I want to know how can i break up with my married girlfriend?

Willow Beach

Oh , just do it please, don't wait anymore, we all make mistakes from time to time but you don't have to punish yourself anymore than you have, I'm glad you considered her husband , if not before at least now, it doesn't matter how you do it, you just have to do it for yourself, you said you don't want to be with her forever so just do it.

cherrypopsickle2000

What do you mean she will not allow you to break it off with her??? She is the one that is married not you. You are single, got involved with a married woman, had your fun and now you wanna bounce..So just do it.

So what! if she says that she will hurt herself and destroy her life, she is a grown *** woman, that will be her decision and her choice. She told you that line so you can feel sorry for her.

Stand up for yourself and walk out of her life for good. Change your phone number, remain distant and avoid her at all times because once you make contact, that's it, she's got you again.

Stop falling for her tricks, if you really want to move on, then do it and stop making excuses for her. Leave before her man finds out the truth about you!

during your next relationship, try to make a habit of dating single women, you know, the one's that are not attached men. you don't want to make a habit of dating married women, because you never know the type of husband she may have, he might be the one to go crazy on your ***..so go the Single route!

evangeline

Shes manipulating you.What a cow!! Dont believe her lies about getting a divorce, shes a control freak. You need to take control of this situation once and for all. Do NOT be afraid of her, believe me shes more scared of her man finding out about what shes up to. Tell her in no uncertain terms that you "need" to tell her husband, because you feel SO guilty and just cant be silent any longer.... say it like you mean it. You wont see her for dust. Good luck in getting rid of this awful cow!

cowboy

Leave and get a restraining order.

star2pilot

My god in heaven, either people donâ€™t know how to read, or they donâ€™t care about people if they are up to no good.
You are in one sour pickle jar, my friend. Do not heed the other advice and just tell her. she is probably in a self-harming emotional state. Yes, sheâ€™s a cheater and she is manipulating you, but sheâ€™d probably harm herself given the right incentive. BTW, shame on you both. Sorry, I had to get that out.
Now, your best course of action is to get in tight with the husband, tell him that his wife has communicated to you that she is having suicidal ideations. He can have her committed. Once she is safe and in a therapeutic environment, you can let the cat out of the bag. The husband will be less likely to beat you or kill you because of the concern you showed for his wifeâ€™s well being. At least she will be safe and you donâ€™t have to carry her blood on your hands.

Melissa M

Well, maybe you could try telling her exactly what you were telling the readers in paragraph 2 of your question. As for her telling you that she's going to hurt herself if you break up with her, she's probably bluffing. She might just be saying that so you will stay with her longer. You might also try explaining to her that it would be impossible for her to divorce her husband and live with you, because your situation won't allow marriage. I hope things work out. Good Luck!

Drey M

Just tell her it is over.That she isn't your type of person that you would want to marry. Tell her she is on her own if she divorces her husband. And then STOP all communications. If she calls hang up right away. If she comes over slam the door in her face. Good luck.

Katze

Sounds like you both are married cheaters, because you said your situation doesn't allow you to think of marriage. I can't believe you met her husband and actally can look into his eyes, while having an affair with his wife. Yes, you got yourself in a hole and now its time to get out of it fast. Tell your mistress its over and she should stop maninupaliting and controlling your life. Tell her the truth about your feelings. If you have a wife you might confess, because your girlfriend is sick and might hurt you or your wife. Its time to take full responsibilty of your actions, whatever the outcome might be you coward.

Dani

You have all the answers - you just have to do it and move on.

Don't let her have the emotion black mailed on you. I have guessed that she is older than you. Cut off all connections and contact from her. Move house and change your number, if you can get an overseas posting job, take it.

j t

Be firm in wanting to break up with her. Tell her she has a good husband and it's not right to continue the relationship. LEAVE HER and never ever take a married person to have a relationship. It will not only hurt you but also others too especially when they have children.

Steven L

Tough thing to do, but you have to ignore the threats of hurting her self... You can't be held hostage in a really bad situation because you are afraid of what she may do to herself..

CowboyBill

Find a very tall bridge and JUMP off, a$$wipe.

sassysmrtnsexy69

stop taking her calls don't answer the door. Just pretend she doesn't exist. If you have tried in the past and she won't listen she never will. End it now before she really does something out of fatal attraction. Or tells the hubbie herself. you don't want to be stuck with her forever. In the future don't date married women.

guess

In the first place ,,,What are you doing with a married woman?...If I were you I wouldn't marry her because if she's doing this to her husband she'll do it to you in later life......Get someone that will appreciate a human being...I feel more for the husband then for you or her ,,,,GET A LIFE AND A SINGLE GIRL..........!!!!!!!!!!

