courts if you have too.
Theres no excuse to hit a woman, and even worse when she is pregnant, even worse, with his own child.
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I don't even think some people are reading the question, this man is abusive and there's evidence he has cheated already, yet people are name calling the woman because she cheated? What about the sorry excuse for a man who beats on his wife and kids and then goes out and fcks some other woman? |
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hot_tamale962
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sounds like you need to get away from him. he probably cheated on you first. and he sounds icky anyway. I know I will get some thumbs down for this. but I would follow my heart. |
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hangfire
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He obviously does cheat. He is violent towards you.
Most people would just say 'get out' but it's easier to say than to do. Especially when there are children involved.
I think you need some counseling to help you decide what to do. It's unfortunate to be stuck in an abusive relationship because you have no way of leaving. But I imagine it is surprisingly common.
Whatever you do will take a lot of strength. |
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♥[NiiKii]♥
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im guessing you gave that whole life story to try and justify what you did.
which YES you did cheat..if you dont want to be with him..then just end it..stop going back to him. |
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thelordparadox
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Go see a marriage counsellor. |
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Honesty
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And you're putting up with this...why?
You're sabotaging your own happiness.
Verbal abuse is just as bad as physical.
Start working on your own happiness.
And yes...kissing someone else is cheating.
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schizojuc
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I think cheating is not just a physical act. If the intention is to move your affections to someone else, it's a kind of cheating.
That said...follow your heart. You won't go wrong. |
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Zee Z
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its called DIVORCE HIS *** |
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Gottaloveher
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Since you have two children I would advise you to give your marriage a better try. You must have loved each other in the beginning, so find out what went wrong. Start looking at the marriage from his perspective and try to be a good wife to him (in his eyes). At first this may be difficult, but it will start to catch on and you should see a change for the better from him. Have a minister sit down and talk with the two of you...it seems that jealousy is one of the big issues...and believe me, jealousy can make a person act out and do some crazy things. So, since jealousy is an issue then you must try to work on building each others self-esteem and security in the relationship. Tell him what you like about him. Put a little love note to him somewhere for him to find. Give him a surprise hug sometimes. Play kissy face. Come on now, the grass isn't really greener on the other side of the fence. You would just be exchanging one set of problems for another. At least you are married to the father of your children and the potential is there for a very fulfilling life. I wish you all the luck in the world, I'll pray for your marriage. Remember, you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Or, a soft word will turn away wrath. I think it would probably be a good idea for you to find another job so that your husband doesn't suffer with worry every time you go to work since he knows about the other guy there that is ready to pounce on your bones. |
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StorkRadio.com
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Kissing a man and telling him 'I love you' is cheating. Sorry. Your husband is even entitled to argue with you the week your Grandma died if he found out you cheated.
Stop talking to the guy you kissed. Work on things with your husband - get counseling or whatever. The guy who is kissing and saying 'I love you' to a married woman is scum anyway. You don't want to end up with him in any case. You have to finish things in your marriage first - good or bad ending - BEFORE you can move on. Otherwise, your next relationship is doomed before it starts.
Again, if you start relationship #2 before ending relationship #1, relationship #2 will fail. Get into counseling and work on your marriage. |
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probablypirates18
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Well, yeah that's cheating, but honestly, I don't blame you. If I was in that situation, I would have done a lot more than kiss the guy. I'd say, if you can afford it, leave the hubby. He sounds terrible. |
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Tianna R
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yeah thats horrible...
if your married you shouldnt even think of wanting to be with other men, even if your marriage has been shitty. wouldnt you rather break up/divorce then cheat and have to live with it? |
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Kiki
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so you had drama and you added more drama. not a wise choice. kissing this new guy was wrong. having a bad marriage does not justify your actions. anything can be repaired, but you two sound so unhappy. maybe separate for a season and see how you 2 feel. but i would not bring another person into the equation until you have closure with this relationship. |
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Glenn Z
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that is cheating, cheating isnt alway physical it emotional as well. I f is abusing you, maybe you should leave....for your childrens sake, |
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NC Mom
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First and foremost, either work on your marriage or leave the marriage. You and your kids deserve to be safe in your own home, and it sounds as if you are not. You probably made out with that man because you feel so unloved. Well, with everything that is going on in your life (death in family, abuse in home), I wouldn't give the "cheating" a second thought, nor would I do it again. Please find a safe haven for yourself and your children so you can grieve properly. Sounds like your marriage is on the downhill slide, and it needs an overhaul or a kick off the mountain. It's up to you as to what you should do. Good luck and God bless you and your kids tonight. |
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Ben C
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Leave him, you're obviously not happy. |
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