I moved in with my boyfriend of 6 months, and now he wants to get married, is it to soon? Help me please!?

tool

only you can answer that!

kystik83

why move in with him if you dont want to marry him??

chica540205

you shouldn't have moved in with him if you weren't ready to get married.

Pamela M

Depends if you love him ??!! maybe you could have a long engagement first !

2 and a half

u shouldnt live with some1 unless u are married

banana6464

Yes - WAY too soon. What's the rush?

kimberly n

Yes!!! It takes a long time to truly get to know each other! I don't know how old you are but our tastes change so much from 20-30 years old - what I "loved" at 23 (when I got married) I absoluately hated at 35 so my advise is to wait because "forever" is a very long time. By the way...I married the love of my life at 41!

Charley

You seem a little scared, in question - it's a gut instinct, even you know it's too soon, but I wish you the Best.

Noe F

That depends on your feelings and values with your bf. Ask urself and then him, how your feel about him, past the infactuation, get down deep and dirty, get the answers to your feelings, before you ge pregnant and get married...good luck and communicate your feelings

Taracita

I'd say if you have to ask...then it's most likely too soon. Also, I personally think living with someone before marriage can be disastrous...b/c if you two ever break up it can be very messy (and I know people get divorces, but marriage comes with legal backup). Anyway, I say go with what your gut tells you...I believe you know the answer to your question. Don't force yourself to believe everything will be OK if you don't really feel that in your heart. Think long and hard about it before deciding b/c the decision can change your life.

Isabella

If you have to ask, it's probably to soon. Clearly you don't feel as ready as he does. Why is he in such a rush?

Patti

Hi. It would depend first on both of your ages. If you are both say in your early 20s to mid 20s and have loving feelings to each other...then no it's not to early. My opinion would be to get engaged for a few months and see how it feels and if it "feels right" go for it.
Blessings & Best Wishes,
Patti

juanita

go for it.do you love him are you guys comfortable with liveing together i say live your life be happy

Shelly

Personally, that is too soon for my tastes, but people have gotten engaged on less time than that and have succeeded. Only you truly know how you feel about him and if you are ready. Just don't rush a good thing.

satanicsex101

I am afraid girl that you and only you can answer that question. We are talking about matters of the heart. No one can give you the right answer on this one. Some people would say it's to soon and others may say it's not soon enough.

donna_honeycutt47

If you are even having to ask this Question then "YES" its too soon. You really do not even know a person that well until you Live with them awhile. Tell him maybe in the future but right now, you are not ready..

elsa e

I do believe that getting married is by faith not for how long or how soon you will be engaged.6 months is more than enough to know if you are compatible and in love.

John H

I would say that it's too soon. What's the rush? If you really love each other, marriage can wait. Get to know each other and see if you really want to get married. It only takes a few minutes to get married, but getting out of it takes a whole lot longer and can be very uncomfortable as well as costly. If he really loves you, he'll wait and I wouldn't be pressured into marriage until you are absolutely sure that you BOTH want to tie the knot.

goldwing

running at high speed? be very careful, fast may equate to controll issues, babe. Keep your eyes open..what is the hurry here?

Red_Rose

It all depends how much you love your bf, if this is the guy you want to be with for the rest of your life and that he's a good man, than go for it, it's your choice. If you think it's too soon, then sit down with your bf and tell him that you love him and that your happy that you moved in with him and can't wait what our lives will hold for us and that you want to take your time to know and get to know your bf..wait another 6 moths and if your ready for marriage then go for it.

kathyw

Gee, I don't know if it's too soon. You've been going with this guy for six months? Have you ever gone with a guy in high school for six months and gone on to have many other dates with many other guys and enjoyed yourself immensely being single?
The answer to that question is probably yes, you probably did date different guys and have fun. So why the hell are you 'shacking up' with someone right now and wondering if it's too soon to get married? You probably clean up after this guy and worry when the laundry pile gets too high and whether there is milk in the refrigerator. You're playing house and taking a break from the singles scene for awhile and acting like you're 'emotionally involved' with someone who really is just your roommate with benefits.
He wants to get married? Uh-oh. Disconnect here. Reality check. Maybe something else is going on. Maybe he thinks there is something more here. Do yourself a favor and break up with this guy. He obviously isn't a good candidate for your 'break from the single life' to live in sin.

kerilynn_77

Hm... if you think its too soon then its too soon. Listen to your heart and mind and compare the two... if you feel its not right at this moment - let him know.

The pink panther

If you are having to ask, then it's too soon. If you are feeling the least bit scared, then by all means wait. Alot of people get married for the wrong reasons, and wonder why it didn't work out, especially when they are young. You need to ask yourself a few questions about your boyfriend. does he keep his finances in order and pay his bills on time? Would he make a great dad? HOw do you handle problems between you. do you work them out in a friendly way? Does he have goals for his career, savings account....do you have a job? How will you handle your savings and checking accounts? Will you have shared or separate accounts? Will you pay the bills together or will one of you do it. which one will do it? Believe me, these things will come up, so you had better get some answers now. The honeymoon won't last forever, and taking care of these situations, will either make you or break you. Take your time and find out as much about him as you can. Make sure he will be committed to you and willing to work at the marriage. Marriage is not magical, although it does seem so at first. things don't take care of themselves. You two have to make it work , and work together.

mmedina96

depends on how long you dated? are you comfortable with him? and the biggie do you love him i mean are you in love with him?

Top Alpha Wolf

If you both love each other boundlessly and are prepared for eventual kids, have a good financial set up and are emotionally mature enough to deal with life's hardships, then there is no reason to say no if it's what you want.

If you aren't sure what you want, then it's too soon and you need to wait. You should only say yes if you have no hesitations or reservations that it's the right thing to do.

Maria

It depends on how old you are and the experience that you have in life thus far.

justme

Well I would think that if you moved in you should be married. I mean traditionally that happens before you move in. But what ever floats your boat. He probably expected marriage out of a move-in.

Jackofalltrades216

You put it on 'em huh? This maybe a control move by you BF..Is he controlling? Make siure you express yourself to him how you feel about the likelyhood of that. If your are not ready ..theres nothin wrong with that.. maybe he feels he is.. if he isnt willing to accept the fact marriage is the thing right now ..maybe he isnt right 4u. Patience ..people will wait for what they want. ya dig?

tink

I think if you really love each other then go ahead and get married. Don't get married for anyother reason.

cherokee squaw

i got married 6 months and 1 day after we met, we just celebrated 16 years this month......... but it's been hard, we didn't know enough about each other, BUT we are determined to stay together, do you think you both have the staying power? I PERSONALLY BELIEVE LOVE IS NOT AN EMOTION, BUT A DECISION......... hope this helps....

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