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jude
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i would find out who she is, see if its true or not. i would think back and if he were not home much, or went out with Friends alot, i would definitely see that it could be true. sometimes when someone is having an affair with a husband, they will confront the spouse, and try to push it along so she can get what she wants, but actually how many people get e mails like that, unless something is wrong. confront the husband, but don't expect truth to fly out of his mouth. just ask yourself if there are signs of cheating, or is he gone alot and his absences are unexplained, or don't make sense to u. |
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markie
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get some facts first then smash their faces in. |
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carolcoleman123
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Oh, what a great time to be told something like that!!! Fist off, even if it is true, why would this girl tell you something like that at such a time? First, let your husband see the email and don't accuse him of anything... I have to ask myself what kind of a person is she? At any rate, she definitely wants to make sure the you are unhappy and upset...I would really be wondering what her motive is. Maybe it did happen or maybe she's just wanting it to happen, or maybe she has a vendeta against you or your husband or both. Good Luck with all and especially with the birth of your new baby! Would like to know how all this comes out? Can we have a "Coming Out Party"! |
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Kaya M
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Get your baby first, then confront him aobut the email you got for her. |
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joey l
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first give birth try not to upset your self for the delivery the most important thing here is you and your baby. once you have delivered and your a new mom not that you will have any time for much just email her to ask for some proof so you dont accuse your spouse of false accuzations it will just cause problems in your relationship if she can provide proof confront your spouse and if you feel strong enough that you want to make the relationship work suggest counciling if he says no and says he'll never do it again i would not believe him you would have to find out why he did it to begin with which is what counciling will uncover then you will rebuild your relationship on a better foundation of knowing who eachother are and what eachother want. good luck with the new baby god bless |
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santos
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the key is "were". why not anymore? wait for u and your hubby to start "swinging". |
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Troy Jr's Mommy
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U NEED TO CONFRONT THE GIRL AND UR HUSBAND!!!...SIMPLE AS THAT!!! GOOD LUCK!!! :) |
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rickyefa1981
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I woud confront your husband and ask him about his past. Then if it was in the past, leave it in the past. Then email the girl back and tell her to lay off. You dont need friends like that cause all they do is try to interfear. you dont need any stress over this since you are about to have a baby. Good luck on the baby and heres hoping you have a happy marriage. |
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tookoolfool
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damn! Don't get yourself all worked up so close to your due date. Easy for me to say right??! That's so F*cked up!! It's up to you. you can either wait until after the baby's born and deal with it then...but I know it will cast a cloud over your happy day cause it will be in the back of your mind...or you can either confront your man about it..which he'll probably lie about it...or meet up with the girl (trying to stay calm) and get the scoop. Ask her to talk to you adult to adult and woman to woman and find out all the details no matter how much it hurts. How long it's been going on, how it started, how they met, how often the get together, where they meet, what he tells her, and find out if they made any plans for the future. then have a confrontation with him coming home and finding that woman in his house with you there asking him to explain himself. You could do that or you can ignore it. I'm married and 21 weeks pregnant and I would be just as lost as you. I would be so hurt. I'm so sorry for you! Do you have a brother ar any cousins or an uncle who can kick his azz if it turns out to be true? Same thing goes for the girl! If it was true I would make his life hell! Either that or just cut him out of my life completely. again...I'm so sorry you were put in this situation while you're pregnant! I'll pray for you and the baby! |
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Latino Heat 4ever
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you need proof besides an email....you need to talk to your husband about what this woman has said to you. ask him who she is and how did she get your email. some women just like to cause a bunch of bs when a man turns them down. if he has a cell phone, check it...but without him knowing...if you know his email pass word, check that too.....there are ways to find out. the thing is to be honest with him that you know...and don't talk to that lady....it doesn't help, it will only make it worse for you in your condition. |
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Kathy R
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Don't jump to conclusions. It could be a girl that liked you husband and when he didn't go for her, she just wanted to get back at him. Talk to him about it before reading anything into it. |
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Jacks036
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Keep yourself safe and healthy for you and your baby. Ask him if it is true. Of course he may lie but he may be telling the truth. Don't let Satan wreck your life. She probably just wants your husband. Let's say "it is NOT true" = she wants to break up your marriage. Let's say "it IS true" = she wants to break up your marriage. Don't let her win. |
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una_dynamita
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I'd confront him......get back up support first, surround yourself with family and friends that will be there for you no matter what happens before you do. Best of luck to you! |
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busty bertha
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you need to get proof off the girl and them show it to your partner and look as his face then you will know some women just like trouble she could be telling lies to be careful and don't get worked up because of the health of your baby good luck. |
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brigit4merry
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Tell her you are ok with that, you apprtove and ask her to meet you and hubby for coffee and be friends. . Have hubby take you to the meeting place time but dont say why. .
If she showes she may be serious, See what happens then.
