I think my husband is cheating I want to get even.?

shdwtalker2002

You're not for real, are you? You don't go looking to get revenge for cheating you "think" is happening!

lovetotalk

why take revenge when you, yourself aren't even 100% certain?

You say "I think".

obviously you were not ready for marriage if you'd rather take revenge over a conversation with him.

daj11551

It's not fair. Sit him down & ask him why he's cheating on you. Is there something you can do for him that you aren't doing, and tell him what he can do for you that he isn't doing (including staying home).... Sounds like some counseling is in order for you both.... Good luck....

Twynnone

If he's cheating... you don't want revenge... you need a divorce!

Lady Santa

hire a detective!!

Vonnie S

Why do you want revenge when "you think" he is cheating. Find out first and then I will help you plan the revenge.

Fuzzy

Wow, so many things you could do! But to be a better person and a role-model for your kids, don't cheat. That is very unladylike. Instead talk to your husband, confront him. If admits, tell him to stop or you are gone. You do know that cheating is grounds for a divorce! You could aslo just leave, no questions asked. If he is cheating, and you leave, he'll soon figure out why. But don't cheat, who knows what you could catch, or even worse, what if the person you are cheating with is married w/kids?

trubabycakes

Getting revenge isn't the right thing, you need to sit down and talk to him. Remember your vowels? If you do seek revenge, he will then too and the mess will just escalate and you really don't want that. Remember you guys are suppose to be a team not one against another.

Ian S

The old ones are the best sprinkelchilly powder in his underwear and exchange the toothpaste for hemeroid creem!

saiyuki c

he's your husband so u love him right? You should trust in his actions!!!! it's neva good to start a fight/war...

jenlovely01

You better make sure he is actually cheating before you jump to any conclusions.

blackbutterfly413

Do you know for a fact that he is cheating? I would say that you should not compromise yourself as a person to get back at him. In the end you will be the one that would have to live with the consequences you made trying to get even. Getting even doesn't make us any better than the one we are trying to get even with. Just be who you are and pray that God reveals to you how to handle your situation. Remember, jealousy can be our worst enemy-if we let it.

thechristianviewpoint

How you feel is natural. If you do something to get even it will only make feel like "now were even". Instead, jsut find out if he is cheating on you. Ask him, follow him, read his email, listen to his voice mail. Nothing is off limits. He is your husband. There is no privacy from you. Is he thought you were cheating wouldn't he look into it? If it turns out he is cheating decide what to do then, but don't just go forward with the marriage with out help. If that is what you do, there should be counciling and accountability for what her has done.

Tanya

You aren't SURE he's cheating you only think he is. How about asking him directly I mean that is your spouse right? People are so quick to always assume the worst and revenge is always first to come to mind. Maybe that should be a wake up call that he could be getting tired of his marriage and either way you do have the right to ask those questions. If it can be saved I suggest counseling and if it can't then be prepared to cut the ties. Don't cheat on him because you'd feel foolish if he was not doing what you accuse him of then the trust issue would be reversed and you may loose you marriage all together. Think about it sweetie don't just act on emotional impulses. You could always leave if you feel that strongly that he could be cheating and settle things in court. Just make sure you have proof to back up your claims!

lisa b

don't get revenge, two wrongs don't make it right. Sit down and ask him what is going on, that your tired of being home by yourself. Tell him ii he wants to be with someone else then go ahead, no great loss on your part. One night when he comes home, tell him that you are going out, be dressed and go. You need some time for you, even if It's ' to go looking in the stores, let him wonder where you are and what you are doing, let him see how it feels and see if he says anything to you when you get home. Meet some friends and take a night out of the week to go places with them, keep your mind occupied. Or ask him how about takling me out one of these nights with you so I can see what is so interesting, tell him that he can have a good time with you too.

PsychoSam

Getting even is very immature. You said I think my husband is cheating. So, you don't really know for sure what he is doing or where he is. Why don't you two sit down and have a chat I mean communicate.

If you find out he is cheating then he is totally not worth it and maybe you should just walk out of the relationship and find someone who is trusting and loyal to you.

Sorry about you relationship and hope everything goes your way.

Take care and God Bless You

badboy

Don't think be sure about it ...........
You better tell him that he is cheating ......

Luv Docta Jay

First off, determine if he is cheating and with whom. then, you can plot revenge from there. if he's wrongly accused, things might get bad. good luck with that. btw, my advice would be to somehow expose his relationship on the side...to all his friends (family if possible). then, if it continues, do something extreme...like coating his undergarments with Ben-Gay or Icy-Hot.

minniemoe

f**k somebody else.that atta teach him to keep his pants on.

quick_sand

hire a private detective....get it on film, then show it to his family at thanksgiving......

life beyond yur wildest dreams

i dont revenge will solve anything. if he's cheating leave him. get therapy, couseling, but why fight fire with more fire?? sorry girl, but i think your values are a little screwed up

Why not me

You think he's cheating? If you want him to realize what he has, then it's important to keep that intact. Your integrity is a huge part of who you are, and one of the biggest reasons for him to appreciate you. To stoop to the level of vengeful actions just makes you like everyone else. You aren't separating yourself from the women he's cheating with if you turn around and cheat as well. In some way, you are just condoning their behavior.

Real revenge is long-term, and won't be something you see or feel very fast. But I say, stay true. That way you know you can always know you were the bigger person. Just know that his cheating isn't because you are lacking in anything, but because he is. Hold onto your self-esteem and poise, and find a happy life despite his actions.

Eyes of Green

Get proof before you do something that will ruin your life. He may have something going on in his life that he is not comfortable discussing with you just yet. Check his emails, cell phones for proof.

Selah

I will pray for you to have peace upon your heart. No, it does not feel good when you have invested your time and soul into someone that breaks your heart. But, first do you know he really is cheating? You see, I made a mistake early on in my marriage and assumed my husband was cheating, when he was actually planning a surprise party. If he is cheating, there is nothing wrong with going to counseling and trying to work it out, if that is what you both want. But, if he is cheating and it is not going to work out, don't be angry. In 1st Corinthians in the bible God lets you know when a spouse "unbeliever" leaves, He(God) is calling you to peace, because He(God) knows the hurt you are going through and He(God) is removing that person from your life for you to be happy. God Bless and I will be praying for you.

watergirl

forget about revenge, it doesn't get you ahead. If you have tried talking to him and he continues to act this way, you might want to consider separation or divorce.

JoeP

when he is out, invite a friend like myself IN, lots of dirty ways to get even

?Whiskey Girl?

The only way you can get even is by leaving his cheating @ss and move on..Don't wast your time

meow

I agree with quick_sand

melivaga2004

I would not get even because that would put you at his level, and you don't want that to happen. That would only let him know that you actually care, and that would feed his ego even more. As a woman you want to be respected. Don't do anything dumb. You are not even 100% sure he is cheating on you. Don't do anything you are going to regret for the rest of you life.

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