I messed around w/ a married man and didn't know he was married...?

Virginia

What would you get out of telling her? Clear your conscious and ruin the life of his kids. Let it go you have moved on with your life leave it that way. If he is going to be a dirt bag then eventually things will catch up to him.

Jesus aka *Jebus* in America

oh well....get to know your bed buddy better before bedding them!

Groucho

Sure tell her discreetly. Dont walk up in a super market and say " Hi your husband and I had an affair" but try this instead.
Call her and explain the situation and tell her how it made you feel once you found out about his being married. IF you dont know her number then write a letter. Be sure to make sure that you include something about him that she will see that your not lying about it. And be sensible about it telling her that if shes needs to talk about it that your willing. Just dont get into a fist fight over it.
It is a good thing that you broke it off and moved on.

Take it easy

pingrys

let it go some this are better left unsaid.

cireengineering

Drop it and move on.

twinspulstwo

Don't tell his wife.

leave him alone.

nes

You dont have to do anything, his karma will get to him eventually.

reddevilbloodymary

let it go......

thebest60400

let it go

Sullen Riot

Tell her if you'd like because she is at risk for STDs etc if he keeps fooling around with random women and then going back to her.

licht702000

Just forget it.

We're Gonna Get You

You wont be the 1st and you wont be the the last. You just never know these days the double {even triple} lives people lead. It could happen to anyone regardless of how life sharp they are.

Simple...move one. I'm sure you have better things to do in life than bother about one cheating a****.

Yoshi

well it might hurt her to know but she should have the right to know if her husband is a cheater

Right Wing Extremist

No it is not up to you to tell her. go on with your life. Be happy

tombaker93

give him the choice he does or you do. it is not your fault they lie so well don't they. the truth will set her free. she will find out it is best she does asap. the sooner she knows the sooner she can get over it and get on with her life for the better.

362436

Anonymously let her know.

C_DOGG

Let it go.

x2000

I would let her know in some way. Otherwise, there will just be more. He used you. Put an end to his little party. He ended his marriage when he cheated.

Barb S

Quit sleeping with everyone. If you don't know if they're married your jumping in the sack too soon

looking 4

Absolutely tell her.

lacyma03

I dont think you should tell her. It really is none of your business anymore. Dont ruin another persons marriage.. your in a happy relationship, so concentrate on that.

Now if he hadnt of told you, and you had found this out on your on, then I would say, yes.. tell her. But, even though it was "too late" and I'm guessing you were caught up in the moment, the fact is- he did tell you. You could have ended it right then and there, but chose not to.

Let him tell her when he's ready. Dont get in the middle and add unnecessary drama to your life.

Keyman

You shouldn't feel bad for believing what you thought was the truth. When love is inolved we like to think we are trustful of our loved one. I think you did the right thing by ending it with him and that you should just let it go and be happy in the relationship you are in.

Telling the wife may cause a breakup which could seriously affect the children, so for their sake, I would suggest not telling the wife unless you believe it cannot be helped.

Jacie

This is not your marriage. Stay out of it.

Perhaps he has repented and is no longer cheating. To tell her would destroy her and their marriage for no reason.

Jenny

You didn't know that he was married and now that your not with him its not your problem. You did the right thing already and its up to him if he wants to have it in his conscience that he cheated. You moved on with your life and don't think back.

harbo

Let it alone. How would you feel when your boyfriend cheats on you do you think that Monica is going to tell.

steve

let it go..only more pain will come out of you telling her...

teresathegreat

You began in innocence, but you should have ended the relationship the second you found out the truth, regardless of how close you were. It is good that you did eventually end the relationship and move on.

It really isn't any of your business anymore. This probably isn't the only time he's cheated on her; she has a right to know the truth, but he is the one who ought to tell her. So if you tell her, tell her for HER sake, to spare her further humilation - not for your sake, to clear your conscience or get revenge.

David J

NO, keep your nose out of it. You've moved on..... I'm sure she'll find out soon enough.

chucknorris

Let it go... His wife probably knows more than you give her credit for. If she chooses to overlook certain things, there's no need to rub it in her face. They need to sort it out - stick to your happy relationship.

:Sheila:

If there weren't kids involved, I would think that maybe you should tell her. But since there ARE kids involved, you're not just messing with her life but also with her kids'. Maybe he has truly vowed to not cheat anymore.. in that case, you'd be ruining many lives if she found out. I think that he is doing the right thing by staying with his family. Therefore, don't say anything.
If he ends up cheating again, it's no longer your business.

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