I need help?please im begging!?

Macky

Sometimes in life you just have to take a gamble. If you think that he is capable of supporting you and you trust him fully not to take advantage of this well I don't see anything wrong in tying the not. But just a question, how did he own a diner at that age? Did he inherit it or won the lotto or something? How successful is he in life right now? Did you see the ownership papers for this so called diner of his?

Here's the thing though, you are in the age that sometimes rush things.... hell I got married at the age of 30 and I have to say that my in laws are as manipulative as they can be. To shorten things marriage is VERY VERY VERY HARD maintain. Your parents know this that is why they are trying to talk to you to think things through. This is your make it or break it moment. A chapter in your life to thoroughly THINK if getting married is the right answer.

By the looks of things, why don't you guys try to live together for 3-5 years and then decide if you guys are meant to be. That is the biggest test for your relationship.

As for your parents that threatened to disown you is nothing but foolish words. In the end, they would still take you in if you are in a rut.

goldie

They love you, and just want the best for you. I know you don't want to hear this, but at 19, you really have no idea what you're going to be like in 10 yrs. You will change ALOT, by the time you're 30. I'm not saying to wait til you're 30 to marry.. But PLEASE have a nice LONG engagement...

Sarah

If you both truly love each other why rush?
Why not get your life in order first...maybe it's finishing school, buying a home, a car or whatever. Once you get everything in order it will be easier to have a happy, successful marriage.
Marriage is hard enough on it's own without having to deal with the stress of everything else. Take your time, enjoy each other and in time you will appreciate the idea of marriage that much more.
The fact that you feel you even have to ask this question tell's me you may not be ready for such a life altering commitment and responsibility. I'm sorry, I know that's not what you wanted to hear but it is the truth.

teenie

No way does he own a dinner at 21 don't you mean his parent own the dinner and it will be his one day. Yes it is your life but I'm telling you now you are way way to young to be getting married. I got married at your age and it lasted every bit of 19 months. You will be happy for a very short time but no matter what anyone tells you on here you will do it anyways. Most likely you will get answers you want because their are so many young people on here givtng you advise on things they really no nothing about or haven't even experience it yet but here they are giving you advise. I'm not talking about anyone who has been married over two years even that's nothing. Well good luck on your short marriage don't say i didn't warn you.

Bonnie

As a parent, this doesn't really make sense. My concern would be the happiness of my child. As long as the man treats her right, then it doesn't matter whether I really like him or not. Smoking? Not enough reason to dislike someone .. and definately not enough to turn my child away from me. You're of legal age and can make your own decisions ... and your parents have to live with that.

Sue C

I KNOW you're NOT going to like my ans., BUT, actually your parents ARE rite. Not for their reasons, BUT you honestly ARE too young. The divorce rate on young marriages are VERY HIGH. Reason being, you have NOT had the dating experience you NEED to have. I TOO was exactly your age, so was my ex. Engaged also at 17! Had our first child a yr. later & another one 16 mons. later. The marriage lasted just under 5 yrs. We just did NOT have a chance to date others, & found it out after the fact. NO ONE could tell us either, we just KNEW we were rite...WRONG...they were the rite ones. I KNOW this w/NOT do you any good, BUT it is the very TRUTH...Hate to say it, but we ALL have to learn the hard way/our way...Best to you...:)

ohiostatebuck_i

He's 21, owns a diner and he can take care of you...hmmm....are you sure your telling us the whole truth here?I cant see parents hating someone just because they smoke IF this young man really does have his own (successful) business in your town.

Either way, its your life and parents (usually) know best from their own mistakes but do what you feel is right for you. Your parents most likely wont banish you from their lives completely, their just mad and trying to scare you.

Good luck!

Karla Kay

I have friends who married and divorced the "wrong" person who then wanted to know why someone didn't warn them. Friends and family did warn them, but people who are in a frenzy over someone don't hear. You refuse to listen, but you need to take a long hard look at whether your parents are right or not. Do you think they are just trying to be mean to you? Not likely. If this love is for real, what's the rush? Slow down. The fact that he wants to get married fast is a red flag to me. And like it or not, opposition fans the flame. The more they protest, the more you want to prove them wrong. Don't screw up your life over a power struggle.

Georgio (I'm a dude)

Georgio is here to save the day!

Ok you saying you need help...I help you.

Lemme see now....MARRIAGE? MARRIAGE? That's like trying to bring peace to the middle east. We better off just nuking it.

â™¥B@BY~GURLâ™¥

IF THEY ARE WILLING TO LOOSE YOUR THEIR OWN CHILD THEN LET THEM HAVE IT THEIR WAY THEY WILL BE SORRYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY...

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