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candy0813

Don't give up honey. I've been in the same kind of situation before with my ex-husband. He thought that just because I had children by him, that I would just continue to put up with anything he dealt to me. He would tell me that no one is going to want a woman with three kids, well, I found a man who did, and we were engaged for five years. Five years was enough time for me to realize that he wasn't for me, however I did have another child by him. He also told me that no good man would ever marry a woman with four children. Well, by the grace of God, I am now married to a wonderful God fearing man, who loves my kids just as though they were his own. He treats me like a Queen and I wonder how on earth did I ever settle on those other clowns now that I know how a Good man treats a good woman. Don't give up hope honey, your Prince charming is out there also, just keep the faith.

shammy

sounds like the life i used to live...before i divorced him!!!!!!! there are good men out there. you just need to be careful.I left a 16 year marriage with 2 small children..my first boyfriend i worshiped him...he was just like your husband, i never had hard core proof but i had a gut feeling he was a cheater, i have since found out i was right all along. I was lucky enough to find a wonderful wonderful man and i thought i would be single forever too, but he changed my mind. don't settle for anything less than you deserve...let it go and look for someone who will treat you like a queen!!!

kickingblonde

You did the right thing, leaving him...When men accuse women of cheating, it means he is cheating...He has to project that on you...He feels justified if he thinks you did it first...unfortunately this experience will forever jade you toward men...I know, I have been down your road...I am now with someone and constantly wondering about him...It is very sad when someone ruins that trust...

Morgan Lefaye

Hire a detective, get proof,
than take that S.O.B for everything he has ,will have or ever dreamed of having!

Danielle

they who blame is in fault.I hear this saying WHATEVER IS GOOD FOR THE GOOSE IS GOOD FOR THE GANDER.IF you play your cards right you have nothing to lose

Cheating is the grounds for divorce in the bible dont stay

maxine s

need to know/ be sure that you want leaves your husband,because there child involve and sometime when a newborn involve your husband go through changes.he fell left out.and sometime he might get jealousy of the baby.there was time when it was only you and him.now there the baby.sometime we take more time with the baby and not intent to leaves out the husband.they go through changes.just like women's.explained to him what going on.keep open communicate.find babysitter and spend time with him.we need keep up appearance.i know that there not enough time in day with baby and house work.i am not asking you to be super mom and wife.but just be understand.he couldn't be cheating just want get your attention.

Nicca

If he's getting mad at u for what he's doing u need to set him straight by devorcing him cause if he truely loved u he wouldn't be doing what he's doing, but if u truely love him keep at him about his infindelity cause if u don't it's going to distroy ur family and ur relationship with him if it didn't already.

I'm Jerry

I know the pain.I didn't know how bad I was hurting my wife until she told me.I have never looked at another woman.or I have never let her catch me.Please for your children tell him how bad it hurts.they love there farther too.Maybe he will quit too hope so

Happy

A real woman know when her man is cheating it that feeling that you get when he around and tell you different things.Good luck Prayer will help you too.

ali

it looks like you have made up your mind. if you feel strongly about it, and you'll be happier go for it.

boooobi

put a tape recorder in the glove box or hire a p.i then divorce him but you want proof for court and also because if you don't you will be haunted by what if he wasn't cheating find the truth then leave you deserve better and if you have kids they do to he's a bad example

azura181

sounds like he does, best of luck to you i hope it all works out for you!

browneyes27

you know i have heard a saying that goes like this the accuser is usually the doer. i'm sorry sounds like there is something going on with your husband. your right for not wanting to stay how could you trust someone like this again. i know i have been there and its from my own experience to move on. good luck to you.

belizeigram

Ms. Roc, i take my hat off to you! Im an awesome woman who only have 3 easy demands of a man , dont hit ,dont cheat , except my son as your own. THATS ALL ! I dont understand why they dont understand this simple request until it is toooooo late!

sparkling_apple

I think if he is not already cheating, he will be soon. i would ask him straight out if he has cheated. Then if you still fill he is and you are not willing to work on you relationship, I would leave him.

canucklehead1951

Marriage is for eternity and you should have stayed with your husband. I'll pray that God is merciful to you.

ndmac

He does. Divorce him.

neenee_05

If he's blaming you for doing something, he's most likely doing it himself.

