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Rosie
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Was he like this before you marry him? What age is your husband? Older men tends to be over protective, after they have been through relationships in which there partner cheated.
You can try to get a Job that you can do fro home "online-jobs".It is obvious that you are unhappy, you have the choice to divorce him. |
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KK
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Time to divorce dear. This is not love nor a marriage. Seek counseling and run, not walk, out of this marriage. |
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kja63
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He is an abusive control freak. That's not love honey.
RUN! |
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lovetotalk
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not to be rude, but ya should have thought about how you wanted to live before you walked down the aisle.
That's one reason why some ppl don't believe it's a good thing to get married at such a young age.
you have to have time to grow as a person and know who you are before you share your existance with another. If you knew what you know now, would you have married him???
Answer that and you're on your way to fixing this problem. |
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bhilton78
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you wont do it for long sweetie, you are too young. You will get tired of it i promise and you will look elsewhere for fun and relations |
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nursecracker
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he was apparently like this before you got married... why didn't you LOOK at him and his habits and consider the fact that he is jealous and controlling?
i can't change him... you have to take action and do what is best for you.
get a job, get a car.. maybe your parents can help you in some way?
you are an individual and you deserve to be happy and content. tell your husband how you are feeling and what you want. if he doesn't agree, then you will have to do what is best for yourself.
if you're ever in another relationship, stop, look, listen and observe the person very carefully before you dive into a marriage.
people don't change after they say "I DO" |
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indian
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I'm in the same place you are but I'm going to get a job and then leave because i have been taking this for 2 years now and i can't take it anymore good luck |
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JQ
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I wish people would be would discuss this kind of stuff before they decide to get into a committed relationship.
I would suggest you talk to your husband, face to face and tell them that you need some room to live and be a good wife to him. You would be able to be a much greater wife if you are able to get out and live just as he does. |
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sierraskyesmom
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No its not fair............and he's not being very good to you if he's acting this way. How old is he? Sounds like hes got insecurity issues and he needs to grow up. Marriage is based on trust and he has none for you. |
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wongfiehung2003
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hello???? guess where this marriage is headed?? |
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Friend4u
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Why is he behaving like that ??? find out.. ask him..you are jst 19..are u behaving kiddies...may be yes..if so then act like a lady.. am sure then he will treat u like a lady then.. if still it doesnt not work then may be u need to talk to him in presence of an elderly person and make him understand that u are not animal..with patience and calmness every issue can be resolved. all the best... :-) |
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blue:eyes
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Why wouldn't he want you out of the house?
This sounds shaky.. ask yourself if you're really happy with this man. Sometimes love is not enough. |
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AdrianClay
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Your boyfriend wants to control your life by not letting you work anywhere. He wants you to be dependant on him so that if you decide to leave him, you can't because you don't make any money. |
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dad
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Just get a divorce you was to young anyway . You 2 are still kids and haven't even seen a small portion of life yet and your already complaining |
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ArmyWife0412
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Its one thing for him to not want you to go out without him, but he is crazy, and hes treating you like a child thats grounded.
I have a friend who is from Germany and she married a soldier who was stationed there,when she was 18 after only 3 or 4 months because he had to come back to the states. Once they got here, He treated her the exact same way, and she was VERY unhappy. She divorced him, thank god, maybe you should do the same. You may love him, but you're not happy or you wouldnt have posted this question.
Hes WAY too insecure to be in any relationship right now, and that kind of controlling is definitely going to head in an even worse direction. |
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Superwoman
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I married a jealous, controlling guy when I just turned 18. It took me 12 years to get out of it! Get out now!!!! It will only get worse. He will turn abusive if he is already this obsessive! |
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Kari R
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Okay-for everyone who said this is abuse...how is he abusing her? She didnt mention that he hits her....some women always claim its abuse when in reality it isnt.
Anyways, why dont you talk to him, and let him know how you feel. Tell him you would like to get a job or go to school. |
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Fergie
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you need to get out of that relationship fast it is only going to get worse what the hell were you thinking getting married that young get out while you have no kids |
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amandafofanda66
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Get a divorce! That is not right behavior. Next, he'll start beating you. |
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NQS
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take a correspondence course to learn and get a degree. |
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aerin
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It's not fair, and you need to tell him this. Seek counselling together if you can. If you don't have any friends or family in the area that can help you out, it can be a scary situation to feel completely helpless.
