I want to divorce my wife. Everytime I try and talk with her, she cries and I feel sorry and guilty.?

imonetoremember

Why can't you try counseling before just leaving? What has happened to make you so unhappy? If it's something that counseling might help you guys I'd try that first. Otherwise, if you've made attempts to talk to her and try to leave in the past and you're dead set on leaving then leave a note and go. She'll be able to move on if you thoroughly explain why and end it at that. No string along out of guilty either commit to staying or go.

â€¢â€¢â—‹ PitBuLL â—‹â€¢â€¢

You sound very young and immature. What is the root of your problems? You should not ever just walk away from a marriage.

iyamacog

You don't simply write a letter to your wife, and leave. You're supposed to be an adult now. Perhaps you need to try and figure out why you're so unhappy. You do have an obligation to live up to your marriage vows. Perhaps you should seek some counseling to help you discover the reason behind your unhappiness. It may have nothing to do with your wife.

~â™¥Lil Ronâ™¥~

Sounds like you like to run away from your problems. Try working them out maybe you can get some counseling and make it work. If not don't just run man up and talk to her about it then leave.

Wicked Ways

You married her, and when you did you made certain vows and promises. Best to see a marriage counselor and try to work the the troubles out before simply bagging the marriage.

obonilla24

I don't think just walking away is the right thing to do. I did that before and for a long time I felt guilty and a coward. First don't let her manipulate her by crying. Is she alone? (family) how long together? what caused your unhappiness? sit down and mutually agree to speak the truth and try not to be hurtful listen to her and use softer words. remember is not easy accepting the fact of been left behind as a used tissue.

WiSh I WeRe iN EnGLaND :P

Noooooo. You need to have a good clear conversation with her. You need to tell her how you feel, know how she feels and find the real problem. Try your hardest to fix the relationship cause it just seems like ur giving up way to fast and being lazy about trying to fix anything. Talk to her about going to see a marriage counsellor. Take her out to a nice dinner and just bring back the old feelings.
good luck :)

stupendous

I would say that writing a letter might not seem the "manly" way of leaving, but who cares.

When you write a letter to someone, you are usually in a comfortable environment, are calm, have collected your thoughts, and can say what you want to without getting an immediate response. Not everyone has the ability to say clearly and concisely what they want to in a written letter, but that doesn't matter.

Writing will help you work through it, you will think about what you want to say, and why you want to say it.

When she reads it, you will not be there to add emotional distress or discomfort. She will have time to really soak in what it is you are trying to say. Eventually there will be a confrontation, and it might be painful and deeply emotional, but the ground work will have been laid.

Personally, what I would say to you is this. Write a letter to her and explain exactly how you feel about her. Tell her what you like about her, and what you dislike. Tell her what irritates you about her, and tell her what she does that pleases you. At the end of the letter, read it yourself, and if you still feel like it can't be worked out between the two of you, then tell her you want out.

amyhpete

If you are this guilty over her sadness then you must still care about her. When you married her, you didn't say, "For better or worse, just as long as I'm constantly happy."

You can demand that she cooperate with you and work on your issues. Whatever you're unsatisfied with, tell her you want to go to counseling to work on those issues. Give it six months, even a year -- you did sign up for life after all -- and see where you are at that time.

Good luck to you, sir.

just me

You can write a letter just so that you know you have said everything you wanted to say BUT i do not suggest just saying here is a letter i wrote im leaving this will explain why... thats taking the cowards way out.. you have to talk to her.. if she cries she cries.. get over it.. if you really want out feeling guilty and her crying should not stop you..

Claydog

Marriage is not having a bf/gf relationship, it's a commitment between to people who are saying ( I am you ,you are me, we share life as we know it through each others eyes. We have our own ideas,and will always share our understandings. weather we agree or not. It is our individuality that attracted us to each other, will keep us together. We are family, friends, lovers, and companions. Nothing comes between that. Not even, our individuality) Some times you should just take vacations apart from each other. It makes for good conversation, and helps keep interest also. I know you care for her because you haven't left yet. Give your marriage a chance. Talk your problems out. Good Luk

jackson

You have to go to it. The default here is your inability to do so either way. That is why you have a crappy marriage no matter what has transpired.

Wishy washy is not the way to be. This is not a girlfriend but your flippin wife. If you are unable to be a man, want to just leave a letter and scoot you just let her go so she can find a real man.

And you yourself can learn something from all of this and the next time you are in a relationship you will know what to do.

She cries? I am not trying to be a butt. You need to make it cut and dry for anything to change..... but you need to listen as well.

mrk

Do what you need to do. A note is a cowards way but some just let their lawyer serve papers

Big J

Man up. Tell her your feelings, and then leave.

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