Couple of Cents

It sounds like you have the power to take charge of your own life and not let him or anyone else be in control of your happiness... Good for you, and good luck!

machinerytech2001

Invite him to bring his girl friend home with him might prove interesting

NVR 2 L8

You should walk out with a suitcase in one hand and his balls in the other.

pitmanette

My mom always said when a guy is cheating, he figures everyone is doing it, so has an attitude with you. That way its NOT HIS Fault, its yours. Kick him to the curb, honey. Life's too short to be with a guy who's NOT with you.

proud to be american

The man is cheating on you.

Lil Angel 68

You may not see this answer but, just in case you do,
You already know what the signs mean, if you have a feeling that something is going on, well then 9 times out of 10 he is creeping around on you, and I would not say something like you should stay for the children sake, What about you and your feelings?
If Momma isn't happy, nobody is going to be happy, so I would do what is best for you because you can always do bad on your own you don't have to be with a man in order to be happy, If I were you in your shoes I would be saving up to either move on without him or just put him out either way It's about you and your children.
The only thing I wouldn't do is just try to close my heart off from love, just because you have met a couple of dummies do not mean that all men are like that, I was in a relationship for over 15 yrs. that was really bad and almost lost out on the best thing to ever happen to me my present husband, he to was in a bad relationship, the only thing that came out of it was the two daughters that he had, that are mines now to.

aol_said_so

BEFORE YOU ALL JUIMP READ ALL OF THIS POST......
sounds like your husband is what us men call - a stud

Of course thats bad for you because you feel hurt by his apparent lack of respect for you.

But sticking up for men worldwide and being a founding member of the 1933 mens club society UK, men should be allowed to look at other women, You might need to make more of an effort when he comes home could be your a bit dowdy or plain and unresponsive to what a man needs when he comes in.

That sounds horrible dont it? Well thats what your husband is being, HORRIBLE, tell him he is hurting you and the kids, and get it sorted or go. Why live a bad life when you can fix things like this? Communication is the first, tell him you love him but he is making your life a misery ( Not those words or he will fight back with YOUR LIFE A MISERY YOUR RUINING MINE) - so choose better words and make him food and a beer, say you wanted to do something special just for him., and use the opportunity to bounce into a conversation not an argument.

prerana

Time now has come
prove, you are a strong woman!

Mandy

when a man starts accusing you of cheating it usually means he is feeling guilty about something himself. and he is coming home picking arguments with you.sorry to tell you but i think you have a guilty cheater on your hands . tell him your not stupid and wise up honey .life is to short for this B/S . you deserve better .

Pete

You have to face it that he is no longer interested in you. He is a coward and does not have the guts to come out and tell you he is no longer interested, so instead he is giving you all the signs that he is being unfaithful, and hoping that you will be the one to leave.
Works out better for him during the divorce and or separation, his lawyer will brand you as the one who left a true blue man, and abandoned a relationship because of your insecurities and or because you were having an affair. You wont be able to get alimony and on top of that unless you are in a community property state where assets are split 50/50, he's going to get the majority of it...since you left.
Dont be a fool, Get a lawyer, file first, use something like incompatibility of temperament as a reason and ask for alimony and child support too (if there are kids)...And, if you really suspect him of cheating have the lawyer get a detective to follow him around and check and use that in the case.It sounds like dirty pool to do something like this, but, you need to realize, what you invested in this marriage is yours to take, if he is cheating.

lul2t

Well if he is starting fights for no reason then it is possible he is looking for a easy way out and a way to put the blame on you for causing the breakdown of your relationship I have been there and I am not proud to say but that is how I got out. Felt right at the time but very wrong after.

cris

the accuser is the doer,. he is trying to start fights with you so u leave him,.so he can be with his mistress,...
u need to find urself a decent man and ditch that loser,..

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