HERMAN K

Dear Boy,

If she is not the type you want to marry to . Just choose the Tree of Life go on Your way. And don't look back.

This contact can destroy you.

murkymom

i suggest you tell her husband and move on never looking back

ms01

I think you should break it off. Tell her you should never have got involved with her because she is married. Tell her you are not the one soul mate for her. if she gets crazy get a restraining order. Don't feel sorry for her and stay with her because of that . your just making things worse.

Cookie48

She sounds controlling and manipulative....You have no legal ties with her! Although it may be hard to walk away you must do it.....If she wants to hurt herself she will do it regardless. Leave to free yourself of this bondage and adultery!

ladyrena12

tell her that you want out and that you are going to tell her husband and if she treatens to harm herseelf tell her she has to answer to god for that it saounds mean but she may be bluffing are just plain ignore her hide from her are just tell her you think she should work on her marriage and that u cheated on her good luck ITS A THIN LINE BETWEEN LOVE N HATE

alandicho

Be a man!...Tell her straight up and DO NOT SHOW UP AGAIN! Remember, it takes two to tango. If you don't like it anymore, there's nothing else she can do.

devil_queen_biatch14

tell her man

watergirl

You got yourself into this jam three years ago when you first started seeing a married woman. If you were that clever back then, certainly you are just as clever now and can figure out a solution. Good Luck!

older&wiserforit

Well, she's trying to "fear" you into staying with her. Tell her you don't want to see her anymore, that her husband is a nice guy and you will NOT break up her marriage. Tell her if she wants to divorce him, fine, but don't do it for you, because you don't want to be in her life anymore. This really has gone on for too too long now, I'm sure you know that. She will regret what she has done. She has destroyed her life by having an affair. But she wants to make you feel responsible. Your in the wrong as well, as you well know. You should have never gotten involved with a married women. Your going to have to be straight up with her and just get out of the picture real quick. You don't want to marry her you said because she is not the type of women you want to marry. Well, no, she's not, she cheated with you, didn't she? See what I'm saying. Your a part of this. Your just going to have to be honest with her, leave and never look back. Hope you don't live in a small town where you might run into each other. You may have to change your phone number and move in the long run. Hope it works out for you.

davbig2

just piss her off

Sarah

Just tell her it's over. She isn't in charge of you, and that she should be paying attention to her marriage, and letting you live your life. Don't date married women; you'll get into very hot water if the husband finds out.

chlango1

just tell her to leave and if she try to hurt herself thats her problem not you but in the other hand it is you problem for being involved with a woman the is married and now you become the cause of her wanting to destroy her marrieage so you shot feel ashamed, and go and ask god for forgivines

eyeque195

If you really want to end the relationship, walk away. Her threats of harming herself are just that, an attempt to control you and keep you where she wants you. If you can't bring yourself to end it, tell her husband. When he kills you, you'll have no more problems, will you.

Adorable Mrs

Put an end...... You have to be heartless at this point and tell her "You aren't my type of marriage partner and there is no point for you to forgo your present marriage for the sake of me. I'll never marry you and I'm sorry... I hope from now onwards, I prefer not to meet each other". "If you thinking to hurt yourself just to make me feel guilty, then you're in wrong because I'll feel nothing no matter how foolish acts you are going to do".

Take this advise or you can choose to ignore - but if you keeping to drag on and on, it only brings harm and suffer for both of you and her husband is a real victim who doesn't deserve such treatment from anyone of you. Be sensible and mature..

vpsinbad50

SHE IS VERY MANIPULATING AND SHE IS CONTROLLING YOU . WHEN YOU TELL HER YOU ARE THROUGH WITH HER AND THE RELATIONSHIP IS OVER . AND , SHE STARTS I WILL HURT MYSELF , YADAYADAYADA , TELL HER THIS IS WHY I DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU , YOUR NUTS . KILL YOURSELF ON YOUR TIME NOT MINE . CALL HER BLUFF . SHE WON'T DO ANYTHING . SHE'S ONE SICK PUPPY

martha33

I tell you what, years and years of people making these same mistakes and no one learning from them. She married the relationship never should have started. Now that you are here. Let's see what you can do.

1. Ignore her self pity cries. She will not injure herself. She has found a way to keep holding on and you are falling for it.

2. Accept her living together proposal and get used to her doing this type of thing for the rest of your life.

3. Grow up be a man and go to her husband. This is a very brave step. Be sure you have thought this out first. And your medical insurance is paid up (just in case)

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