I m depressed.?

Jerry S

Communication is the key here. Tell him what it is that you want. Perhaps explain to him that you want to help him out with the bills and or start saving money. (only you know what it is you want) Do know that if something were to go wrong between the two of you you would have some work experience to fall back on. Perhaps explain to him that you were a working woman before you married. You're pregnant and not crippled! You will know when to stop working if he's worried about your pregnancy. I worked until the day before I delivered doing cna work. Good luck. I do think that he means well, but stress your point perhaps he will understand.

toknowmore

When you have got a caring husband, why should you worry ?
If you wish to assist him financially, you can do many home jobs like tailoring, embroidery, dolls making etc.

You should be glad that your husband is trying to keep you happy.

good luck

vishu bharal

hi
i am vishu
u r very lucky that u have got a very caring and loving husband.first thing which is important in life u have got a good husband.if u r pregnant know than u have to care for your child .ready to birth him.
if u r depress.than take the magzine and learn it hoe to care the baby,
another is read good books.like, a, monk who sold his ferrari(1 sanyasi jisne apni sampatti bach di,)another is lord krishna geeta,u will not be dipress,
i am sure. and care your child,for minimum 2 years,than take a tution for the students at home,if ur educated,
do not watch television more. read books more,and take care your health,u will not be dipress i am sure.bye have a nice life

sUnseT

There are some women like u out there.. Not to hurt ur hubby at the other side.. Explain how u feel.. Tel him ur feeling of being lonely and u wana work.. Maybe u can get a part time job.. so that u still have time for ur family and ur loving hubby..
Be happy gal!!

april_sundae

I think you should exsplain to him you don't feel good about yourself just staying at home and maybe try to get a part time job .. I almost garentee that he will understand

Expression

Find out something you can do at home. He don't feel anything wrong in this. Tailoring, tuition, call centre work, etc.

Sri Ram t

Try to enjoy it, and you will be out of that state of mind

ANU U

He is so caring,loving.What else do you want.Complete your family duties first.Your pregnancy comes first.Then think of other things. Having a carrer is important but family comes first.

malissia m

r u crazy get a hobbie i love staying at home if you dont have to work than dont but if you need the money than go r is it that he wants all the power of having all the money

AtiaoftheJulii

You should have discuss your role in the marriage before marrying him. With that said, tell him how you feel and hopefully he will take your feelings into consideration..

Good luck..

noramom4life101

Ok, well while you are pregnant let it go and busy yourself by getting things ready for the baby!!! Go and visit friends and family and get out of the house!! After you had your baby enjoy the time with the baby and then when you feel the baby is old enough to go to daycare or a babysitters talk to your husband and tell him you just want a part time job. That when your working you feel important and that you are doing something. If he is caring enough he should be able to compromise with you!!! It never hurts to sit him down and be a little stern when you tell him that you want to work!! Tell him you appreciate that he works and takes care of you and the baby and that you know you don't need to work!! But let him know that being a house wife is not something your happy with!! Working part time meets in the middle of what you both want!! Hope my advice helps you!!! Good Luck!!!

isis

I can sense that perhaps there are some cultural reasons behind your husband's decision. Is it that you want to have your own money? Or you feel the need to have outside interactions? Perhaps you can do community service or volunteer work a few days a week? There are also classes that you can take where you can meet other pregnant women. You are going to be so busy when the baby comes you should just try to enjoy not having that responsibility right now.

Afterwards, try a home-based business or volunteer work. Good luck.

Happily married

Of course family life is more important than work--even if you work it, family should be #1 priority. With that said, find something to fill your time while at home. Many churches have bible studies for stay at home moms, or find other moms in your community who feel the same way and plan a monthly or weekly lunch date and even play dates. Once your baby gets here you won't have time to be bored! You can join Mommy and Me classes, Kindermuzic, etc.

owais a

i think priority is husband.if your husband does not want you to work, u should obey him.Obeying the husband is very important in every religion & in every society.

Fernandes

I don't think you want to work to support your family. Its more of a career thing, you want to achieve something. The feeling of self-worth.
If that is so then your husband needs to know. Try a part-time job. Maybe teaching at a local school.

But as you are pregnant now, its best to wait. Plan to let your child be a little older. The forming years are very important. Then maybe you can take up a job in a creche and have your child there too. That way you get to take care of your child and work at the same time.

The important thing is to speak to your husband about it and set a time-line of when this should happen. Make your husband understand that working is one of your wishes and put that way he may lean towards fulfilling it. But ensure that you don't fall apart on such a trivial issue. Life is bigger than this. Once done your mood will be much better.

robyn f

find out if any school near you needs volunteers eg reading tutors its usually only a few hours a day Monday to Friday it gets you out and it can be very rewarding watching someone who couldn't read actually reading. talk to your husband and tell him it would help in your relationship, its not all day and your helping children that need help. you can stop when baby arrives and in some places you can take baby with you.