If she doesnt show she probably is lying. Then show him email. |
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boo
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ask your spouse about it, if you really trust him your friend might just be jealous |
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Wisegirl
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Ask to meet her in person so you can talk about it. Find out why she felt the need to tell you about it. It may not be true, but it might be true and she might be trying to let you know that you're married to a cheater. Remember, if it is true, don't take it out on her. It's your man's responsibility to resist temptation. He is the one who made a commitment to you. She didn't. If you can get her to help you catch him in the act, you can use that against him in court. |
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Doodlestuff
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Ask your spouse and gauge his reaction and then what you will do. Some women actually make this stuff up because they wanted to have a relationship and are just getting even because they were refused. Sometimes it's the truth. |
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Lost
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They are rumors and you need to ask your husband you should not have to stress over this the happiest and the most painfulest day of your life it coming and you do not need to be worry about you husband cheating on you show him the email let him know what is going on and tell him he needs to be truthful. Good luck and have a god bless you and your baby. |
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Just my opinion
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Ask your spouse about it. Try to get more facts before jumping to a conclusion. It could be that this girl is making it all up.
It you find it to be true you have to make a decision. Some questions need to be answered honestly. Do you both want to save the marriage? Is he a good husband or is he just a cheater? I know this sounds bad because it is an old excuse when people cheat, but a question is have you done something to cause him to want to stray?(I know it is no excuse).
In some cases marriage counseling could help; if you both want to work on your marriage.
If you find you can't forgive him (that means not throw it up in his face every chance you get), then you may have to face the hard fact that your marriage can't be saved and should end.
I hope this helps. Good Luck. |
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Goal: -6 by 0209
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It could always be a joke. Quick, go rent some comedies or someting to ease up the stress so it doesnt affect your baby. The baby will be very thankful for all your laughter. Quick, your baby is important now, trust me, deal with the email later. |
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binzy86
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First off, why is this 'girl' going out of her way to tell you this? Is there a possibility she is lying? I would first ask her for some specifics. If she says something like "well you remember last week when he said he was going bowling w/ the guys? He was with me until 1 am." Obviously if he said he was going bowling and didn't come home until after 1, she's probably telling the truth. I've known plenty of crazy women that have wanted to destroy other people's relationships. I've also known a lot of men that have cheated on their wives. Let's hope, for your sake, that she is lying. If she's not, obviously, you need to confront your husband. |
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Jessica C
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Whatever you do, don't respond back to her. It is clear she wants to break your marriage. Don't let her do that. Show your husband the e-mail and say "tell me the truth, or I will get it from her" Then decide if you can forgive him. They might just be very close. Maybe she has a crush on him. Ask yourself, aside from this incident how are you guys? Are you happy? If you are not then it's not about this girl. It's about the two of you. If you are happy then get all the facts from him. He is your husband, you should know if he is lying. |
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O.C MiLFy♥
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wow, you should definetly not be going through things like this while being pregnant. I really think you have to talk to your husband about this. Obviously, if shes trying that hard to get in contact with you to let you know. its for a reason; Besides trying to instigate a fight between your husband and yourself. You have to talk to your husband about this.
If she did have an affair with your husband (girls always tend to do this) They try to let the wifes know because the husbands always say "I'am not going to leave my wife for you" so that really ticks them off! And they try anything in their power to let the wifes know.
Definetly: talk to your husband... but before you do.. you need to try to get as much information you can from her. Ask her when? where? so that way when you do tell your husband you can tell her she is saying that "you guys where in this location, etc... " Sorry to hear your going through this. congrats on your baby :) |
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bestadvicechick
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I would write her back and tell her that you would not take her email seriously unless she could provide PROOF. She can mail you pictures or a voice recording - whatever. But she can't just make accusations and expect you to go forward with anything if you haven't seen proof. I have heard of this happening. Sometimes the girl he cheated on gets dumped and/or starts feeling guilty towards the wife and thinks "if it were me, I'd want to know." So, she could be for real. You just have to know for sure. |
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Robert G
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Ask him about it. You dont need that kind of stress in your condition. |
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Texas Girl
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Have your baby then handle it. You don't need the added stress to complicate things. Afterwards, have a talk with your husband and explain what the email said. Save the email for proof. Right now you need to focus on the baby though. |
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svenus
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Option1: Show your hubby the email. Observe his first reaction.
Option2: Get some computer savvies and try to find out who the girl is. If she is some you know, recap you memory to findout if your hubby and her were ever together alone for a long time
If you do not know her, try asking your hubby's friends if they know her
Option 3: You hubby loves you to bits and is your soul mate. He would never do such sort of a thing
Option 4: You re pregnant and have a high level of hormones running in your body right now. Maybe you are exaggerating things?
Option 5: Someone you know hates/jealous of you and are trying to create trouble for you and you hubby.
Choose one of the options and deal with it. But remember one thing, no matter how much it makes you sweat, talking openly is always and has always been the best way to solve situations.
All the best babes.
Good Luck |
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