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craigblitz
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First of all props on being open and honest with your husband. To me that is a sign that you guys have a wonderful relationship and you should not f*** it up. I understand, sometimes you just can not control who you are attracted to and you catch yourself playing the what if I was with that person game. At the end of the day you already have something great, don't ruin it.
Having said all that, see if he is cool with the 3 some :-)..j/k...kind of..lol |
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Toltec
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You are married. Keep the other man in the fantasy department but don't act on it. Will just cause grief. |
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Jim C
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If youtruly love your husband then there shouldn't be any reason to ask this. It seems like you want your cake and eat it too. |
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phil
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its natural to want something out thier but to act on it not so good. your husband does sound like a great guy and one to hold close. Dont stray its not worth it. Its hard to find the good ones. Him standing by your side for it is good and he really care. Love is built on understand. Good luck for the both of u. |
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You actually told your husband that you're developing feelings for another man? Wow. You REALLY DO have an amazing husband for not walking out on you right then and there. Maybe you should think about that while you're trying to decide what to do. |
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KittyKat
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You don't control yourself because you choose not to. Any of us can go back and think of others and "wish" or "dream" but when we become adults and get married, we leave all that behind.
If you have a husband like this, you need to be on your knees begging his forgiveness for hurting him. You need to get some counseling and take care of the man you have in your life. You have no reason to divorce because there is no adultery involved so work on this and let your husband know how much you treasure him.
If you truly love him, you won't do things like this to him. Stay away from the friend so temptation doesn't keep invading your mind.
Foundations for a good marriage:
Proverbs 31:10-31
Ephesians 5:22-33 |
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Issy L
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i would never do that to my husband!!!! |
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walker9842
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You'll get a lot of answers, but an old saying came to mind when I read your question.
The grass isn't always greener on the other side
Hope this helps |
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Ranger D
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Do you think that marriage is only feelings? Cut off all contact with this other man. He is not who you think he is. They never are. They are who we make them in our mind. You're husband has created an environment where you can communicate with him. You have been unfaithful in your mind and want to act on it despite your commitment to your husband. A commitment is not, "until I feel differently". Do you think your husband has not been faced with this? I assure you he has. There are constant attacks on marriages. It is up to the individual to watch their heart. Cut off all contact with the other guy before you mess up your life. |
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rcsinga
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He's too good to you............ you don't appreciate him and your stepping on him. Poor Guy! |
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Stuck in the middle of nowhere
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Don't be surprised if your husband is making plans to now dump you. Any self respecting man is not going to sit back and let his wife lust over some other guy, no matter what he said about standing by your side. |
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pictureshygirl
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Just know, if you decide to go with the fantasy of this other guy in no time at all other women will be glad to have the good man you are married to. Don't take what you have for granted. I feel you are being insensitive to your husbands feelings. |
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Raintrain
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Mick Jagger would say: "You can't always get what you want. You can't always get what you want. You can't always get what you want; but if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need."
You get what you need." |
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kitkat
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You are married you selfish selfish woman!!!!!! |
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heaven
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omg.. u should have never told your husband that. You wanted to clear your concience and hurt his heart. that was terrible. The grass is not always greener on the other side. You better think this through because he may look now for someone that deserves him and you may realize you made a big mistake. It may just be a phaze you are going through and this guy is looking good to you but your husband may also see someone and then he will be doing what you are doing and not being able to get a women off his mind.
Be careful what you wish for................ |
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Kim
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I am sorry, but if you love your husband, you may have to dump the friend and find new ones. A lot of the time we all develope feelings for someone, they arent love, its lust, the thrill of the chase, as long as you dont act on it Id say you are fine, but if you cross that line, there is seldom a going back. |
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Wow. He sounds almost too understanding. He may be a wonderful husband but there has to be something missing for you to be desiring an old crush. Try evaluating what it is about him that is such a turn on - then bring into your marriage. For example, if he is complimentary, then see if your husband can compliment you more. If he is more affectionate, then see if your husband can be more physical. Make sense? There is no way I would leave my husband for just a crush. Especially if kids are involved. I would also stop seeing or communicating with this "mutual friend". You are just asking for further complications. Be committed to your marriage. It is normal to find other men attractive, but the key is to steer yourself back towards your husband. You are asking a lot from your husband while you figure these emotions out. It is unfair to him. |
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txladybug_2
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ur taking advantage of ur sweet husband, u telling him that u cant take ur mind of another man...that is not right..and ur husband telling you that he will stand by ur side and he will be there for you...look at the situation here..he will stand by u because he loves you and he wants u to be happy. Oh MY God u dont deserve him...Does this other guy have feelings for you? R u already having an affair with him? U probably are thats why u told ur husband about him...
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Dr.Cool
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Tell you husband to get a lawyer. For you, This is what marriage is supposed to be about - commitment. If you can't stop your feelings for someone else, then you shouldn't be married. If you don't agree, then imagine if the shoe was on the other foot, how would you feel? |
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Angie D
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Given time this crush will be over and you will be happy that you stayed with your husband. Be careful when making decisions based on feelings. They change and you may be sorry for what you have done. |
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chasing the white rabbit
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I wish I could tell my husband that I have feeling for another man. Gosh why would you want to leave a man like that. |
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misscancer08
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Try to spend more time with you husband. Do things with you husband. Be creative and spontanous. You thinking about the other guy will wear off. |
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Girliegirl
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Wow. You have a more understanding husband than most (or me even). If my husband told me he had feelings for another woman, I'm not sure I could "stand by him no matter what he decided." I would feel very hurt and confused. I would be afraid he would leave me for her. If he decided to do that, there's no way I could "stand by his side" then. I'm not sure if I could even stay with him while he was "deciding". |
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TB28
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Why don't you grow up and get your act together. You aren't in middle school anymore. |
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happydial
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well it was great he was so understandable, and I'm sure he appreciated your honesty even if that would hurt him, who knows, that's right you should stick with your hubby, because crush comes and goes in the while and than what...just give it some time, jeez, it seem to happen to most of us... |
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DIM
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WELL U SHOULD HAVE THEM BOTH .... |
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