Lolly M

Raising your kids is most important. Have you ever checked out day cares? Go look than you'll be depressed!!!!!!!!!!
I am also a stay home mother of 2 and tend to wish alot of time I could go back to work. I feel I wasn't cut out for motherhood. I started a new business, my kids can come with, it's called Arbonne!!!!
I am having so much fun with it I am making extra money that I can do whatever I want with, my husbands not mad 'cause the kids are with me.
Men really don't understand how it feels to all the sudden have your entire life change. They don't know how it feels to stay home all day with our only outing is the grocery store.

I would love to get you involved in Arbonne with me click my profile and send me an e-mail.
It gave me sense of worth again!!!!!!!!!!!!

sweetgranny06

tell him you get depressed not working and you love him but your going to get a job and he'll have to get used to it

dee d

why don't you try to answer surveys on the intenet for money I am doing that and it is fun.

bentley b

You need to stand your ground. How depressing!

I am totally a very outgoing person. Everytime I get stuck in the house, I get depressed. This is normal because you're not being your normal you.

If you're husband wants to be that controlling then you need to decide if you want to be controlled or if you want to love him, but love yourself first.

Remember... As stupid as this sounds....

There is ONLY ONE OF YOU and many men out there. Don't make the mistake of trying to please everyone else. You will end up in the long run regretting it. You have to live for YOURSELF AND for your kid. But, I'm sure you already know this.

tasolover

my adise to yu is that yu stay at home-yu are lucky enough that yu have got so husband-who as k yu to stay in home--once yu will leave yur house day time it might be not good fr-yur hose will remain empty fr long time- when yu are out side some dat at yur working time a white women will enter she will take sancks all yu were keeping in yur house -yu will keep a baby sitter -she will phone to yur husabnd come soon to yur home -yur baby are crting---i hope yu under stood-dont leave yu childern -other wise yu get worry--and no curry----

After the baby comes go and get a part time job a few days here and there just for you tell him that you need to get out of the house to do something!!! but i think that after you have a child that you will have plenty to do!! so good luck but just go out when he is not home and find one that's what i would do!! Good Luck

Piggy Don't live heerr no mo'

It's not going to help your home life if mom is depressed all the time. What you need to do is to explain to your husband how important it is for you to fell better about yourself to work outside of the home. Not every woman is born and bred to be a stay-at-home mom. Especially if you know how fulfilled your soul is outside of the home. Your husband needs to get over his insecurities about having his wife out of his control, and learn to trust you more. My ex-husband couldn't come to terms with the fact that I didn't want to be a stay-at-home mom which is the reason he is now an ex...Some men think it's a threat to their manhood to have their wives work out side of the home. Aside from the obvious if you're a beautiful woman they don't want to have men fighting for your attention. Some men are even insecure of the chance that maybe their wives will make more money then they do. But if your husband loves, trusts, and cares about your goals and aspirations in life then he will come to terms with his feelings. But the best thing for you to do right now is to just explain to him how you feel and what it is that you want to do, because you household will deteriarate if everypone isn't happy....

mrklcoac2002

sit your husband down and tell him how you feel

stephanie R

tell your husband u need out of the house and look for a part-time job or do voluntary work

hritu

aunty plz dont work
presently u r pregnant u r hubby is very sweet. he is loves u very much & care for u dont brake his fillings

amit g

you ask one more time and talk if he loves you he will understand

GRANPA1

Put your self in a state of mind, what is healthy for you and your baby? He's probably so out of it right now with the baby coming and him working, he feels that the safest place for you and his child is at home, It gives him security to know where you are at in case of an emergency, he feels that it would be his fault if anything was to happen to you or his unborn baby, ride it out for now and enjoy the days you have together and as your family grows you will find the time to accomplish all your dreams.

ZK431

I heard a story of this situation b4 & it ended up in divorcing!
My thoughts r if he doesn't want u to work & u don't want to hurt him & on the other side u also want to work. Try doing something at home. Like teaching for example.U said he's caring & if u put this idea in front of him he might agree. U'll have something to do & he won't be mad cause u r not going out to work! U know u r pregnant & after u have ur baby u might not have these thoughts . Try to compromise with him don't push on what u want that way he might feel insult cause he's a man & want u to listen to him. Compromise is the only way to stay happy. This way u can get what u want but have his way, too. take it easy. Don't get mad too much U have a new life with u, too. think abt that angle. Baby'll give u a lot to do & if u start working out side u won't be able 2 take care of the baby properly. Don't be depress. Good luck. & remember arguing won't help!

Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo

It is better to stay with children while they are young, but you don't have to stay couped up in the house all the time,,,visit friends take some classes help out when people need it..you could cook for someone that has had a death or a new neighbor..all of these things help, also meet some new friends...

letsget_dangerous

its all important, but if your not happy they won't be either. So bottom line do you need to work to be happy..simple isn't it?

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