I need advice?

Bobby B

screw him if he really loved u he would have stayed with u even if u were fat he is the 1 that did it 2 u besides even if u were prgnant all girls get fat

Chuckler

He is putting conditions on his return to you. He is trying to manipulate you by saying you are not good enough to return to unless you do what I say(by telling you to lose weight) Let this LOSER go. He has had too many chances and you deserve a decent man. Your ex is not behaving like decent man.

jamand

Do you think you could trust him again - NO I didn't think so - once a liar always a liar - do you think if he moved back this would be the end of it - NO the other woman would have control over him with the other kids until they were at least of school leaving age - let alone what he would have to pay towards her kids upbringing! You life would be a misery for ever and a day!

Move on sweetheart - much as it might be hurting now - you know it is for the best!

thedaddy

if he doesnt want you for you then tell him to get stuffed. If you want to lose weight then do it for you and not for some loser ex boyfriend! I can understand that as you have kids together then you need to stay civil but dont let this man back in your life, what he says to you he probably says to his current girlfriend and if he didnt want kids then he should have kept his pants on. You can do better

fungirl

he'll get back with you if you lose weight. r u seriously considering giving this guy another chance? he is playing you. his new girl is pregnant and he probably doesn't find her attractive right now or she isn't in the mood. so he's telling you what he thinks you want to hear just to get in your pants. ask yourself this: if he still loved you, why isn't he doing everything he can to get back with you instead of making babies with somebody else? do yourself a favor. don't listen to him. don't let him back in your bed. the only interaction you 2 need to have is about the kids. if you're not talking to him about the children, then you don't need to talk to him. you deserve better than what he is able to give you. you deserve someone who is going to love you, be faithful to you, and respect you.

good luck to you.

DR. E

Seems like he has enough kids, and so do you, quit thinking of romance now and focus on the children, he needs to get a vas, and live on his own, and support the children he is bringing into the world. Being a single parent isn't easy, but being a single parent and a crutch is worse.

Paddy B

Get the hell out of there. is there anyone you can trust a couple of hundred miles away? if so go like the clappers in that direction...

honey xx

i hope if he's a good father you can be civil for you two kids, but apart from that sweety tell him to hit the road, how dare he say he will come back if you loss weight, but in the mean time, he will pull anything in a skirt, i bet you can do better, and bring your kids up being happy on your own, i wish you luck x

blastabuelliac

He wants to get back together if you lose weight? Honey, WAKE UP! He's a loser. He's hurt you , lied to you and can't accept you the way you are? Move on. Get an education to learn to depend on yourself because your kids need to depend on you. Use condoms or the pill and don't get pregnant again until you have your life together.And learn to love yourself Honey. If you love yourself you'll find guys that are worthy of you. Good Luck

chickadee

If he can turn his back on this child then think what he could do to you, do you really want to be with a man who'll only be with you if you're slim? Tell him to do one! Get on with you're life, if you go back to him you'll get all you deserve.

P.Z.

DONT DO IT.

Dont fall for it.

you'll be sorry.

you getting involved in alot of baby momma drama.

LEAVE IT BE!!

if he really loved you still he wouldnt have done you the way he did and certainly wouldnt have gotten involved with other women.

ceetee

Tell me if this is someone you would want your daughter to have a relationship with. Tell me if this is someone you want your son to be modeled after.

1. There was a reason the two of you split up in the first place, did he or you remedy that reason?
2. He is in another relationship, now after a child and another pregnancy he is running back to you?
3. He doesn't want the child that his significant other is carrying after the fun of making it?
4. He wants you only if you lose weight or change yourself while he stays the same?
5. He has hurt you and lied to you in the past?
Why would you even think twice about this????

s_hinard

tell him to go f**k his self, if YOU want to lose weight for yourself do it but not for him, i would lose weight then tell him he is the pits of a man and you wouldnt touch him whith a barge pole

petmadbolton123

Defo move on hun there are plenty more fish in sea.Don't get back with him for the sake of the kids,it might make things worse for them i.e arguing,fighting and so on

Amoeba

A straightforward answer cannot be given; I would suggest goingto see a relationship counsellor. E.g. RELATE

Donna S

oh dear, you dont need to loose weight to be loved, it is also not a loving thing to say to someone, do you feel you are being treated with Love & respect, i think u already know what you have to do, i know it is hard with the kids, but nothing changes if nothing changes.....

Good Luck

he will only come back to you if you lose weight.

Tell him you will have him back once his d*ck grows 5 more inches in length and 3 inches in width.. see his face and self esteem drop then.

You dont need this tw@t

nadine

Don't go back with him, just because he says he doesn't want that baby doesn't mean he can walk away, hes responsible for the next 18 years.

Whats with the losing weight thing? does he expect you to feel guilty? you were heavy that's why he strayed, its all your fault! Give me a break!

He's a bum, move on.

the rock

kick his mother @#$%^&* as_ out the do and lose the weight but not for him. USe your new chance at life on finding a new life for your self. dont be so reliant on a man. You got two kids who need you.

Miss RoZy

Sound to me like you better off without him. You could not trust him anymore and when trust is gone out of any relationship you are left with absolutely nothing and would be wasting your time. If you want to lose weight then do so but do it because you want to and not for him or anyone else.
Show him you are not dependent on him and are capable of living a life with your children without him as the central figure. Although you should allow contact with his kids of course. None of this mess is their fault

â™ª Tony's girl â™ª

if he truly loved/loves you he wouldn't of gotten the other girl pregnant. he just probably feels pity for what he's done and his relationship with her isn't working and probably can't stand to be alone so he wants to get back with you. if you want to get back with him, make him work for it- don't let him move in too quickly and make sure you set forth ultimatums/boundaries because the ball is in your court and now you can call the shots. if he wants you back, then he'll have to prove it by following what you've set forth.

Oma

You don't really want someone like him raising your children do you?

kaela_1993

no he shouldent have hert you it's hard to for give him as it' is so no that relationship would just hert you and you'r kid's and then he's just going to do the same thing to you to do what's best for you not for him ! good luck !!!!!!!!!!

kcee82

all you need to worry about is you're kids and you tell him bugger off you said you lost weight so go and find yourself a good man to make you feel special go for it girl

Mean Carleen

Duh....are you crazy!! I wouldnt take him back. Take care of yourself and your kids and hopefully he is paying child support because making babies seems to be all he can do and you want to make sure your kids are getting what they should before ALLLLLLthe other kids get it all.

Amish Rebel

Move on.

I was tempted to say talk to him and work it out until i read the part about you having to lose weight.

dimpelmum

he only loveÂ´s himself , he should love you for who you are and not for how much pounds you weigh, Find someone else , that really loveÂ´s you for you

deebradley2000

Wh....at?!!!! You're even thinking about having him back astounds me. What kind of man puts conditions like "lose weight" on a potential reconciliation? Would you really want him back knowing he has fathered another child and says he doesn't want it!! What a rat. Don't believe any of his cr@p! Gather up your life and your kids and find someone worth having.

Klara B.

Noooooooooooooooooooo!

If you lost some weight?

Seriously, girl, you do not need this man in your life - not at the moment, at least. Get on with it, look after your children, work on improving every possible aspect of your lives - but for yourself, not because someone who's making vague and conditional offers (and, by the way, what, EXACTLY, has he got to offer you?).

Best of luck.

sami

tell him he is a cheeky *unt for teling u to lose weight!!!

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