The fact is, you aren't! If he won't get help for this control issue, you need to get out. If that means getting a job within walking distance of home for a couple hours a day while he is at work to save up some money, do it. This kind of relationship is abusive to you. |
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Simply_Renee
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This is abusive.
You need to tell him that you love him very much, but you need to be trusted by him enough to go to work & do what you need to.
If he doesn't "let you" do anything yourself like this- you have to GET OUT of this relationship if it bothers you. Talk to your family and friends. Consider counseling for the two of you.
Good luck, honey. |
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junior1108
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He does not let you,is that what you said?If he is jealous then you have got yourself into something that you will regreat .You said that he does not let you go anywhere without you.Are you his property or something.People do not let run them just because they are married.If you are letting him run your life like that,soon he will beat on you and then really control you.You need to stop this before it goes any further.Tell him how you feel and you need to do something,go back to school or get a job.You need to get out of the house and that you are tired of doing nothing all day.Tell him how you feel and if he can not understand this then you have a problem.But do not let him rule you like this,a marriage is too people working together to have a better life.So you did not see he was a jealous person before you got married? |
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iyamacog
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Your husband is more than simply jealous, he's controlling. You are not his wife. You're his pet. Please seek assistance before it becomes worse. If that's not agreeable or possible, then leave and acquire a restraining order. Please be careful, and do NOT take anything for granted. OR that he truly loves you and wouldnt think of hurting you. Marriage is not Jail! You have free will, please use it! |
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Mr. November
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? You need to tell him... sounds like he is very controling.... get out if it gets worse.. |
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nicole1
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he loves you, but its a dangerous love- no one should be that jealous. you better hope that he changes or you may not live to see 21. (yeah its that serious).... and after the divorce you will get mad at yourself on how many years that you have wasted on him. Life is too short and you are still young. Your suppose to enjoy life and be happy. HAPPINESS IS WORTH MORE THAN WHATEVER HE IS DOING.......... |
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lexus0405
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I am in a similar situation but we aren't yet married but we do live together! Just today I went and got a temp job because day to day it is just boring! My fiance is a very jealous person and I don't really know how to deal with it! So last night his dad was over at our house and said to me he didn't know how I have managed to stay home this long! So I ust & Faith!
1. Have my own money. ( I can't be dependent on him for everything and simply don't want to.)
2. I have been out of a job for five months and I now don't have any friends! ( I can't live without friends, really no one can. )
3. If anything was to happen to him what would I do and where would I go. ( really he should think about that also.)
4. If you let him control this certain thing now, it won't last. I can promise you that! ( Think twenty years from now four kids later, no job and no life and nothing to show for your self.)
You will eventually regret not doing anything about it and believe me when I say things will only get worse! Ask yourself if you could start over say twenty years from now! He really needs to trust you enough to understand and have faith in your relationship to let you have your life too!
Good Luck! |
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Switch
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Leave right now. If hes at work go apply for a job somewhere. Is there a market nearby or some place in walking distance you can go? Just dont listen to him if he loves you he will get over you finding a job. Maybe you could register for school. |
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miss.sunshine
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he doesnt not love you if he did he would let you go outside this is an abusive realtionship and you need to get out fast or this realtionship will end badly my friend had the same problem he never let her do anything she had he parents help get out and she did and she got a divorce and now she is a happily married woman to a wonderful man. you need to get out and divorce him you can stil live with parents with the baby the will help and you are young why would you let someone treat you like that if you keeping letting him you will have low self-esteem and no friends or family. Well hey i like being treated that way keep liveing with a totally idoit |
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Winter Glory
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You say he doesn't "let" you work, he doesn't "let" you out of the house, these are not his choices, they are yours, you choose to allow him to tell you what you can and can't do, if my husband ever told me I'm not allowed to work, or go out, well, he knows better. |
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hy003002
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You say he loves you and is good to you. What matters is 'Do you love him?' AND if he, as you say, loves you, you'll have to put up with it, at least for quite long. Seldom do people change. Being that jelous is one of the qualities that sticks to its obssessors. Maybe you are too beautiful, maybe you are too sociable and not introvert, maybe a lot of your acquaintances admire you.
Look inside yourself first, don't ask him to change - he will not.
I'm not pessemistic, but my age as well as my experience make me that sure that he won't change.
It is not easy to foresee for how long you would stand this. Talk to him reasonably. Tell him rationally that such a life will sure lead you to be sick, ill, irritable; hence unbearable.
You can even get him to go to a specialist.
I wish I could do more for you, kiddy. |
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