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cream_10451

Man You better Just tell him NOW If You Really Love Your Brother.Trust Me If He Keeps Her He Will Be Getting Hurt And You'll Be There To Witness That ,While You Feel Guilty About IT!!!

getmymackon

Ask her wtf?

Give her a 5 minute headstart to tell him if she doesn't then you do it.

magnet4trouble

confront her

then tell him if u dont like her answer

CincyCat

Give her the opportunity to explain what happened. Could be, you saw something that looked a lot worse than it was (Don't know....I wasn't there, obviously. Just throwing that out to you.)

If it was innocent, she'll probably be able to explain it sufficiently to you.

If not, then you've just put her on notice that she's been spotted being a bad girl.

Go into the conversation gently and give her the chance to steer it. If you go in all gangbusters, you'll probably get that kind of reaction in return, so you wouldn't be able to determine if something were being hidden from you.

chrysteena

my personal opinion.... you should do both... go to her and explain what you saw and how it made you feel.... why you are going to tell your brother should be self explanatory.... i would talk to her like 20mins prior to your brother getting there... but if you want an either or answer id say tell your brother...think of how upset he would be if he found out that you knew and didn't tell him.... betrayed.... good luck though...

Lw's Lady

Sounds like a soap opera!!!
Was the kiss a little kiss,or was it a Kiss Kiss....Your poor brother.

twinkle2twinkle

confront her first it could be a simple kiss of saying goodbye and moving on sometimes exes do stay friends i am still friends with my first love but we both know that it is all about being friends and nothing more my husband is even friends with him and he knows we had a past but he has his life and i have mine.

Donna J

I'm surprised she was kissing him right out in public!! or were you kinda spying. maybe it was innocent. maybe not. why open that can of worms by telling anyone. if you really must make it your business then mention it lightly to her. she may or may not want to say anything. either way it's her husbands life. don;t interfere.

beanodom

OK>>>. this is your brother.. do you really need to ask this question? I know you dont want to hurt him but wouldnt it be better than waiting 10 years and him catch her in bed with another man? YOU NEED TO TELL HIM!

Crystal G

you need to inform her that you saw her and that you are going to tell your brother what you saw or you can just tell your brother what you saw. than tell her that you saw her and that you told your brother. your brother needs to know. becuz she is going to become pregnant and you will always wonder if the baby is the ex or not. so tell brother ASAP. GodBless

pruittsgurl_01

You need to talk to him about it... An if it was me i would do it with her sittin there.. i had to tell my brother one time that is GF was messin around on him it wasn't easy but i knew it had to be done.. He did what most guys would do he left her high an dry.. i didnt do it to break them up i did it cause i knew that he would tell me if he knew my bf/husband was messin around.. An whos to say that kiss wont lead to something else later on if it hasn't already.. If she loved your brother that would have never happen..

Kerrie

Marriage is probably the biggest decision that anyone has to make. It's not like a house/ a car that you just decide to sell when it doesn't work for you anymore.

May be your sister in law just got confused with all her emotions going all over the place. I personally won't go straight to your brother about this. I would probably choose to talk to her about it first and say that you're just concerned for your brother and her of course ( now that you're family). see what she says?

518

You should have told your brother before the wedding now that you didn't''t you can't tell him. Confront her because what you saw may not be what you think you saw ...............

pinkskies

talk to her first say i know whats been going on with your ex & what happen at the wedding confirms it...now you put me in a compromising position....im going to discuss this with my brother but i'll give you a chance to explain yourself....then talk to your brother.....later the two of them will work it out considering its all their problem now...

darlin

You have no idea if it was a congratulatory kiss that went too far... so before you accuse take a deep breath.

If you are close to your sister in law, why not ask her why her ex boyfriend was invited to the wedding ? listen to her reaction, it may give you a clue to know if she is hiding something.

You could also just wait it out. you have no idea what it was so before you are the cause of the trouble, let it be. I am sure you were not the only one to see this kiss, so someone else may have already mentioned it or maybe he even saw it himself ....

