I usually have such a way with words, but what do you do when you feel like you are losing trust for your mate?

We have been married for 8 years, we have 3 children. He is a great father and for the most part a good husband. Problem is I know that he used to have frequent conversations with this one chick. They never did anything, only because I feel he didn't have the opportunity. I found out and confronted him about it. But now I work different hours (overnight) So in the back of my mind I sometimes wonder if he could actually get the free time would he cheat. What the hell should I do, some nights this clouds my mind.
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Thanks everyone for their input. I will try to incoorporate a little of what you all said.

Le_Roche

This happened with my husband and I. I found out he was sharing inappropriate emails and ims with a woman he met online. I confronted him about it, and we worked it out. We've had a lot of good years since because we understand how important trust is, and how a good thing can be lost over some B.S. It sounds like you haven't been able to put the episode behind you. You don't say what both of you did after the confrontation. Did you discuss it? Did he explain why he did it? Did you discuss what would happen if it ever happened again? Until he regains your trust, you will always have a nagging feeling.

ghosai

You really need to talk with him. Trust is a very important part of a relationship, without it, the relationship will fail. And as far as you thinking about it, if there isn't any evidence that he is doing this you shouldn't put too much thought into it, it'll just cause you to over think it and the thoughts in your mind will cause more doubt in your heart then anything ever could. Once that seed of doubt is planted, almost nothing will be able to ever erase it from you heart, you will always have that thought that he is cheating or will cheat or have cheated on you. Talk with your husband, tell him how you feel about it, let him know how important your marriage is to you, let him decide if he wants to risk it all for a few moments of ??? Tell him about the 80/20 rule: you're only going to get 80 of what you want/need in a marriage, so when another woman comes around and she's offering 20, it looks real good cause you ain't getting any, so you leave the 80 thinking you're going to get more, but you end up getting a 20 only, and that 80 is gone already....

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