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Lucy E
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You're playing with fire. Examine your reasons for your new found attraction to this man. Maybe you and your husband need to rekindle your romance. |
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Lydia
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If you are thinking about it, you are treading down a very dangerous path, girl..... Knock it off! |
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Cloudy
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I hope he's worth losing your entire family over cuz that's what will happen. |
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jenn j
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Sounds like you need more attention from your husband is all. |
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Wlr Steve
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if you dont want to lose your family then stay faithful and no your not a cheater just because you start getting a little feelings for one of his friends doesnt mean you are cheating but what you should do is try sumthing new with your husband bring back the spice to your guy's marriage and this feeling you have for this other guy is probably just puppy love since you have been with your husband for a long time |
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Rakesh L
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please try to spend time with ur husband and child and try to forget that man and please dont underestimate urself.love is the best way and make love with ur husband. |
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SID
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Yes u r. Forgot these for ur kids. |
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ericismenowwhoareu
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i can see where your comming from however you can look into yourself and see where these feelings are comming from and why. If you hubby is kind and understanding then confide in him, maybe its just something aht you could go see a counclier for or something. I wish you luck and my prayers are for you and your family. |
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farhan_khan_love
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Don't worry about him just think about me |
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Saheli
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This is called temptation i believe. But before it is too late you wake up. You have to fight out this temptation otherwise you will be nowhere. The very fact that you are questioning yourself about the right and wrong shows that you are a good person by heart. But need to win over your weak temptations. Be more strong. There is something in your hubby's friend that is attracting you.What is that? His looks? Qualities ? Ask yourself why exactly are you getting attracted to him. Concentrate on your children more. Avoid thinking about him more. Keep yourself busy with some good habits like reading etc.,
If you dont stop yourself now it will kill your personality and you will be nowhere at the end of it. |
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gigglezdelight
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i am in the same situation i just try not to act different and try to stay away from him he has even suggested that we go out to a club and i told him no so just try to keep him off your mind |
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PS Bharat
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It is your natural desire as per brain thinking. It is a matter of human psychology, if require u can consult some psychologist if not possible take your decesion after analysing. |
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shanadam
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find a way to connect back in to ur husband.as long as u try everything u can to try to salvage ur marriage.if you cant you need to end your marriage before u start something else think about ur children dont put them through an affair it will hurt them more to go through that than a healthy adult divorce.handle it in an adult manner and if u cant change ur thinking and u still love ur husband maybe something is going on with ur horamones or ur mental state |
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onthedownlow4u2
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Got any pics? ;) |
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Harsh...!
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You love your family is a definite sign of a satisfied cheerful family life. Nevertheless, it really appears to be unbelievable that your attention is getting diverted towards an outsider because of something else. It appears that this is not attraction but a disturbed concentration.
You are pointing out yourself as a potential cheat, proves that you are quite serious about your accountabilities, loyalty and integrity.
It needs enormous guts to put yourself for an acid test… that… whether you are a cheat? You are a strong person, however, appear to be too emotional.
Ask your husband not to invite his friends to home. Home is an exclusive territory for wife and children; hence, one should not mix-up home with colleagues or friends.
Do recollect, when did you observe your husbands face keenly and tried to read his feelings, emotions and stresses.
How many times you touch your eldest child in a day and when did you hugged him or her last time?
It is your husband and family members who would be at your side in distress and for the whole life.
Just listen to your conscience and follow its commands. |
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jijo
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no, you are not a cheater ! it happens to somebody for someone, it called as 'fantasy", lot of men have that with ash to madhuri to padosan to kamwali ! its just like that to you, only thing is that in our society if it happens to female then all men say it cheating and if it happens to them then its 'chalta hai !' |
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Mel
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just because you aren't taking action doesn't mean you aren't cheating emotionally. You are still thinking about it and forming a plan already just by typing this question. If you feel guilt about it and you are flirting with disaster than it's just as if you already cheated. Make things right with your husband or go get counseling. Don't be selfish. |
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His Dudeness
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If you love your husband then don't go there. Avoid it at all costs! |
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believer
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You are already much ahead in family life and at this stage you should not stake your family and children's future for the sake of silly thoughts brewing in your mind. You are the boss of your mind and not vice' versa. Being unfaithful to one's spouse is a great sin which leads to untold miseries. You have not yet slipped, hence there is still a chance to save your family from ruin. Be sensible to remain in command of the situation. What are the things the other guy has got but your hubby doesn't have? Can you not survive to live a happier life without thinking of the the other chap? I am sure, you can overcome the impending crisis by controlling your mind for which you should start meditating immediately. May God be merciful to you! |
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UCURGYPSY
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I think you need to explore where these feelings are coming from. Affairs are a slippery slope and lots of times result from some unfulfilled need. Do some soul searching and if that isn't enough meet with a counselor who can help you develop some insight and practical strategies. I'm a psychiatric social worker with a decade and a half of experience and my take on this is to first cut yourself some slack but realize what you have to lose. My boyfriend and I have a very healthy view on things like this and we communicate with a lot of humor. For example we will joke with each other if we see a "hot" girl or guy that gets our attention. The grass usually isn't greener. Look at your priorities and make your relationship first. YUP FIRST! before your job, before your kids or anything. When you do that you reduce the chance that outside influences can interfere! |
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gary t
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It's time to sit and have a good heart to heart talk with your hubby. Something is missing in the relationship and you both need to figure it out. Why throw away a family? It's OK to have attractions to his friend, but another thing to act upon them. Good luck GaryT |
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teulonbranchlibrary
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Figure out what is missing in your life that makes you think about other men. |
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ray ray
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You are not a cheater unless you've actually cheated. This may just be some type of infatuation because you are not getting what you need out of your relationship with your spouse. Now, if you are a religious person ( Catholic ) , then in the eyes of God you have already committed adultery. However, I think you should try to figure out what it is that is causing you to think about this other person. Seek marital counseling alone first and then together with your husband. If you love your husband and kids like you say, then this shouldn't even be a concern or problem. |
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floridaman39us
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You are a cheater in your heart and mind. You better knock it off..... |
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delmaanna67
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This is the beginning of a temptation to you. If you don't resist it, you're in for much heartache. You are being drawn away from your family-those you love by lust--pure and simple. Be content with what you have and run like the devil from this temptation. |
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nida
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hmm i understand what you are going through. Theres nothing wrong which you are doing after all its ur brain which makes u do all these things. what u can do is start praising ur husband and keep him in the mind always and good things which he has done as a husband and dnt ever let him know about this otherwise it would create a fuss for no reason keep ur thoughts clear let it flow off.pay attention towards ur kid keep urself busy and im sure ull be alright and just ignore ur husbands friend it happens after all we are human beings.......... |
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simi
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Hi thr.
Its verry natural to be attracted to somebody - U r no cheater or something of the stuff, but, u do certainly have some limitations - everybody has - limitations and responsibilities - n - u can not overlook them...
Think, iff this was something ur husband would have been saying...
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iff HE does something like this - would u like it or would bear it at all...
So, just think of him n control ur emotions - believe me u can do it
Wat iff ur husband gets a hunch - an intution kindaa thing - ur married life would become a hell - n then u would realise - fancying 'some1 who doesn't matter to u as much as ur family' is not worth so much, I mean sacrificing ur mental peice or ur married life for him...
Moreover, I suggest u need to look into ur marriage too - spicen it up - go a bit unconventional - go on a post honeymoon with ur husband - do sumthing about it.
Wish u a happy life. |
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