I need advice and real help with my wife?

csi_speedchick

Unfortunately I'd say file for divorce. After the divorce you can still talk to her if you wish, but at least you can tell her that you had the balls to get out of one relationship before getting into another.

Bad luck man.

i_ate_sponge_bob

Divorce there are only so many chances you can give her.

oldmarine08

What the hell are you doing taking here back after the first time, now 5-6 more times....dude grow a set and tell her to kiss off!

Completly in love

cheating is never acceptable

eqaddix

Wow you must really have some issues if you are even considering staying with someone that has left you and cheated on you 3 times or more.

Please get a divorce and spare us all.

Jennifer H

Get some self esteem and realize you deserve BETTER!!!!

Ontheotherhand

A marriage can't and shouldn't endure if trust has been shown to be impossible. I'm certain your wife promised to be your wife, and not have a boyfriend each time she came back to you. Since she hasn't done that, you'd be stupid to trust her. So, end the marriage. Now, she's says she wants to come back again. Unless you crave heartbreak, give up on your marriage. There comes a point when words and promises mean nothing. That IS where you are.

Rae70

You need to get a divorce. She obviously has no intentions of working things out. She has no respect for you. You are a good person and don't need to have this happen to you. She has been doing this to you for awhile and she may keep doing this. Why put yourself into a situation on taking care of another man's baby. I'm sure you lover her but do you need to have this type of relationship.

smallbizperson

Sorry, but it seems clear that while you are willing to make a go of your marriage, your wife is not.
Contact a lawyer about a divorce and protecting your rights. Insist on a paternity test, so that you can prove the child is not yours and you are not responsible for child support.
If the child is yours, you need to decide if you are willing for your wife to raise the child or if you want to do this yourself. If you want to raise the child, then you are going to need evidence of her faithlessness and instability as a potential parent for a child custody suit.
Go to counseling yourself to help you move on with your life. Either way, one bad marriage doesn't define you. You need to spend time with family and friends who are positive and supportive. You need to take up a new hobby or interest and meet new people. You have the rest of your life to live.

snickers

Why would you even think about staying with her.. She is using you big time and if she keeps going back this other guy come on open your eyes. You could do better. I would never let her come back I m sorry good luck.

redhead27

Grow a spine and stand up for yourself man! You said she was pregnant... with whose baby, yours or his?

You say you want access to her phone record... well, then your setting yourself up for a life of misery. If she moves back in, you really want to spend your days examining her phone record? Come on, man... don't waste your time doing that. I say move on from this, she has shown more than once... 3 times to be exact her complete lack to care for your marriage. she obviously wants her cake and eat it too, ans as long as you keep letting her back in your life you are giving her control over your emotions. Get some confidence, you deserve better than to be treated like that.

Lil L

Bro u gotta get sum balls n divorce her ***. she playin you.

Mr. Puddy T

Stacey,

Are you kidding me? Where in the hell is your backbone man? This women cannot be trusted in any manner whatsoever and she just wants to have you there as a security blanky - understand?

Nothing more! she wants you to be able to make her feel secure as she carries this other irresponsible dudes child. Then as soon as he gets his act together or actually wants to have something to do with her again she will leave AGAIN.

When someone cheats they must give up all their privacy to win back your trust and this skank sorry to say is just taking you for a ride. You need to move on and do the following if you haven't already done so.

Close all joint accounts credit cards - bank accounts - JCPenny accounts EVERYTHING! Give her her share and tell her to hit the road.

She took a vow and then broke it then instead of coming to you to be honest she gets caught. Her actions speak perfectly clear she got back in the house and then carried on then once he called her back she left you high and dry for this dude.

Honestly this is the time that she was caught - she has probably had a few tester humps as well before this and you need to get this type of person out of your life before she destroys everything else around her.

Stacey don't you deserve someone that will put you first in their lives? someone you can trust and know that they will stand by you? She has proven she is none of the above and you need to trust that gut feeling your having.

MOVE ON GET an attorney and get this skank out of your life and get some counselling and find someone that will put you first once you get your head straight!!!

Tat

niner9

sorry but i think the best thing is a divorce i mean i know its hard because when ur serious about getting married no one or anything can change ur mind because of the love u have for that person but it also doesn't give that person to stomp all over ur heart ur a GREAT guy for even taking her back as many times and if she cant even give a that lil security then man forget her cuz she will never change unfortunately i know it hurts like a stab in the back but sometimes u just have to let it go
good luck And i hope u find someone who deserves u!

Tammy Bechechi

I now it sounds hard to do but she obviously doesn't love you any more. If she is seeing someone else than file for a divorce. she does not respect you enough after THREE times. enough is enough. sorry for such bad news. good luck. the right one is still out there waiting for you! Go get em tiger!

Arlene

That is alot of infidelity to deal with. Why does she want to come back now after she is pregnant? You need to step back, look at this situation objectively, and ask yourself some hard questions...At the end of the day you cannot make someone love you, or be faithful, so putting conditions on her will not change her motivations for seeking an outside relationship.

There are some basic fundamentals to a healthy, long lasting relationship, like trust, integrity, honesty, respect...I would truly think about your options. To me it does not look like your wife respects you, you are her husband, not her rebound, stand up for yourself!!!!!

Good luck!

Bs Girl

I would say that the damage was already done and you should just file the paperwork.

pilot girl

O heck no! File those divorce papers buddy! You guys gave it a try and she didn't believe in the sanctity of your marriage so kick her to the curb. Is she preggo with your child? If so, do the right thing by being in the child's life and so on. . .
Your quality of life will be much better without her in it. NOBODY deserves to be cheated on. Do yourself a favor and maintain your self-respect.

zhiv

divorce her honey. you'll never trust her again... and she is not ready to grow up...

you have become her fall back guy

nancy_aguirre3

....y are u putting up with this???? all ur doing is hurting urself more each time. file for divorce and find urself someone that truly deserves YOU. youre worth more...

Wheels

I don't use the word divorce lightly, but darling in your case I would say it is time to leave and file for a divorce and find someone that will love and respect you for who you are. You shouldn't have to take on the responsibility of anther's mans baby. It appears to me that your wife now is in love with two men and unfortunately you are the one that is taking the wrap.

MaMa

She can't have her cake & eat it too. Quit letting her play you. And remember, a marriage has to have honesty + trust. So based on my opinion, file for divorce & insist on proof that the baby is yours or not.

Clementine

you should dump her sorry a..., pack up her stuff and throw it on the front lawn. You are too good for her.

wondering

I believe you gave her enough chances. She has free will with you. Are you a door mat she can wipe her feet on every time she walks in and out? You should make sure the baby is yours and care for the baby if it is. But don't let her disrespect you any longer.

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