I think my wife use to sleep around alot before we got married, but she will not tell me...what should i do?

QUEEN OF LOS ANGELES

WHY DO YOU WANT TO KNOW? WILL IT REALLY MAKE A DIFFERENCE ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HER NOW? THIS IS SOMETHING YOU SHOULD HAVE WORRIED ABOUT B4 GETTING MARRIED, SO I THINK YOU SHOULD LEAVE IT ALONE!

Kingc99

Dude, dont worry about what your wife did before you were married, its none of your business and it will only cause you problems. What is important is who your wife is now and focusing on your relationship now.

JAZY

Who cares its the past leave her alone

Donny C

the past is in the past if you cant live with that then you should not of marred
her for get about it shes with you now

Lilly K

nothing as long as she dont sleep around now.

that is something you should have known b4 you got married anyways a little late to be asking now.

chris b

leave the past in the past because this can cause problems if she did sleep around alot. when you begin to think about it you will want to know more and this will lead to more problems. focus on the here and now to have a wonderful, long lasting marriage. been there done that

sweetsugakb24

Do you suspect she is sleeping around now? If not then just leave the subject alone. She may feel embarrassed/ashamed for her past. But it shouldn't matter too much to you, just your future. Let her know how you feel and maybe she will open up a little to you. As long as things are going good, why change a good thing?

Beth

It really shouldn't matter if she did. As long as she's not doing it now should matter the most. Some people don't like to talk about their past relationships or partners.

rryseloki

wait, she used to sleep around while she was with you??? that's crazy, but you still married her. unless you are sure she is still doing it, you are going to have to let that be in the past. you made that choice when you got married. but that does not mean that you should be dealing with it now.

PATTY H

You should do nothing. What is in the past, should stay in the past. TRUST ME! My husband knew that I had a past and for the first couple years of our marriage, I was constantly having it thrown in my face. Do you have any idea how freaking annoying that is? Finally, I treated him like Rafikki did Simba on the Lion King. I started whacking him as hard as I could in the middle of his forehead and said, FORGET ABOUT IT, IT'S IN THE PAST!

There is nothing that can be done about it and it cannot be changed. Leave it in the past.

Rebekah

you have to leave it alone...you should have thought about that way before you got married but now that you are married i say deal with it

BBq

If you did not clear this up before you married her, then it doesn't matter now. What are you worried about? or are you looking for an excuse to fight with her so you can leave and blame her? What is the worry? She chose you and she's with you. It's ancient history and since she was not with you back then, it isn't relevant now. What does matter now is if she is committed to you, loves you and respects you. Now you need to respect and love her. You will only hurt yourself in the end if you keep on this witch hunt. If there are other issues or things being said to you that are hurtful, both of you need to go and talk to someone and do that together! Separate counseling never works! I hope you give your marriage your all. If you do, you will have a loving companion for life.

start 6-22-06 summer time Mom

leave her alone when it comes to the past,
you will only bring up bad memories that she probably
wishes to forget, maybe she wishes she never did
the things that she did in the past & you'd only hurt her
by asking her to talk about it forgive her & forget her past

s_sill

NOTHING!
Personally, I told my husband about everyone that I was with before him. Truth is, not all women are comfortable with sharing this. In all honesty, why does it matter??? These were guys she was with before you.

There's nothing you can do. Maybe one day she will open up and tell you but you can't force it out.

ROSIE B

what your wife did before u is really non of your consern. just as your past is your business and if u have shared that with your thats fine but dont expect her to be so free about her's

Southpaw

Forget about it. Past is past, don't try to dig it up.

Mr. Advise = )

Trust me, you don't want to know. Its better for you to not know, because then all you'll be thinking about after you find out, is HOW did they do it ?? Then you begin to not like her because of her history. And not wanting someone because of what they used to be is not cool. Fight the urge to want to know. Everytime you think about who she has been with, replace that thought with something else, like, I wonder how she can please me in bed, or think of your future kids and how beutiful they will look, or whatever works for you.

TinkerBell

Leave it alone........Its the past....... Why are you worried about that now? AS long as she is not cheating on you then you don't have anything to worry about.So just leave the past in the past.

trahub66

it shouldn't matter to you - if you love this woman and you wanted to marry her what does her past have to do with anything. Maybe she's afraid of being judged by you or worse having it thrown back in her face. As long as she isn't sleeping around now you should have nothing to worry about - and be grateful for some of the experience she got ;)

shannon

you need to accept her for who she is- remember what she has done in her past has made her who she is today, and anyway, somethings are better left unsaid- if she wanted you to know she'd tell you. it's ok as long as shes not still sleeping around on you.

Girl

too late to ask now buddy, she is your wife now.....its the past and is irrelevant now......

m v

unless you think shes still doing i would say for get it.

oscar

You probably knew your wife used to sleep around a lot before you got married. You married her anyway. You probably slept with her before you got married. So now love her or leave her. Unless you have children. If you do just shut up and suffer. You got yourself where you are the kids are not responsible. It is up to you to do the best you can do to prevent them from making the same mistake.

Illinoismom

If you didn't get her to answer you before you got married, drop it. What are you going to do when you find out now, can't be pissed at her, it was before you. You should of found out before you married her.

Moon

What is done in the past is done, you are in the present getting ready for the future.

Alibi

Not your business. That was before you.

JohnnyStonehaven

who cares as long as she is committed to you, don't worry about it if you seriously have problems with it then you probably ought to discuss it with a psychologist, because you probably don't trust your wife.

circe8

what's the use of asking her about it? whether she did or did not you cannot do anything about it coz its done. you're already married. you're just digging a past which you cannot change & causing yourself unnecessary pain. you should have asked her that before marrying her. what you should do now is accept her for whatever she was & is. that would make your life together more happy.

Total_Pineapple_forever

ask her to be honest and tell her it's making you question your marriage with her because no marriage can last with everything out in the open

grumpypat2004

Forget about it. Look through the front windshield, not the rear view mirror!

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