I recently foud my wife cheated on me, what should I do?

Gosh! she cheated on you after only being married for one year. You have every right to feel the emotions you are having. I hate that you are having to go through this.
I can't tell you to leave your wife -- that is for you to decide. I suggest you both go to counseling separately and together. Give yourself some time to grieve over the lose of trust between you. If after a period of time with counseling and time to think about your marriage and how you will cope, you will be in a better frame of mind to decide. Take care and good luck.

~just_jd~

if you love her then only you have the answer to that question. you can easily forgive , no problem. but you will have this to remember every day ...that you are with her. it is like a slap in the face everytime you look at her. it will be very hard to forget this happened. so hard , that it will be hard to look at her sometimes.

robdob

Try going to counseling with her. If for no other reason, do it so you can have some time to think and clear your head. If you decide to leave her, that's perfectly acceptable in this situation, but I would give it a few weeks thought at least.

Dick Tater

sounds like you both need counselling and not just her. If you feel in your heart that you can get past this, then by all means, give it another go. If you can't simply tell her that your trust is gone and you're hurt.

If you want to work it out then both of you will have to work hard on staying together. Marriage isn't easy..

Jack Daniels

My life time of golden experience says------->

Trust is there only for once.
If trust is broken then the only thing left is a compromise.

Can you do it?

mudzack2

Don't ask god because he does not exist. Anyone who says to ask god is never a good person to ask any question. Get rid of her. One year, come on. You think this is the last time or the smallest problem. It was a long date that ended before you had kids. Better babes are waiting.

john d

ok been here done this before. my friend the thing is if she loved you so much she would never ever have done it i left my ex wife for the same reason now i am remarried 4 years been with my wife almost 8 years total and i am the happiest . my point is there are more fish in the sea.and i have to say people say go to counciling i am sorry i did that and found it to be a away someone can tell how my marriage should be and spend tons of money on speculation . its a waste of time. i appologise for being bitter on this ubject i just know its not a nice thing and i wish you luck with what ever you should decide

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Do not let her get away with this! Cheaters cheat because they are selfish. She should never ever take her "loneliness" to another man! I would really consider that this could very well happen again. After all of this blows over.......and she gets "lonely" again.

s_reneeus

first of all you have to pray on it, ask God what you should do.

Ed z

Bye Bye.

jude

hearing her response would lead me to believe she is indeed sorry, and by wanting to go to therapy she knows what she did was wrong, so there is a good chance it will be a happy ending here. remember actions speak louder than any words, so before you decide what to do waiting to trust again is wise.you need to be sure she is truly repentant, and she needs to see her behavior has a cost. a hurt heart takes time to heal, u can't just rush back into a position of trust, the hurt has to be exposed and talked about. if u do decide to take her back communicate boundaries to her,tell her if it happens again there will be consequences, and be prepared to enforce them, even if we must do damage to out own hearts.good luck whatever your decision is, perhaps she is just a bit immature, and this will be a wakeup call for her, and your marriage will emerge even stronger after she gets therapy.

CaepeIeden

God forgives. If she is worth all of the love you can give, you can forgive her. Let it build your relationship stronger.

Diana *

All you have to do is give her a second chance but if she do that again even if you still love her you have to say good by cause if she still continue do that and you give another chance she will keep do it.sometime people make mistake just give her one more chance.

felicityhuffmanlove

Yes I tihnk if shes that apologetic , Give her the second chance , in your heart if your willing to forgive her and still very deeply love her , i think the second chance is a definatee ,

VÃƒMÂ¶?RÃŠ

Take marriage counseling! Try to work it out. Even tho it hurts and things, Try to trust her still. Remember No trust No relationship. A relationship cant work without trust. I hope it works out for you.

sweetpeansuperman

first of all you have to stop making excuses for her. she cheated on you, she didn't wreck your car. this is serious. what makes you think she wouldn't do it again. cause she said so?? please!!!!!!!! she wasn't thinking about your feelings at the time she was thinking about getting hers!!!! you need to look this whole situation through. i understand you love her and that's cool. but you have to ask yourself "would she do it again"? what happens when she gets lonely again?? then make your decision.

its_me_horses

"& the truth shall set you free". No one is perfect. We all make mistakes. Its the better person who forgives & forgets. She admitted to making a mistake, she's appologized & is trying to take steps in the right direction to correct her mistake. Give yourself some time to cool off, & to think rationally. She's going to counseling, perhaps you should go with her to show her your support & understanding.

MicG

Marriage is a perpetual series of forgiveness...we all are human and make mistakes...nobody is perfect. Give her a chance and move on with your lives...she obviously is reacting to something she isn't receiving in her own mind--talk and counsel with her and try to help.

S K

Dump her.

bxshorty064

Well i neva been married and im no where near it but i do have experience in the love department and i have heard lots of stories and read lots of books.so my advice to u is give ur wife another chance. i mean wat if it was u cheatin wouldnt u want another chance? u love her right so give it to her we are only human we make mistakes and that was her mistake. so just give her this chance and let her make it work. but if she screws it up then i dont know what to tell u. but for now shes ur wife she loves u and u love her u even said it so forgive her and try to live ur life. we only have one to live and im guessin u want to spend it with her. u did marry her.

Jenna

If she did it this once, who's to say she won't do it again the next time she gets "lonely?" That is not a very good excuse and I'm sure you both agree on that.
I've been married 4 years and my husband works ALL THE TIME!!! I'm ALWAYS alone....and I've NEVER cheated on him. I could never do that. You don't do that to someone you love and care about. And if she is confused about the way she feels about you.............YOU ARE IN BIG TROUBLE!!!!
She knew what she was doing was wrong and did it anyway. She knew it would hurt you and did it anyway. She knew it could potentially ruin your marriage. It's adultery. It's grounds for a divorce......You can't trust her anymore. And if you can't trust her anymore, what kind of marriage are you going to have?! That just isn't right and I would divorce her. It's better to leave her now then wait 10 years from now after giving her a 2nd chance and having her cheat on you again!!! Good luck in what ever you decide to do!!

jane l

I'm really sorry. my husband knows how you feel.

If it's any consolation, you get over it, and sometimes there is a happy ending.
We have a wonderful (for the most part) marriage now and it has healed of the trauma and betrayal that you are feeling.

Perhaps you should threaten to divorce her.
That will whip her *** right into shape and she wont do it again.
Trust me. Drag it out too, just to see her suffer a bit.
It's only fair and she will actually feel better that you are hurting her back for what she did.
Then agree to take her back on the condition she never ever does it again or else your through.

RIPPED

She did'nt tell you.You found out!Dude,she's a hoe!Drop her as-s now because there's so much you don't know.Call her a #@%&^* on your way out.Man,there are so many women out there for you.Look at it as if she just did you a favor.ENJOY

DKlyde

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