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I left my husband when he was diagnosed with cancer.Now he's ok and I want him back.What do I do?

We were married for 5 years at the time he was diagnosed with an advanced stage of cancer.It wasn't terminal but we were told the journey to get him better was going to be a very lond one.When I found out I totally lost it and I know it was extremely wrong of me but I left him because I didn't think I could deal with the disease and how it'd affect my life.He didn't have any other family so I did feel very guilty but I didn't feel like I had a choice but to leave him.It's been 2 years and he's in remission.I want a second chance so badly.He treated me like a queen throughout the whole time we've been together and I still love him as much as ever.He won't even look me in the eye let alone consider getting back together.What do I do?


    




Krinta
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Nothing, who do you think you are that you leave him when he needed you the most, now he is doing better you still love him. Wellll, where was this love when he needed you? You runned away so you deserve what he is giving you.


Mark G
See if you can actually spend one minute in your life thinking about someone other than yourself.


basketcase88
Gee, I can't blame him one bit. You must have missed that part in the marriage vows about "in sickness and in health."

You thank God he's alive, and you let the man alone to find a woman who is worthy of him. You're obviously NOT that woman.


lollipop
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I hope the man is smart enough not to touch/speak to you again. Your are shallow.


I'm Me
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Maybe I'm wrong but you come off as selfish. You only thought of yourself when you left and it seems that your only thinking of yourself in your desire to go back. "He treated me like a queen." Well when he needed you most you weren't there, you bailed. You're no good for him. That doesn’t mean you’re not a good person, but I think you have some issues you need to work out with yourself. Wait until you find the person with whom you can be utterly selfless for with little to no effort and cling to them. Let this one be and find the one he is truly meant to be with, because it's not you. Be fair to him. Maybe I'm wrong but you come off as selfish. You only thought of yourself when you left and it seems that your only thinking of yourself in your desire to go back. "He treated me like a queen." Well when he needed you most you weren't there, you bailed. You're no good for him. That doesn’t mean your not a good person, but I think you have some issues you need to work out with yourself. Wait until you find the person with whom you can be utterly selfless for with little to no effort and cling to them. Let this one be and find the one he is truly meant to be with, because it's not you. Be fair to him.


Master of War
I applaud him for staying on the curb you kicked him to. You broke the 'in sickness and in health' part of your vows and don't deserve a second chance. Nobody chooses to be physically ill, and for you to toss him to the wolves like that was extremely wrong, for lack of a better word.


Leroy
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If you truly love him, leave him alone to find someone who is not so selfish.


igottadrive2001
let him find someone else,,,,simply ,,,,you had your chance and blew it big time


Dirty Martini
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Ask God's forgiveness and leave this man alone so he can find a woman who will love him as he deserves to be loved. You learn your lesson and your move on with your life hopefully a better person than you were before.


Carmela
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Sorry but u dont deserve to get him back. If I was him I'd run. Marriage is for richer or poorer, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH. I dont mean to offend you but to me you sound like a very selfish women.


afireinsidexxx77
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There is no way that you love him if you left him. Love is through thick and thin. Love is eternal, love is stronger than anything. You broke that at the time he needed you the most. Im sorry but if i was him i deff. would not get back with you. Im sorry to say that, but if he does, than you are so very lucky. You left him at the time he needed you the most. I think you need to move on. Good luck


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get over it. you made your bed now lie in it. "in sickness and in health until death do us part"


Rose
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Now deal with this...Get the hell away!!! You're a no supporter. You have no qualities of a good wife...and I'm not saying this to make you feel bad. You have to embrace your reality. Leave him alone and let him find a better suitor for his life. I know a lot of woman out there who can fill the quota..and it's not me, girl; since I'm already married. Good luck living alone!


LuvnLife
How sad for him. I could never do that to my husband when you marry someone you should be their #1 supporter you did one of the ultimate betrayals you will be one lucky gal if that man decides to take you back. Actions speak louder then words. If you get him back hopefully you will be there for him if something else bad ever happens to him! What if you ended up with Cancer next.


Thebronx
what you should do is just find a person that has a personality like yourself. You should be with someone like you. you know that would leave if you had cancer. I think that is what you should do.


Tater Tot
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What you did was so mean, I don't think that there is anyway that he would take you back. You need to move on. You are one cold hearted person.


Just Me
This is a joke right????


Mistifish
Do you think you deserve him? The poor guy has suffered enough. If he is as great as you say, just back of, which is all you can do to keep your dignity, and let a better woman have him.


blessed mommy
You committed the ultimate betrayel to someone who probably loved you most in the world. You shouldn't expect him to disrespect himself enough to take you back. I'm sure he's smarter than that and has more pride. You caused a hurt it would take a lifetime to fix. You're better on apologizing and letting him get on with his life. Unfortunately you're going to have to live with it. Besides people don't do that to those they love so you need to think long and hard about the feelings you do have for him. That might help


wicketoby_1
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he is better off without you, what if he gets sick again are you going to walk out again. I hope he finds a real lady who will stick by him. not some one who only thinks of themselves like you


T Time
Sounds like you dug yourself a hole - now, crawl into it.


inluvwithb
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i don't blame him. you aren't a fit human being, you were totally worthless to a sick man, your own husband. i hope you're ashamed and he never speaks to you again, marriage is about the good and the bad and you've proven you'll bail when it's bad. you're the saddest person i heard about in a long time.


luckystar
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you should be a shame of your self.how could you do that,
marriage is about love , sickness and health, you dont deserve this man., you walk out on him when he need you
know you want to come back., if i was him , i would leave
you at the side of the road like you did him. you know that
no good will come to you for what you did.


sweetgranny06
get lost you ruined your chance when he needed you the most you left him i hope your guilt stays with you


Bobby G
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You don't deserve him.


Jen J
Well...I can't blame him for not wanting to talk to you. In the type of situation that he was in, that is when he needed you the most. It was about him, not you. The fact that you decided to take care of yourself over him is terrible. I believe that he has every right to be upset with you. What would happen if his cancer came back? Would you pack your bags again to save yourself from a broken heart? Trust me, I think that he should save himself the "what ifs" and prevent HIMSELF from getting hurt again. Do you understand how your leaving affected his life and how the disease was affecting him? I think that if you truly loved him, you would have stayed by his side. Queeny, your King deserved to be treated as such and you denied him that right when he treated you so great. I hope that he uses his head when decides to be with you or not.


britlynn18
you are a mean selfish woman...what makes you think you even deserve a second chance.!!! Good for him for blowing you off! you are the lowest of the low! What should you do?! put yourself in his shoes!!!!!!!! You are disgusting!


jumba
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You can't force a person to be with you. If he doesn't want to be with you then he doesn't want to be with you. Consider, you left him and went on your own way when he needed you the most. You should have been there holding his hand, not running away. So, there really isn't much you can do.


arvis3
Nothing!! You burned that bridge. Marriage is about trust and knowing you can always count on your partner. He knows he can't count on you.

You abandon him when he needed you the most. He can never trust you. This is far worse than if he caught you cheating. It is even worse because you admit he treated you like a queen.

You don't deserve him and he can do better than you.


LAURA F
you heartless b-i-t-c-h. its women like you who make it hard for women like me


Jane Doe
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You do realise that remission isn't always forever don't you?What if it came back?Would you leave him again?I doubt he'd be willing to risk it,I know i wouldn't.You seem heartless.Leave him be.





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