Debbie M

You should have told your brother the day of the wedding, he will probably not believe you now and it would really make him upset with you, so you need to go to her and let her know what you saw and tell her if you even hear of her having any contact with her ex that you will go to your brother and tell him everything. Your brother deserves to know the truth but right now he is so in love that he will not believe you, so spare his feeling at this time but always remember that family is more important than anything or anyone and let his wife know that you are mad and you will not allow her to make a fool of your brother again. The kiss might have been innocent but you don't know that and explain this to her. Good luck!

kendaw374

Lady salvi,
First i want too say they got married because they Love each other deary.-please do not (assume) cause she kissed a person,does not mean she is going too fall in love with him.
If you seen the problem,please bye all mean go confront that person before you go and tell on them.There is to many people Jumping the gun before they ask question...like the old saying shoot then ask question later.No that do not work that way.Please go and talk too her and say some thing in a Nice way please.Again please do not Jump the gun before finding the facts.
God bless you,i hope you reade this before you went and told,cause you need too get the facts first.
Kenny

brendie

It could not be what you think. Let it be. Time will tell.

mia m

Talk to her and tell her that if she is still into her ex she needs to get pick one and if she can't then she needs to tell your brother and let him decide if he wants to put up w/this nonsense. IF she just made a mistake or was saying good bye to her ex and just got carried away, give her the benefit of the doubt and tell her you will be watching to make sure your bro is not caught off guard..She needs to fess up because if you tell and then they work it out, it will be uncomfortable for all 3 of you..Don't tell your whole family either in case your bro stays with her. He won't want to feel stupid in front of everyone..

rae

ok WOW not even an hour but beside that you should tell her first confront her first and depending on what she says then tell your brother if only you would have caught her before the wedding that could have really straighten things out before they took their vows

criminal_justice2007

I would tell her, you seen her and tell her, if she doesn't come clean to your brother, that you will!

mark

sounds like its time for a secret stake out,with the camera to me,if it happens again you got proof..

EazyBreezy

I would confront her and tell her that she has something she needs to talk to her husband about. If she flat out refuses to tell him, then you should tell her that you will tell him and go through with it. It may have been harmless or whatever, but he needs to know the truth. If you go behind her back and tell him first, she could deny it and you would look like the bad guy.

Best of luck to you. Sounds like a sticky situation...

Debi N

It's not too late for an annulment! If she's cheating that soon, it won't get better!

Tell him and let him make the decision as to what to do.

Red Diva Gal

First you should bring it to her attention that you saw her..then you should advise her that you are coming to her woman to woman, before bringing it your brothers attention!(she should be thankful for that). Then advise her she needs to tell your brother what happened, herself...is she refuses to do so....tell your brother! She should respect you and love you for this, instead of you telling your brother first and it blowing up in her face!

sharky

I think you should tell them both, individually and then together.

Wow its so easy to tell you what to do from an outside view, is to tell him, but im not in your shoes and i couldnt imagine how hard it would be to tell him! But i wish you the best of luck with what you choose to do

baby cayden is here

talk to her and find out what the heck that was all about. tell her if she doesnt tell him then you are gonna

Just in case your not convinced with the other answers take it from me tell him asap!! Just think if it were you and he held back that kind of info from you about your husband.

idania p

this is a hard one... because you love your brother so much and maybe it is not a BIG DEAL after all... how was that kiss? was it really passionate? was it a short decent kiss? was a french kiss? were they kind of getting too far? consider everything and after you talk to her if what you saw doesn't give you all this answers, I would even record the conversation with her, just in case it becomes necesary if your brother doesn't believe you, but please be very careful, never use this as a revenge or similar, i know your brother will appreciate the thruth, but be careful about his feelings and make sure it is worth to tell him about. Don't do it if it was like a little innocent goodbye kiss or if the guy kissed her against her will or something like that. Otherwise speak it out.

Looking

tell your brother

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