I left my husband 6 mths ago b/c of his drinking and drugs now he went through rehab. do i give him a chance?

mjstwin0405

well you should try spending time with him to see if he's changed. Go out to eat, to the movies, to the beach, and talk for awhile. Then you can decide whether to work things out again or not.

wjdoyle35

If he cleaned up for you, then yes. If you love him you owe it to yourself. Be cautious however.

Jackie

virgamafra

It depends on how long you were married, if there are children involved and how much you can stand being around him. I was married to an alcoholic and after a while, I couldn't stand him when he was sober, and wished he would have a drink. The marriage didn't last, but there were two children who suffered because of it. Life was better without daddy, but it was still hard as hell. Footnote: he only got sober after 30 years because he literally almost drank himself to death. He is kinder and a little more responsible than before, but I still find it hard to be around him for very long.

jlcaughlan

You, of course are the only one that can truly answer this question. You know him best. He has taken steps to improve his life and it sounds like it was for you so he obviously loves you. The question is do you love him enough to give him another chance. Perhaps, you should consider counseling to get you through this time of question and uncertainty.

datbanginggirlfromdabricks

yes you give him a chance everyone makes mistakes... i think you should give him a second chance but once he starts messing up and doing inappropiate things like sneaking off into the night and drugs and things then you MUSTTT let him go becuase then you would know at least i tried to make it work...his loss

Thrasher

Only if you have kids. Otherwise, he already disrepected you and your marriage by getting involved in all that drama. Also, a large number of people in rehab, go back again. Get out while you can and find a sober guy who will respect you and the relationship.

C.A.T.â„¢13

I would give a little bit of tome after the rehab to make sure he does not relapse. You need to ask yourself, was this the only reason or was it something else that made me leave? If this was the only reason, why not give it a go. This seperation must have impacted him b/c only people that want help go through rehab. People are not perfect and when you married him it was "for better or for worse" I'm sure he needs as much support he can get and I'm sure you would be the strongest rock he could hold on to. Just watch yourself and keep up with his progress.

Arya

Ofcourse, you have to give him one more chance...you have to surpport him and you have to complete your family...if you leave him and dont give him a chance may be there are chances where he can again get addicted to drinks and drugs...to quit these habits person needs to have lot of moral support and love from his loved ones not hatred and separation....so just go ahead and give him a chance...cheers!!!

boredgirl

I was in this same position and decided after 30 days of sobriety to go back. It's the best thing I could have ever done I went to his meetings with him and so did our kids. If you can encourage him and support him and still love him go for it. If he's true he'll stay off 6 months is a huge step for an addict it's so awesome to see the people @ the meeting that have 30 years. Encourage meetings and try to go too, it will provide the support & understanding you both need. Good luck!

King Quest

Dont give him chance, give him support...then he ll give you chance!

kronickirby69

Depends... Do you still love him?? Are there children involved??? if you answered yes to either of these, then I would say Yes, If the answer is no or not sure... then I would consider saying try dating him again. and see if he is still the man you would want to marry, once more.

Crazy

shure everyone deserves a second chance,but if he screws up and starts back on drugs hes gone!!!

lovetoniqa

if he hart you no if he need your help with finding something for him yes

montanamom

try "dating" again to see if he has changed. be glad he took the rehab and wants to get control of his life.. take it slow and easy, they say change can be hard on a person. but if you love him why not give him a second chance to prove to you he has changed.. and let him know up front that he only gets this one chance

knightquest07041967

Give it Time see if he is for real on the rehab thing, also an addict should never start anything that needs work, because he needs to "work" on himself for at least the first year at least thats what they told me. most recovering addicts will relapse within the first month after they're out of the center. oh they're good for awhile, but, there is that chance. So take it slow if he's serious then hell be there at the end of the journey

lk7916

I would, but make sure he goes to meetings. Maybe you can go too. My father died 3 months ago because of excessive drinking/drugs. He became clean and sober about 2 years prior to dying. So people CAN change and when they do it is AMAZING!! It was very hard for him, but he had our support. Unfortunately it was a little too late. Tell your husband it WILL kill him. My dad stayed sober for the last two years by going to meetings, exercising, and making new friends. I never thought my dad would change but he did. He went to rehab dozens of times and most of the time it did not work...but eventually it did. So if he only went once make sure he goes to those meetings and STAYS BUSY. I would love to help anyone like this since it was too late to help my dad. If you have children then you have to work it out. My dad and I became BEST friends when he stopped drinking. Remind him of how much it will mean to his family. No body wants to watch their loved one die!!!!

Paradise

I went thru the same thing, give him a chance thru dating, keep a distance still because old habits have a high chance of returning, find out the "why's" and seek counseling for u before u give 100%. Maybe relocation can be an option too...I didn't and my marriage hit divorce. good luck and I am sorry ...

J.SWAMY I

Yes madam certainly.He will be grateful.Keep him happy with love and he will forget the habit.His going to rehab program shows he is motivated to overcome the habit.It also means he is disturbed by the loss of your love.

boo

if you still love him, yes.

beachplayingslots

drinking and drugs take more than six months tog get over try living apart and dating first to see if he really has changed

Cupid

Absolutely! He is your husband... "better or worse, sickness and health" right? Alcoholism and drug abuse, imo, is a sickness. If he is making efforts to get better, that should mean the world to you. You need to work it out with him if your truly love him.

Jessicuh

Do you still love him? Does he still love you? If he was into drugs and drinking before you split up, you may have never known the real him and he may not be the same man you loved. But if it's what your heart's telling you, go for it. Everyone should deserve at least one chance to be forgiven.

But be careful, many people who go through rehab will fall into a relaps.

mimismom

only if you want to give him a chance and you think he has really changed, who knows maybe you leaving was his wake up call

free_angel

Only if he can prove without a shadow of a doubt that he will stay clean until his last breath on earth.

Rebecca

If you still love him, yes! But, be prepared that he might not be a changed man...

trouble

OK here's it is this how i think do it once shame on him do it a second time same on me i hope that help s

JustMe

Unfortunately a drug addiction is with you for life. If you do give him another chance you have to be ready for relapses. Can you deal with that ? Answer that and you will know what to do.

mrseahorse1

do you still love him , do you have children with him, has his personality change for the better, have you been with Simone else since you left , but most of all do you still love him

amber_marie_l

Yes If he went through rehab then he knew there was something wrong. He might don't want to lose you because of his problems

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